Pyro Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Second time. What is this world coming to? Its a sick and twisted world KC. We could be agreeing again sooner than we think. Congrats TB on doing the right thing. Plenty of fish in the sea that we call life.
Raven1845 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Please Raven, don't inflate his ego. Sorry but it had to be done haha . . .
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Please Raven, don't inflate his ego. Sorry but it had to be done Nah, he needs the ego boost right now. That wasn't easy, breaking it off with her, even though it had to happen. You did the right thing and her reaction proved it. Maybe she will be upset, maybe she won't. Right now what counts is how YOU feel! I agree with TUDOR, there's another hottie waiting for you...
Raven1845 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Nah, he needs the ego boost right now. That wasn't easy, breaking it off with her, even though it had to happen. You did the right thing and her reaction proved it. Maybe she will be upset, maybe she won't. Right now what counts is how YOU feel! I agree with TUDOR, there's another hottie waiting for you... You mean you agree with RAVEN . . . TUDOR has the lollipop that says, "SUCK IT." (just givin' you a hard time). I changed my avatar and confused it with TUDOR's myself. (both red).
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Oops, yes. I did assume (OOPS) that it was TUDOR. The red got me! LOL!
Raven1845 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Oops, yes. I did assume (OOPS) that it was TUDOR. The red got me! LOL! Haha . . . I may look for another one.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 You did the right thing and her reaction proved it. Maybe she will be upset, maybe she won't. Right now what counts is how YOU feel! At the risk of sounding juvenile, she changed her myspace headline to: "When one door close's another one open's.:)" but she also left one pic of us up together that says "So we tried................." underneath. I know, I know, I shouldn't be looking... but still. She didn't show much emotion the first two times we broke up but ended up drunk dialing me so this time is likely the same.
Raven1845 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 At the risk of sounding juvenile, she changed her myspace headline to: "When one door close's another one open's.:)" but she also left one pic of us up together that says "So we tried................." underneath. I know, I know, I shouldn't be looking... but still. She didn't show much emotion the first two times we broke up but ended up drunk dialing me so this time is likely the same. Ah Myspace . . . we shouldn't look, but we just can't help it. Believe me, I know.
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 At the risk of sounding juvenile, she changed her myspace headline to: "When one door close's another one open's.:)" but she also left one pic of us up together that says "So we tried................." underneath. I know, I know, I shouldn't be looking... but still. She didn't show much emotion the first two times we broke up but ended up drunk dialing me so this time is likely the same. Wow. SO she is making it sound like this door has shut (you ending it) and another one is opening (another guy waiting in the wings...Or that is probably what she wants you to think.) I say, go into full-on NC mode with her. Don't EVER let her know that this is getting to you. That's quite retarded to put up a picture and underneath it says "We tried..." WHO the F does that??? How old is she?? Don't answer the phone!
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Wow. SO she is making it sound like this door has shut (you ending it) and another one is opening (another guy waiting in the wings...Or that is probably what she wants you to think.) That was my first thought but it could also just be a feigned positive outlook. That's quite retarded to put up a picture and underneath it says "We tried..." WHO the F does that??? How old is she?? Well, to clarify, she had a few pics up of me and her, but took all of them down except one and left that caption underneath. She also changed the "About Me" part of the profile to talk a bit about her new move and also now includes: "Second, and which I will not talk much about is being single again. Parts of me are sad to know that I am alone. This is for the best though and I only wish him happiness despite our disagreements." Don't answer the phone! Definitely not. NC is always my method of choice during breakups.
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Hmm, atleast she's wishing you the best...That's nice. NC definately. If you didn't follow that you'd have alpha riding your ass to do NC anyway! hehe...
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Hmm, atleast she's wishing you the best...That's nice. Yeah. And she deleted the comments under the pic that was left up that said we were cute together and so forth. Knowing her, she's definitely hurting if she did that. Not that I want to hurt her, but that's a little comforting. I don't know if it's wrong to say that. NC definately. If you didn't follow that you'd have alpha riding your ass to do NC anyway! hehe... Nah, I've always been a big proponent of NC. None of this Limited Contact or Low Contact or Moderate Contact bulls***.
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 It's not wrong...It's human nature to quietly "hope" and "think" of those things...But not for too long! Or is it NC if the EX looks/sees/calls you but you don't answer?!
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Or is it NC if the EX looks/sees/calls you but you don't answer?! My favorite is when people post: "Should I call my ex to tell them I'm going NC?" Ummmm, no, that would be CONTACT, retard.
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 My favorite is when people post: "Should I call my ex to tell them I'm going NC?" Ummmm, no, that would be CONTACT, retard. Or, "5 months after we start doing NC, should I call and say I miss you and can we be friends now?"
CaliGuy Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 At the risk of sounding juvenile, she changed her myspace headline to: "When one door close's another one open's.:)" but she also left one pic of us up together that says "So we tried................." underneath. I know, I know, I shouldn't be looking... but still. She didn't show much emotion the first two times we broke up but ended up drunk dialing me so this time is likely the same. She's the one who is juvenile, TB. "When one door opens...." Why does she need to announce something like that? Some things are better left unsaid. That's one of them. I'm proud of you for approaching her and breaking things off. She wasn't meeting your needs, period. If you are happy, confident, secure and know how to make your own needs met, you will attract someone who is a much better fit than her. Frankly, you should be saying "good riddance."
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Or, "5 months after we start doing NC, should I call and say I miss you and can we be friends now?" w3rd. She also just changed her headline from the doors opening/closing one to "my head hurts!!:(" I wonder if she found my LS posts.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 I'm proud of you for approaching her and breaking things off. She wasn't meeting your needs, period. If you are happy, confident, secure and know how to make your own needs met, you will attract someone who is a much better fit than her. Thanks, man. And I agree.
CaliGuy Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Thanks, man. And I agree. Now dude, pump yourself up, get out there and sing your arse off and start talking to every hot babe you meet. You don't strike me as a guy with low self-esteem or confidence. I do think you got a bit clingy there (putting her needs ahead of yours) so my perscription to you is some partying, a few drinks and: Find the hottest babe you can find in a bar. Make sure she is with a ton of her friends. Walk right up to her and start a conversation. Don't break eye contact. Say something with confidence in your voice and funny. Trust me, any man with the balls to do that will put other men to shame. And you WILL get her contact info, I promise.
Art_Critic Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 At the risk of sounding juvenile, she changed her myspace headline to: "When one door close's another one open's.:)" but she also left one pic of us up together that says "So we tried................." underneath. That was all for your eyes.. You drew first blood so she was taking a pot shot at you
CaliGuy Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 That was all for your eyes.. You drew first blood so she was taking a pot shot at you Exactly, A_C. A sure sign of immaturity.
Raven1845 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 That was all for your eyes.. You drew first blood so she was taking a pot shot at you Exactly. She knows you'll be reading her profile and that's the only reason she's putting things up on there. Try not to let it get to you. She's doing it on purpose. Why else would she do it unless she was hoping you'd see it?
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Now dude, pump yourself up, get out there and sing your arse off and start talking to every hot babe you meet. You don't strike me as a guy with low self-esteem or confidence. I do think you got a bit clingy there (putting her needs ahead of yours) so my perscription to you is some partying, a few drinks and: Find the hottest babe you can find in a bar. Make sure she is with a ton of her friends. Walk right up to her and start a conversation. Don't break eye contact. Say something with confidence in your voice and funny. Trust me, any man with the balls to do that will put other men to shame. And you WILL get her contact info, I promise. I will do that. And yeah, I do tend to get a bit clingy. I think a lot of that has to do with the amount of importance I put into relationships. It can be a double-edged sword. Exactly. She knows you'll be reading her profile and that's the only reason she's putting things up on there. Try not to let it get to you. She's doing it on purpose. Why else would she do it unless she was hoping you'd see it? Yeah. Also, there's this guy that she works with who she's friends with. He really likes her, and she knows this, but I met the guy and he's pretty harmless. A couple times she mentioned taking ballroom dancing lessons with him or having him teach her to shoot pool. I said both of those things would bother me and that I'd be happy to teach her. Anyway, they never really hung out outside of work, but on her newly updated profile it asks him specifically what he thinks about it. I'm sure that was included to provoke jealousy. Of course, it didn't work, since I know I'm a better catch than him... not to sound cocky or anything.
Vertex Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 "The ironic thing is the conversation in which we've given each other the most opportunity to speak our mind is the one in which we dissolved the relationship." Funny how that tends to happen It's like it all gets said because it's on the brink of breakup -- nothing has to be hidden if the relationship is already going downhill to that point. I applaud you for your actions though, you did the right thing I'd say. You and I both have the same sort of "clinginess" though -- a strong sense of being relationship-oriented. Here is my view though: You are only clingy to someone who doesn't want you as much as you want them.
Author tanbark813 Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 You are only clingy to someone who doesn't want you as much as you want them. I totally agree with that. Yeah, maybe to her I was clingy and nitpicky, but the right person won't view me as such, nor am I likely to act in the same manner.
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