DewMountinMix Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Hi everybody, I need some advise. Or some helpful thoughts, tips, suggestions or whatever. I just need to feel better. I just found out my ex. Who was thinking about getting back together with me, still saying she loves me and all that... Well I just found out she has slept with another guy, whom she barely knows. This really hurt, it hit me like a frieght train. Now she tells me she doesn't love me anymore and she 'got over me'. And just about a week ago she was saying she still loves me and she'll prolly 'never get over me'. My heart is torn to shreads. I keep having those f***ing jealousy thoughts, of her sleeping with this guy. Please somebody help, cheer me up, give me some advice. I don't know what to do and I'm depressed beyond belief.
tikigods Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 you need to break off all contact with her. Get over her and find someone that does care about you. IT sounds like she was stringing you along till she found something better, and when she did, well
CastingPearls Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 When your ex says "I still love you, I'll never get over you" those words can sound so sweet ( if you feel the same) and promising. So no wonder you're hurting now, you were emotionally lifted up, then thrown down hard. Just remember, all the truth you need is in the way she has behaved. Words don't count for much, that's a sad fact. Keep away from the fire which has burned you.
Apathetic Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 I know how you feel...My EX recently told me he "hooked up" with 3 girls since we have broken up which was close to a month ago.He is very very immature & spiteful & I know he has said mean things to me before that werent true just to spite me & make me mad,so I dont know if he is lying about hooking up..But just the thought of it makes me sick.I feel like strangling him right now
fooled Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Dew - most of us know exactly how you feel. Have you gotten rid of everything that reminds you of her? If so - then to get your mind off of her, them and what they've done - find out more about yourself. But a book on something you're interested in and read it. Just whenever you start to think about it - consciously STOP. It is hard. I'm not going to lie - it will take a little time. But you can do it.
imhornydad Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 you keep having jealous thoughts? you know what you should do? go NC, then she'll be the one having the jealous thoughts
Author DewMountinMix Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Thanks for your advice/help guys. Your right castingpearls I was lifted up emotionally and thrown down hard. She's really changed, she used to be so caring and nice and now shes all stuck up and acting like a b****. I'm still hurting really bad but I decided to go NC. So far shes called me about 4 or 5 times and I ignored her. But I'm not gonna be her ego boost. And yeah I hope she does get jealous, she needs to understand how I feel. Right now she just doesnt care about how a feel, and thats a big change cus she use to care for me so much. I don't know if its an act or whatever but as much as it hurts, I'm done talking to her. Its not gonna make me feel any better talking to her, it would jus hurt me more...
Apathetic Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Thanks for your advice/help guys. Your right castingpearls I was lifted up emotionally and thrown down hard. She's really changed, she used to be so caring and nice and now shes all stuck up and acting like a b****. I'm still hurting really bad but I decided to go NC. So far shes called me about 4 or 5 times and I ignored her. But I'm not gonna be her ego boost. And yeah I hope she does get jealous, she needs to understand how I feel. Right now she just doesnt care about how a feel, and thats a big change cus she use to care for me so much. I don't know if its an act or whatever but as much as it hurts, I'm done talking to her. Its not gonna make me feel any better talking to her, it would jus hurt me more... Im kind of on the same path as you.instead of ME always being jealous & wondering what hes doing & who hes doing it with,im starting NC & HE can be the one to wonder now...I dont want to be his ego boost anymore either,im sick of being the one who is always telling him I love him and all that crap! I agree,talking to him will only make it worse & I will NOT feel any better & am better off w/ the NC
Author DewMountinMix Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Ok.. Heres the update. So now shes called me like 8 times and left a voice mail that says "Please call me I need to talk to you" and she text me the same thing... wondering if I should call or just ignore her... What do you guys think?
Apathetic Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Dont call her,it will only make you feel worse & interfere w/ your progress.She probably cant stand the fact that youre ignoring her,its time to show her you will not run to her everytime she asks
Author DewMountinMix Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 you were right apathetic, I shouldn't have talked to her. Now things are a lot worse. All she wanted to talk to me about is how I'll never amount to nothin and I'm a lazy f***. and s*** like that. We got into a huge fight, and I doubt Ill ever talk to her again.
Apathetic Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Im sorry that you had to go through that.Take it from someone who unfortunatly knows,it isnt a good idea to talk to the EX,especially if they tend to have only negative things to say to you.Thats my situation right now,been broken up w/ my ex for a month now,remained "friends",hung out and even fooled around a few times and have had sex once,but now? he has only hurt me when we have spoken,maybe not intentionally but still has nonetheless.If it is over for good & there are bad feelings,then there is no reason to talk to them.It will only get worse
KittenMoon Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 I'm going to put in a vote for NC here. Because sometimes it's not even about the bad things someone will say. Sometimes, and this has been a big thing for me, the nice things can gut you as well. Recently I realized that NOTHING my ex could say to me right now, whether it's "I'm f***ing your best friend" or "I love you so much and now I realize that I want to be with you forever" or anything in between, will do anything but cause me pain. Weird, but true.
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