choclitgal Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 I've been in a relationship with a man for 9 years. He is 16 years my senior, divorced(during our relationship), and 2 teenage girls. He is a very intelligent wonderful man. what's the problem? we are both co-dependent and I think our relationship has and is suffering because of that. After 2 years of being together we got into a physical fight. I was hurt pretty bad, but being young & naive I went back 2 him. We continued to have our problems and seperated several times because of that, but our most recent breakup was because I cheated. I think I just wanted a change, besides that my partner would not keep his hygiene up(which he explained was because he wasn't feeling loved by me. Aren't sane adults supposed to take care of themselves no matter what? )and that turned me off. We were apart 6 months and I decided to ask 4 forgiveness and go back because I felt bad about what I had done. Since we've been back together I am starting to see the little things that I loved before but bother me now(i.e., sex all the time, together 24/7, no individuality,etc.)and I am feeling more like I could easily be a good friend rather than continue to try to be his partner when our feelings aren't the same. I appreciate the time and love that we've shared, but I think that I need a change. And I do believe it is possible he is my "soulmate", but I also think that I never even gave myself a chance to see if there was anything else out there for me. And if he is my "soulmate" doesn't that mean we will be linked together in spirit for the rest of our lives no matter if we're a couple or not? Can someone HELP my troubled heart & mind?
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