Lishy Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Here I am again! So I have not seen him since January! Then this week I seem to see him constantly! Even today he is driving past my house as I was walking home and beeping me up waving, the other day he is driving past my house as I am bringing my son home from school beeping and waving. I just gave a half smile and looked away both times. God this is so hard! it is so hard not to contact him, I want to see him!
Yamaha Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 His "friendliness" is not helpful to you. He may think he is smoothing things over but you are not ready to be cordial. You might consider telling him that you need NC from him and that he should respect your wishes in this matter.
Author Lishy Posted April 2, 2006 Author Posted April 2, 2006 I cant tell him this as I would not want to let him know he is getting to me! He is doing this so that I dont forget him and even though it kills me to be so aloof with him I feel that is my only choice. Why doesnt he just move to Outer Mongolia?
Yamaha Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 He is doing this so that I dont forget him Why does he not want you to move on? Does he still want to be with you or is it just sex?
Author Lishy Posted April 2, 2006 Author Posted April 2, 2006 On his behalf I think it is just sex. he probably misses his free lunch but on my behalf its much more - He was a fk buddy who I got feelings for. The urge to call him is huge right now but I KNOW that if I did I would be back at square one!
Yamaha Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 One-way feelings really suck. I agree you have to be strong and not get sucked back into the buddy sex thing if that is not what you want. Can you move so you won't have to see him? Is that even an option?
whichwayisup Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 I think until you talk to him and just spill it, you'll be feeling this way for a while. Always checking or noticing him checking YOU out. The problem is you really don't "know" his intentions or what he is thinking so that is more than likely what's been driving you crazy.
Author Lishy Posted April 3, 2006 Author Posted April 3, 2006 I do know his intentions - He wants free sex! What bloke wouldn't? I see him again today and he startts a conversation with me asking if I went out this weekend and if I met any guys! I said I did go out and skipped over the meeting guys part! I played it so cool - Hopefully he will get the message now. It's hard cos I want to see him badly! I know he likes me and he loved the arrangement we had but no lomger have. He would not contact me now as he would feel sure he would get a rejection!
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