starlight2025 Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Recently I was on my girlfriend's computer checking out loveshack. She questioned me about why I went to this site. She was upset that I read these boards. What she does NOT know is that I have registered with this website to ask for advice. She thinks the majority of advice on these boards is crap. She doesn't want me to read these boards anymore at least not from her computer. I try to come here as often as I can because I'm addicted to this place. Even when I'm at her house I would sneak into LS on her computer. Can anyone tell me why you think she would be upset that I read these boards? And ladies I ask you what you would do if you were in my girlfriend's position?
Guest Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 She may think that you'll read things that persuade you she's not a good deal. BTW, it's pretty skanky to sneak away while visiting her to read LS. You need an intervention or something.
Mary3 Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 This is America and you have every right to read whatever boards you choose. She needs to lighten up and mind her own business.
konfuzd Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 She's just being defensive because she's been reading the boards too and is afraid you'll take some of Alphamale's advice!
destination_unknown Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 The only reason i wouldnt want my bf to read the boards is if i knew i was doing something wrong in the relationship and was afraid some of the amazingly brilliant people on here would open his eyes! actually, i think it would be good to see OH on here, shows they are interested in relationships and how they work! or maybe shes a poster and doesnt want to be identified!!
Candied-Heart Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Yeah, it could be anything.. - She may be an LSer, a territorial LSer? Haha. - She may be paranoid that as she's [hypothetiocally] guilty of something and that these boards may make you aware of 'standout' behavior to catch her? - She might just be worried that you're talking badly about your relationship? Or that you're on here seeking advice because you [hypothetically] think the R'ship is going down the gurgler? You need to go on this site again on her PC. [Make sure you delete this particular thread from your history so she doesn't see who you are here though!] Let her find the site in her history/address bar again and wait 'til she confronts you, then say: "Honey, why is it such a big deal? This site is full of positive people trying to maintain successful relationships. It's not encouraging anything negative!" Or to avoid arguments and distrust on her part, just come straight out and ask her why it's a big deal. OR just don't worry and still use this site at home.
MadDog Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Recently I was on my girlfriend's computer checking out loveshack. She questioned me about why I went to this site. She was upset that I read these boards. What she does NOT know is that I have registered with this website to ask for advice. Well now she knows you're registered and what name you're registered under. This is kind of like when people get on TV shows and say, "My wife has no idea I do this." Now she does you bozo! You're on freakin' TV! MD
tikigods Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 heh my husband makes jokes all the time when he sees me reading the posts on here saying "what advice are you giving now?" personally I think your girlfriend needs to relax a bit, what you do with your own time is your own business, and readng a message board isn't hurting you or her and like someone said, the only reaosn I would be scared is if I was doing something bad and didn't want to be called on it
PlentyLV007 Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 It can kinda make her feel like instead of asking her on your feelings or doubts or whatever you post on here....your going on LS. She's taking it personal. I use to get mad at my ex for being on other sites like Myspace but, a website where you post your pics and people rate you only for your looks! Which is every where now but, before I didn't understand why he was on there rating girls when he had me. I don't get why guys go on line and chat w/ other guys...but hey that's another POST!
Citizen Erased Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Well, this is a first! The first time I have heard of a female complaining about her man looking at message boards on the net instead of PORN!!!!!!! HOnestly, you should not have to sneak around to look at this. She hasn't sat down and joined in so she cant judge. Tell her to lighten up
lilly36 Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 I once had a professor say something brilliant (sometimes, they actually do say a brilliant thing or two )....he said when you suppress criticism and curiosity, you end up suppressing knowledge... why your GF would be so insecure about you seeking advice or insight on how to BETTER your relationship... I was always impressed when BF's would read boards or go to the library and find books on a problem or situation b/c it shows 1- they care 2- are willing to seek out an issue and try to understand how to fix, change, understand! 3- aren't just lazy and say, I guess that is just who I am, and I can't change it!
ImWithHer Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Well, this is a first! The first time I have heard of a female complaining about her man looking at message boards on the net instead of PORN!!!!!!! HOnestly, you should not have to sneak around to look at this. She hasn't sat down and joined in so she cant judge. Tell her to lighten upYou know Darlin, actually, you may be on to something there. Let her catch you looking at PORN once or twice, and you'll never hear her complain about LS again!
sazzya1987 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Recently I was on my girlfriend's computer checking out loveshack. She questioned me about why I went to this site. She was upset that I read these boards. What she does NOT know is that I have registered with this website to ask for advice. She thinks the majority of advice on these boards is crap. She doesn't want me to read these boards anymore at least not from her computer. I try to come here as often as I can because I'm addicted to this place. Even when I'm at her house I would sneak into LS on her computer. Can anyone tell me why you think she would be upset that I read these boards? And ladies I ask you what you would do if you were in my girlfriend's position? Maybe in some relationships if you seek advice from strangers online instead of opening your feelings to your girlfriend if a problem arises that may be a reason why she does not like you to go on the board possibly?
catgirl1927 Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 I wouldn't want my BF to know about this place, but only because I post so much insecure, low self-esteem crap, I know it would upset him. This is my venting place, like my diary. Everyone needs private spaces. But if he did find out, he might be upset with me for being insecure, but not because I've DONE anything. It's just a board, jinkies. He posts on sports boards and weight lifter guy boards, I stay out of that... In short, she must chill.
bab Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 There could be a bunch of reasons she doesn't want you on these boards, and alot of possibilities have already been listed. I'll add that I do notice that if I've been reading a lot of negative posts about relationships, I start to wonder if this is the norm, and our relationship is just bidding time until it takes a turn for the worst. As soon as I realize I'm doing it I can change my mind, but maybe your gf is worried that you are going to be comparing your relationship to some online ideal that frankly, doesn't exist. Obviously, none of us think it's a bad thing to be on these boards, BUT if your gf really has a problem with it then you should first try and find out why, and then if you can't ease her mind about it, let go of the boards. Is there really something here that you can't live without?
magda Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 Probably she doesn't want you posting about her. I would be upset if my husband was posting about our relationship problems without talking to me about them first. To me this is something you try when communication failed, not because you didn't bother to attempt it.
whichwayisup Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 The fact a MAN even posts about any problems and asks for help is a good thing...Even if he isn't coming to his girlfriend/wife for answers, he's doing something about it and trying to work it out in his own way. I think that's a good thing. Just explain to her that is a help forum, some fun and laughter goes on in other sections, but this place is not a pick-up joint. Maybe the wording "LoveShack" put her off and she thought it meant something else??? I say still post as much as you want, though you may want to close this account and open another under a new username. She may be reading this now...Never know.
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