jacko Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Okay, a few months back I took a trip with my bestfriend (who's also my roommate) and his lil sister. It was boring... so I spent most of my time drinking and I somehow started to spend more time with his lil sister, who was also bored out of her mind as well. I'm not sure what happened, but I started to question myself... "I think I really like this girl... but no this can't be." I didn't let my impulses get the best of me, so I stayed away from the situation. So when we got back she started to text message me to see what I was up to... and I messaged back and we started to talk... etc etc. Then one night at around 2am she called me to see what I was doing... and it was one of those nights that I couldn't sleep so I suggested she come over and have a few beers and watch a movie. Of course... when she got here, one thing led to another and I kissed her and she kissed me back. Plus this was all going on while my bestfriend was alseep... (I know I'm a sneaky bastard.) So she spent the night and I snuck her out of the house cause he is the type who's protective of his only baby sister. (she's 19 and we're 23) I was contemplating on telling him for a while and then on new year's day after two weeks... the guilt got to me and I told him because I knew I had to. All I said was... "I don't want this getting in between our friendship, but I think I've fallen for your sister" and he just stopped talking to me for a week. Kinda tough when he's your roommate too. So I told him one day that my intentions are good and that I'm not too sure if she even likes me so don't worry about it, because during that week I told his sis that I told him and she got all scared and kinda stopped talking to me too. Kinda weird, but I finally got it all sorted out because above all else he's my bestfriend and I told him it's not going any further. The past few weeks, she started to talk to me again online and she explained to me it's just too hard and she doesn't need any drama and plus she's confused because she just broke up with her bf of many years 2 months before I met her. She told me she really likes me, but she thinks things are best if we just stay friends. I agreed... but then the last 2 weeks after talking to her again, I just feel like I want to ask her out again. I just have this huge crush on her and can't stop thinking about her. So I'm at a point where I feel like, there's other women out there and I shouldn't choose my bestfriend's sis but I'm not sure what I could do at this point. Part of me says nothing and move on, but I spend every second of everyday hoping there's a chance... the F is wrong with me?
MadDog Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 A couple questions: 1. Why did your best friend stop talking to you for a week just because you told him that you might be falling for your sister? I'd think that if you're his good friend, he would respect you and would want you to get with her more than any other random guy out there. It'd be one thing if you just slept with her and had no intentions of being in a relationship with her but iif you're serious about her, I don't see the problem. 2. Why is it so surprising that you're into this girl? She's a good age for you, you two seem to get along, etc. You might actually end up being a pretty good couple. I think you should just explain to your friend how you feel. Tell him you're really interested in his sister. Ask him why he would have a problem with them dating. Tell him you'd treat her well and all that stuff. Hopefully you'll get his approval and if you tell his sister this, she'll be willing to give you two a shot. I suspect the main reason why she doesn't want to go out with you is because of her brother/your friend. Good luck. MD
PlentyLV007 Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 A couple questions: 1. Why did your best friend stop talking to you for a week just because you told him that you might be falling for your sister? I'd think that if you're his good friend, he would respect you and would want you to get with her more than any other random guy out there. It'd be one thing if you just slept with her and had no intentions of being in a relationship with her but iif you're serious about her, I don't see the problem. 2. Why is it so surprising that you're into this girl? She's a good age for you, you two seem to get along, etc. You might actually end up being a pretty good couple. I think you should just explain to your friend how you feel. Tell him you're really interested in his sister. Ask him why he would have a problem with them dating. Tell him you'd treat her well and all that stuff. Hopefully you'll get his approval and if you tell his sister this, she'll be willing to give you two a shot. I suspect the main reason why she doesn't want to go out with you is because of her brother/your friend. Good luck. MD You know what's weird that when I started dating my friends nephew...she totally flipped on me and said.."dude that's my nephew". I mean I don't know what the big deal is especially if I'm a good person why would it be a problem. Guess it came to be that he wasn't such a great guy and that's why she was hesitant. She told me that I was too much for him and he wouldn't appreciate you. Conclusion being...he was a JERK!!!! I think you did good by telling your best friend...GOOD JOB:bunny: I mean...she's legal...so I don't c what the big deal is unless you a bad boy and your friend doesn't trust you???
933KJL Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 AGree with most posters. But it is an odd situation. I see that your roomate status may change...no one wants to hear his sister moaning and groaning while knocking boots! That may even be worse than hearing your parents have a go!
ddnnee Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 ooo! this happened to me too just a few months back with my buddy except she had too many guy friends around her. I just chose not to be her bf because of the competition. as for my best bud. I jokingly tease him about me dating his sis. he jokingly said "go for it."
TheSwordfish Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 The past relationship talk is bad! Beleive me! Lame excuse to end things in most cases.
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