mrbinary Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 last year my mum met this girl in my classes mum and then we started going over to her house. After a while we became best friends.Then over time i have fallen for her but last night my sister told me that her mum said i was the only guy she has ever trusted because of her dad. I am worried that if i ask her out it will affect our relationship and i am also worried that she willl never trust another guy again should i tell her that i have feelings for her or should i wait a couple of years or should i not tell her at all
MadDog Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 last year my mum met this girl in my classes mum and then we started going over to her house. After a while we became best friends.Then over time i have fallen for her but last night my sister told me that her mum said i was the only guy she has ever trusted because of her dad. I am worried that if i ask her out it will affect our relationship and i am also worried that she willl never trust another guy again should i tell her that i have feelings for her or should i wait a couple of years or should i not tell her at all Any idea if the feelings are mutual? If you think they are, you can just make some kind of move. You don't even have to sit her down and tell her your feelings. Just let your feelings be known through your actions. If are pretty sure the feelings aren't mutual, just move on and keep her as your friend. Date other women but whatever you do, don't just sit there and let this get to you. The truth is, if you decide to make some kind of move, you're going to have to be willing to jeapordize the friendship because those are the costs to be the boss in this situation. My best friend became my girlfriend for over a year but we broke up and now we don't talk anymore. That's just the nature of the game. MD
KrZyJLyn Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 How long have you known each other? To me it seems like you've entered the "friend" zone. Once you're in the friend zone- it's hard to enter the "relationship" zone. The big question is could it be a mutual feeling, or is it one sided? If it's even slightly mutual- you have to take initiative right away- or you'll be in the "friend" zone forever. I have three best friends- We've been buddys since we were little kids growin up. I liked them then, and on and off I like them in a romantic way- but the fact still remains that we're friends now- best friends- and we always have been, and we would never risk our friendship and love we have for eachother over a romantically lustful love. Besides, the three of them are like my brothers... and you just don't do stuff with family. But- that's not to say there was never anything there- one of them- the first time he met me- wanted to date me, but didn't think he had a chance in hell... so he never asked. At the same time, I felt the same way... and I never asked... and so, we never asked, and never knew what could have been... and by the time we talked about it- and realized that we both had liked eachother, the moment had passed... and we knew that we couldn't ever be romantically involved. But in the end it all works out for the best. I wouldn't trade what I have with my boys for the world!! Some times there's a spark, but it's small and hard to see- you just have to feed the fire. Don't be afraid to go for what you want, but don't be blind to the world around you either.
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