mazhai23 Posted April 19, 2006 Posted April 19, 2006 i dont want to attack on men, but sex is the reason for MM's cheating
WonderingNow Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Hi everyone...thanks for all your input on my subject. Well, we did get together a couple weeks ago and slept together. It happened to be the right time and the right circumstances. I have no regrets that it happened. We are still in touch but of course things have changed. He says he has no regrets either. Here's the thing though that I hope you can shed some light on: he says he has no regrets and we still talk and email but there's no more "miss you's" or sexy talk in our emails. Is that because there's no more chase? I know men enjoy that chase. I asked him if he wanted to talk about anything and he said "nope. everythings fine." I either really freaked him out (which I don't think I did) or this is how he really is? Is this unusual? I've never been in this situation so I don't know..... Again, I'm not after him to leave his wife and I wouldn't leave my husband either. Has anyone ever experienced this?
lovernotafighter Posted April 29, 2006 Posted April 29, 2006 Hi everyone...thanks for all your input on my subject. Well, we did get together a couple weeks ago and slept together. It happened to be the right time and the right circumstances. I have no regrets that it happened. We are still in touch but of course things have changed. He says he has no regrets either. Here's the thing though that I hope you can shed some light on: he says he has no regrets and we still talk and email but there's no more "miss you's" or sexy talk in our emails. Is that because there's no more chase? I know men enjoy that chase. I asked him if he wanted to talk about anything and he said "nope. everythings fine." I either really freaked him out (which I don't think I did) or this is how he really is? Is this unusual? I've never been in this situation so I don't know..... Again, I'm not after him to leave his wife and I wouldn't leave my husband either. Has anyone ever experienced this? me and my MM used to talk sex to death and we don't anymore either...but we do tell each other we miss each other very much..but that is because our PA is a snowballing EA sort of speak. so e-mails are getting more heart felt with very little or no sex talk..I know at first we built up sex so much we never could meet our expectations..now it's mind blowing and rarely discussed..I don't know why or what to tell ya..but this is my experience with this...odd hell yes! with us the mystery is gone so that might be it..but the sex is getting better because we are falling harder in love,at least that's what I think.
stillhere Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Call me what you want, but my relationship with my MM started out with only sex, then the emotional started afterwards. I was ok with just sex at first, but it soon escalated. DON'T DO IT! When you kiss him and look into his eyes during sex, you will be lost and there's no turning back from that. Believe me, i know. Walk away from him now.
RealityCheck Posted April 30, 2006 Posted April 30, 2006 Hell Yeah! Sex changes everything!! It is true, that the sex just becomes more passionate and more intense with each encounter just as the feelings do! Before you know it, your hooked line, and sinker! I'm sure others will agree who are in this situation that we all fell hard and fast probably more so than any other single on single situation.
movinon05 Posted May 1, 2006 Posted May 1, 2006 Hi everyone...thanks for all your input on my subject. Well, we did get together a couple weeks ago and slept together. It happened to be the right time and the right circumstances. I have no regrets that it happened. We are still in touch but of course things have changed. He says he has no regrets either. Here's the thing though that I hope you can shed some light on: he says he has no regrets and we still talk and email but there's no more "miss you's" or sexy talk in our emails. Is that because there's no more chase? I know men enjoy that chase. I asked him if he wanted to talk about anything and he said "nope. everythings fine." I either really freaked him out (which I don't think I did) or this is how he really is? Is this unusual? I've never been in this situation so I don't know..... Again, I'm not after him to leave his wife and I wouldn't leave my husband either. Has anyone ever experienced this? Looks to me like he just got the physical aspect out of his system. Like he did it and now it doesn't have that allure anymore. And the chase is over. What's happening now?
WonderingNow Posted May 27, 2006 Posted May 27, 2006 Well, it's been a while ladies and here's what happened. We finally had a good talk and he said he's scared of everything. We were going to get together another time, but he backed out. He wanted to continue emailing and talking on the phone but that hurt too much so I put some distance between us...NC. He called and said "I thought we were going to email and talk" so I'm really trying now to be a friend. There are no miss you's, no sex talk, nothing like that. I'm not initiating anything, and now we're emailing and seeing how each other is doing. Sad, but that's life. Maybe a friendship was all there really was or he definitely "used" me to get sex and thats it. Should I continue just to be his friend? Has anyone been through this and remained friends with the MM?
SoleMate Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 No, don't be his "friend". I think you got off easy. A quick "fling" and then a soft dump. Now you can move on. You're not in thrall for the next 5, 10, 20 years. Good on ya!
Jessie61 Posted May 28, 2006 Posted May 28, 2006 No, don't be his "friend". I think you got off easy. A quick "fling" and then a soft dump. Now you can move on. You're not in thrall for the next 5, 10, 20 years. Good on ya! I agree.... If this is it, then you really got off lightly! Count yourself lucky! No, don't be friends with him. You would only end up hurt, confused or both.
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