Guest Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Here is the situation. I dated this girl for about a year and we were abolutely in love. She cheated on me. Promised not to do it again. She cheated on me again. Promised not to do it again. Cheated on me again the next day. We broke up and remained best friends (doesn't make much sense now that I think about it). We were working on our relationship for about a month trying to see if we could get back together and then she tells me she has been with this guy she cheated on me with for that entire month we were trying to get back together. So her relationship with him goes on hiatus for a while and then eventually she finds someone else who she is with. This is ok, I still have feelings for her but I'm not going to say she can't go out with someone else and not still be my friend. So we stay friends and her relationship with that guy ends badly and I support her through it all. Then she gets with the guy she cheated on me with despite my telling her that it upsets me. I don't want to remember all the pain I went though back then and she has repeatedly told me that she doesn't even think it would ever work out with him and in my opinion I don't think he treats her very well. She always tells me I treat her great and she loves me and that I'm wonderful but that she just doesn't feel like she is "in love" with me anymore. I'm still in love with her, and I can stand the thought of her being with someone else but anyone but this guy who I have no respect for. If it were anyone but the guy she cheated on me with I would be able to handle it. She does truly love me and this isn't any sort of denile and if it sounds like she doesn't it is because I'm probably leaving a lot of things out, but I don't understand how she can continue to do this to me and remind me of what she did in the past that hurt so much. Is she doing something wrong and need to stop if she wants to maintain her friendship with me or do I need to accept that she is going to be with someone I abhor that brings back terrible memories. Thanks.
Yamaha Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 She has no respect for you. She will continue to treat you this way until you decide to stop it. End your friendship with her as it is the best thing for you. Do not consider her feelings as she does not consider yours. I know it is hard but you must break away from her and gain your self respect.
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