jeffrey746 Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 I was at a funeral yesterday for my best friends, fathers funeral. I never really expected to meet anyone, meaning this amazing girl. I wanted to talk to her but we were all just talking and joking around in the kitchen and I really didn't want to take my eyes off her but I didn't want to be that obvious. I got to talk to her for a little bit and liked what I heard. They were getting ready to leave and before she left, she stuck out her hand to shake mine, she said it was nice meeting me and I said the same, but then asked her if I could call her. She said yes and wrote down her name and number for me. Meanwhile outside, her mom and everybody was outside for a minute and said something to my friend and his brother to the effect that her mom thought that I was a nice guy, asked if I was single and how old I was. And also said she noticed me kind of checking her daughter out and her daughter checking me out. Then volunteered that my beautiful crush was seeing someone but that it wasn't going anywhere. When she gave me her number she didn't mention anything about a boyfriend. Next thing I know we are all sitting around in the kitchen and my friends mom (the grieveing widow) walks in sits down, looks at me and says "your about (my crush's) age, you should call her"....I guess she wasn't outside cause everyone was like, WOW, she didn't even know, you were interested!!.....I've never been in this situation before and I should say that I haven't called her yet....any help would very very much be appreciated.
agnf666 Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Give a few more days then give her a call... Too early can mean your desperate. So, if I was you I would give her a call either monday or tuesday. That sounds ideal for you. Just start talking to her and you will find out if she is available or not. just take things slow and go with the flow.
Author jeffrey746 Posted April 2, 2006 Author Posted April 2, 2006 Well I looked up her name in Myspace.com and read it and of course it says she is in a relationship...On her page is her screen name and on the page it made some reference to her being happier when shes with her BF....So at this point, I'm not even sure if I should call...I want to, I mean even her grandma said I should...But I cant help thinking maybe this is just her moms way of controling her and stuff....??? Its only been a day and I already miss her smile and want to call soo badly
luvtoto Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Jeff, I think you should call. Sunday night sounds better. That's what I would prefer. Another point...it's not like she's married. I would call at least....Heck, even Faith Hill was engaged when she met Tim Mcgraw. Sometimes fate has a way....
Dinnj1 Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 You mean Tim Mcgraw is a homewrecker???? personally, I'm skeptical of girls who offer their number when they're already in a relationship with someone else... then again... maybe it's NOT that serious between them. Usually I ask if they're dating anyone first.... then follow up with a request for the phone #... if and only if they aren't envolved with anyone. Tough call... literally. Wait a couple days...
luvtoto Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 You mean Tim Mcgraw is a homewrecker???? Tim Mcgraw can be anything he wants in my book. personally, I'm skeptical of girls who offer their number when they're already in a relationship with someone else... then again... maybe it's NOT that serious between them. Usually I ask if they're dating anyone first.... then follow up with a request for the phone #... if and only if they aren't envolved with anyone. Tough call... literally. Wait a couple days... Yea, it is a tough call. I think he should call and find out a little more info.
Author jeffrey746 Posted April 2, 2006 Author Posted April 2, 2006 So I just called her and talked to her, she remembered me which was nice, she was watching a movie and her voice was soo cute. We just talked about little stuff like family and she asked how I knew her cousins so I explained that, alittle about movies and I asked what she was studying and stuff like that. It was pretty cool and it was really nice since I'd had her on my mind since Friday afternoon. We got disconnected once cause the cell reception in her room isnt that great but she called me back and we talked alittle more then her roommates were in the background and she said she was gonna go to go play alittle volleyball since the college has a court. She seemed alittle shy but then again so was I and I asked if we could talk sometime soon and she hesitantly kinda said yes, I was thinking it was just alittle shyness. So thats pretty much it....What do all of you out there think?
luvtoto Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 I asked if we could talk sometime soon and she hesitantly kinda said yes, I was thinking it was just alittle shyness. So thats pretty much it....What do all of you out there think? I don't think it was just a little shyness. I think she "hesitantly kinda said yes" = awkwardness cause she already has a BF. She's knows she's getting herself in over her head. But, yet, it didn't stop her. How do you ask a girl that you *just* met, that you like, if she has a BF already? If she mentions she has a BF then it will scare you off. If you ask her, then it will make her feel uncomfortable. I don't know the correct answer to that one. Sorry.
Author jeffrey746 Posted April 2, 2006 Author Posted April 2, 2006 ya I dont know what the deal is, I really should have said "OK, well I'll talk to you later"...asking even if my intentions were good, may have put her in an ackward spot and I didnt think of that ahead of time
luvtoto Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 Jeff, I think she's feeling you out a bit. She's not quite ready to drop the BF right now. But, maybe.....
Dinnj1 Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 ball is in her court. Since she called you back when you two got disconnected, then she's got your number. *Assuming* she's with someone else... then you really don't wanna get envolved. Sorry. But, the good thing is... the ice was broken. Leave it in her hands... don't call, don't question her... just assume she has a boyfriend.
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 I don't agree with what Dinnj1 said. If she's shy, she's probably not going to call you even if she's single and wants to jump your bones. Girls rarely call unless they're drunk or desperate; yes ladies I know there are exceptions but that's the trend, sorry. Call her again in a few days. This time bring up that you're interested in taking her out but you've heard that she was involved with someone. If she says that she is, then you have your answer and can stop wasting your time. If she says she isn't, then you can take her out. Pretty easy solution and you'll come out a winner either way. MD
luvtoto Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Call her again in a few days. This time bring up that you're interested in taking her out but you've heard that she was involved with someone. If she says that she is, then you have your answer and can stop wasting your time. If she says she isn't, then you can take her out. Pretty easy solution and you'll come out a winner either way. MD Yep. Sounds like a good plan to me. But like MD said, wait a few days to call. Give her a little time to think or make any changes to her current situation.
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Yep. Sounds like a good plan to me. But like MD said, wait a few days to call. Give her a little time to think or make any changes to her current situation. Make changes to her situation? Like break up with any loser boyfriends? If that's what she's doing, she might be one of those serial monogamists I love to talk about. If she happens to be one of those, she won't break up with her current boyfriend until she knows this guy is interested in her and will be her new boyfriend. MD
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 That reminds me, what is it with funerals and girls? Is it true what they said in the movie, "Wedding Crashers"? That you can just go to funerals and pick up girls left and right cause they're emotionally vulnerable? You'd have to be the sleaziest guy in the universe to consciously do that but maybe there is some truth to it. I remember I went to a funeral when I was with one of my exes. Her cousin was really making it clear that she wanted to jump my bones. The most disturbing part was she was maybe 15 and I was in my early 20's. Yeah. I'm really going to cheat on my girlfriend (at the time), get with a girl I met at a funeral, and make a trip to jail in the process. Girls can be pretty stupid sometimes. MD
luvtoto Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 That reminds me, what is it with funerals and girls? Is it true what they said in the movie, "Wedding Crashers"? That you can just go to funerals and pick up girls left and right cause they're emotionally vulnerable? You'd have to be the sleaziest guy in the universe to consciously do that but maybe there is some truth to it. I remember I went to a funeral when I was with one of my exes. Her cousin was really making it clear that she wanted to jump my bones. The most disturbing part was she was maybe 15 and I was in my early 20's. Yeah. I'm really going to cheat on my girlfriend (at the time), get with a girl I met at a funeral, and make a trip to jail in the process. Girls can be pretty stupid sometimes. MD Maddog... don't be hatin'. I dont' think he's combing the funeral parlors to hook up with the hotties. ...and I don't think she was planning on meeting him. This whole incident was an accidental chance encounter. They were both caught off guard imo. He just met her Friday. They've only talked on the phone once. By the way, why are you going to funerals with an 'X' anyways?
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Maddog... don't be hatin'. I dont' think he's combing the funeral parlors to hook up with the hotties. ...and I don't think she was planning on meeting him. This whole incident was an accidental chance encounter. They were both caught off guard imo. He just met her Friday. They've only talked on the phone once. By the way, why are you going to funerals with an 'X' anyways? Haha, I'm not a hater. I wasn't really referring to him specifically about the whole "Wedding Crashers" reference. I was more wondering about why girls act that way at funerals. And I think you've confused what happened. Several years ago, I went to a funeral with my girlfriend at the time (she's my ex now.) Her cousin was the one that was acting the slut. Make sense now? MD
luvtoto Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Haha, I'm not a hater. I wasn't really referring to him specifically about the whole "Wedding Crashers" reference. I was more wondering about why girls act that way at funerals. And I think you've confused what happened. Several years ago, I went to a funeral with my girlfriend at the time (she's my ex now.) Her cousin was the one that was acting the slut. Make sense now? MD Yea...I know. Not to be a "Thread Crasher", but... I went to that movie with my friend and her mother. The movie had alot of nudity and I kept hearing this little old lady saying under her breath,"oh my..." few seconds later, "oh my..." It was hilarious! :lmao:
MadDog Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Yea...I know. Not to be a "Thread Crasher", but... I went to that movie with my friend and her mother. The movie had alot of nudity and I kept hearing this little old lady saying under her breath,"oh my..." few seconds later, "oh my..." It was hilarious! :lmao: Haha. That is pretty hilarious. I'm sure in her day showing too much shoulder or legs was considered risque. Now I'm pretty disappointed if I go into a movie like that and don't see a nice pair of hooters, a lesbian sex scene, or both. Times sure have changed.
luvtoto Posted April 3, 2006 Posted April 3, 2006 Times sure have changed. word! And jeffery, let us know what happens.
Author jeffrey746 Posted April 3, 2006 Author Posted April 3, 2006 Well, I talked to my best friend whos a girl, she kinda thinks I shouldn't call her again, or just wait 2 weeks and then say "hi" again. She thinks if I want to get rejected then I should just wait a couple days and then ask her out and wait for the obvious answer. She also thinks that she may just be being polite or just playing it out untill she needs to tell me she has a BF. Like if our lives don't cross paths everyday, then she can wait and see how things go. More like she doesnt have to tell me she has a BF because it specifically hasnt come up. On a side note, this was the 1st funeral I've been to in years and I haven't seen "wedding crashers". I was just soo taken by her being next to me and joking a little. I want to call and to talk because, i dont have the fortune to meet smart, funny, beautiful girls. I know what I like and I'm very picky about who I would choose to spend my time with. So yes she has great potential, Also she doesn't know that I've seen her MySpace which by the way totally made me smile except for the "in a relationship" part. I really liked talking to her today, I was kinda mad that the cell connection wasnt that great cause I think I would have been able to tell alot more from what she was saying. I have soo much to offer to someone as special as her. Its also my opinion that girls like her arnt single for very long, if at all...Not that she has them lined up but if things arnt going well in a present BF she may just have her eyes open enough to see whats out there. I'm not real big on that type of thing, but I wouldnt be worrying if I didn't think she was worth it. On one hand a guy wants to call cause he is interested, on the other he doesnt want to call too much to make her think he is obsessed. So in short it comes down to waiting a week or 2 and by that time I'm sure she'll be wondering why I bothered to call at all. And I'm fairly confident that she won't call me (lets just say I'd like it if she did). I hate the waiting game, its never worked out for me.
Author jeffrey746 Posted April 5, 2006 Author Posted April 5, 2006 Been 3 1/2 days...No calls no nothing...I have no idea
MadDog Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Been 3 1/2 days...No calls no nothing...I have no idea I told you. You're going to have to call her. Just do it. What have you got to lose? Don't forget to ask her out while simultaneously finding out if she's seeing someone. Good luck.
luvtoto Posted April 5, 2006 Posted April 5, 2006 Hey, jeffrey. I agree with MD.. call her. She's made it clear that she likes you. Ask her out, or at least get to the bottom of it. For your own piece of mind.
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