gfto Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 I strongly agree with alpha's first reply on this thread. This "relationship" is OVER, FINISHED. Her interest level in you is in that zone where she's still with you only in a technical sense; in reality, she's finished with you. (She has been finished with you at least since that first karoake incident way back when.) She simply hasn't built up enough resentment to officially kick you to the curb. But, it's coming, as sure as the sun will rise tomorrow. As others have suggested, you really should beat her to the punch and just leave. It will hurt a lot less. Don't even take the intiative to "dump" her. Just let her talk to your answering machine from now on and get a new girlfriend.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 Evidently gfto missed my update on page 5.
gfto Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 GOOD!! I just hope you don't go chasing after her again when she calls you! I worry that you might, simply because of the way you're still analyzing her myspace profile. It doesn't matter. LET IT GO!!!
Author tanbark813 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 GOOD!! I just hope you don't go chasing after her again when she calls you! I worry that you might, simply because of the way you're still analyzing her myspace profile. It doesn't matter. LET IT GO!!! I can guarantee with all certainty that that will not happen.
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 GOOD!! I just hope you don't go chasing after her again when she calls you! I worry that you might, simply because of the way you're still analyzing her myspace profile. It doesn't matter. LET IT GO!!! He won't. I think you need to go back and read some of his other posts/threads about her...Me thinks he's fed up and that is why he broke up with her- For good this time. Doubt anything could change his mind to make him go back to her...
gfto Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 He won't. I think you need to go back and read some of his other posts/threads about her...Me thinks he's fed up and that is why he broke up with her- For good this time. Doubt anything could change his mind to make him go back to her... I did read them. My point was that she is going to call him sooner or later (probably sooner) and ask "what's up?" They always do. When she does, most men immediately think, "a-ha; she wants me back." Wrong. She just wants to see if you'll sign up for some more BS. From what Tan has relayed to us about this girl in his various threads, I'm betting the farm that she'll start doing this in short order. I'm simply encouraging him to stick with his decision when she starts contacting him, because it will be difficult! (It is for all men.)
whichwayisup Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 I see your point, but I really think he's fed up with her crap. I think he can do better and find a woman who will appreciate him, his music and not feel intimidated by his successes on stage!
Author tanbark813 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 I see your point, but I really think he's fed up with her crap. I think he can do better and find a woman who will appreciate him, his music and not feel intimidated by his successes on stage! Yeah! To gfto: I fully expect her to contact me but I have no intention of responding. Much earlier in my posts here as a newer LS member I learned to not buy into the BS offered in follow-up calls.
Mz. Pixie Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 TB- way to handle it like a man, as I knew you would. I agree with Art- that crap was specifically for you. You know, since she's got so many guys hitting on her and such- she should obviously have no problem "opening another door" (heavy with sarcasm here)
kitten chick Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Listen NN, I'm really sorry that things didn't work out for you but I don't think everyone villifying this girl is going to help you. Here's what I know. You work on a computer all day while she works in a grocery store with no computer. You broke up with her in the middle of a work day so you had access to the net before she did. I'm willing to put money on you changing your status to single and taking her off your page before she even got to a computer. She probably put all of that stuff up after you changed your profile. Wild stab? maybe. But we see this happen over and over again. She also wrote with that "second" quote you had on the thread that she wished you the best or happiness or whatever. I don't know, that doesn't sound evil to me. Did you wish her the best or happiness or whatever? Probably not since you dumped her and you're saying here that you will never ever speak to her again. All I'm trying to say here is that she's not evil. You're not evil. You two were incompatible and this is the kind of junk that you see in breakups. Nobody cheated on anyone, nobody abused anyone, it just didn't work out. I don't know, it seems pretty simple to me.
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Listen NN, I'm really sorry that things didn't work out for you but I don't think everyone villifying this girl is going to help you. Here's what I know. You work on a computer all day while she works in a grocery store with no computer. You broke up with her in the middle of a work day so you had access to the net before she did. I'm willing to put money on you changing your status to single and taking her off your page before she even got to a computer. She probably put all of that stuff up after you changed your profile. Wild stab? maybe. But we see this happen over and over again. She also wrote with that "second" quote you had on the thread that she wished you the best or happiness or whatever. I don't know, that doesn't sound evil to me. Did you wish her the best or happiness or whatever? Probably not since you dumped her and you're saying here that you will never ever speak to her again. All I'm trying to say here is that she's not evil. You're not evil. You two were incompatible and this is the kind of junk that you see in breakups. Nobody cheated on anyone, nobody abused anyone, it just didn't work out. I don't know, it seems pretty simple to me. During the initial phase of a breakup it's actually a good thing to demonize your ex, even a little, to ensure that you don't wallow in self-pity of focus on the good things. IME you don't have to KEEP them in the "bad guy" position, but it helps get over breakups faster. I'm just saying.
kitten chick Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 How did I know you were going to be the first person to disagree with me?
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 How did I know you were going to be the first person to disagree with me? Because I love you so much.
kitten chick Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Because I love you so much. Oh and I you blind_otter.
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 If my lamb had offspring with your kitten the result would be a terrifyingly adorable creature.
kitten chick Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 I actually have to agree with you on that one.
a4a Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 If my lamb had offspring with your kitten the result would be a terrifyingly adorable creature. would it be called a Klam?
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 touch the klam. pet the klam. know the klam. be. the. klam.
alphamale Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 would it be called a Klam? jeez...so all I need to do is grow some fur and two more legs and I'll get all the puxxy I want??
a4a Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 jeez...so all I need to do is grow some fur and two more legs and I'll get all the puxxy I want?? Nah just buy a sheep and a tall pair of rubber boots.
blind_otter Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 jeez...so all I need to do is grow some fur and two more legs and I'll get all the puxxy I want?? At the soccer leagues games this past weekend I saw this muscly frat dude walking a fluffy tiny dog. And the womens flocks to him like he had free dark chocolate to give away or something. All crying out about the painfully cute fulffy thing that he was dragging on a leash.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 Listen NN, I'm really sorry that things didn't work out for you but I don't think everyone villifying this girl is going to help you. Here's what I know. You work on a computer all day while she works in a grocery store with no computer. You broke up with her in the middle of a work day so you had access to the net before she did. I'm willing to put money on you changing your status to single and taking her off your page before she even got to a computer. She probably put all of that stuff up after you changed your profile. Wild stab? maybe. But we see this happen over and over again. She also wrote with that "second" quote you had on the thread that she wished you the best or happiness or whatever. I don't know, that doesn't sound evil to me. Did you wish her the best or happiness or whatever? Probably not since you dumped her and you're saying here that you will never ever speak to her again. All I'm trying to say here is that she's not evil. You're not evil. You two were incompatible and this is the kind of junk that you see in breakups. Nobody cheated on anyone, nobody abused anyone, it just didn't work out. I don't know, it seems pretty simple to me. You're incorrect, NT. I know her schedule. On Tuesdays and Thursdays she has class. She wasn't working yesterday. I left a voicemail to give me a call when she got out of class. She did once she got home. That's when we spoke. And FWIW, even if she was scheduled to work yesterday I wouldn't have broken up with her in the middle of her shift. I didn't change my profile until I saw she was online as well. All I did was change it from "In a Relationship" to "Single". I didn't take her off my friend's list. I didn't remove any pics (although that will probably come later). And I didn't change my headline or profile description to say anything mean or that would provoke jealousy, unlike her. She even replaced me in her top 8 with the guy mentioned earlier in this thread. I didn't wish her happiness but I also don't hate her. Yes, I'm going to go NC but I wouldn't say NEVER talk to her again. I just need to get over her first. Like you said, no one cheated on anyone so she's the kind of ex I could have contact with in the future... just not now. And I don't stay "friends" in the true sense of the word with any of my exes. Don't let your own experience with a lack of contact from an ex translate over into false assumptions about my situation.
kitten chick Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Don't let your own experience with a lack of contact from an ex translate over into false assumptions about my situation. Actually, this has absolutely no relevance to my relationships because I don't play the myspace games. But this is your thread so I'll leave it at that. I hope you get better.
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