krillbee Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 I am 22, and havent been on more than a few dates in my life. Never been on multiple dates with one woman. I want to change this, as I will be graduating college this spring, and starting to work towards meeting women, something that didnt happen much in college because i was busy. I am interesting in 2 things, I am interested in meeting someone and having a relationship with them, or I would be fine starting out finding a friend with benefits. The problem is, I've spoken to a few women, and they've told me a man cannot these 2 goals at once, and he really just wants one or the other. He either wants mainly sex, or mainly the relationship. I dont think this is true, but if women think this is true, then that could create a problem. As for what I want: I am opposed to one night stands. I want to know a woman for at least longer than a day before I do anything beyond kissing her. But I would be fine if I found a friend with benefits, to explore the whole physical thing with. Or I would be fine if I found a woman I liked and got in a relationship with (and if we did those other things eventually) In the long run I want a relationship, but I'm thinking maybe it'd be smart to find a friend with benefits to get physical with first, that way I get it out of my system, so thats not all I'm thinking about when I'm finding a relationship. For someone who has never kissed a woman before, I'm very curious to know what thats like. But some women tell me that if I show a hint that I'm interested in friends with benefits, then all women will assume that all I want is sex. Also I've been told that nearly all women who do that whole "friends with benefits" things, have been around the block a lot. And to be honest, I dont want the first woman I kiss, to be like that. I'd feel bad if the first woman I kissed was a whore. If its true that nearly all the women who want friends with benefits are whores, then I will just forget it, and try to find a woman to be in a relationship with. What do you all think would be the best way for me to go about achieving my goals?
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Most people your age have been in at least a relationship or two so you're going to have to do a little catching up. I suggest you try casual dating first. Try to date a few different girls but definately don't automatically get serious with the first one you meet. It's important that you date a variety of girls to figure out what types of personalities work for you. A lot of girls your age are going to want to get physical anyway if you go out on a few dates so you don't have to worry too much about that--it'll come naturally. Just avoid overly religious chicks if getting some is one of your priorities. Then when you've experienced being with a few girls, if you feel ready, you can try to find that one who really does it for you and try the crazy thing called a relationship. It'll end up being the coolest thing you've experience or the lamest thing you've experienced or somewhere in between. Good luck and let us know how it turns out.
Author krillbee Posted April 4, 2006 Author Posted April 4, 2006 Thanks for the response, I wont have time to check this thread, so this will be my last post.
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