typical Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Some of your answers could really help guide confused souls..... Assuming there are no medical reasons for the following: 1.If a guy is involved with a sexual power struggle with another female, will he be more than likely to withhold sex from his girlfriend? 2.Also, can a guy be in love with you, but still not interested in sex? 3. Assuming cultural differences, Can a guy actually feel "dirty" about having sex with his wife? Can he elevate her to a different status in which he can no longer see her in a sexual fashion, but still cuddle and be warm and affectionate? 4.If a guy is serious enough about his GF to call her his wife, is he just putting the breaks on sex for awhile because he figures that there will be plenty of that in the future, as they are always going to be together, and to allieviate the boredom of having her out of his system so soon, is using moderation? 5. Could a man withholding sex actually be about a test?? To see if the woman desires him more than the sex?? (op gave me this idea) Last question added as afterthought... 6.What does it mean when you bring up the lack of sex situation with your BF and he says that nothing is wrong and all you ever think about is sex, sex, sex.......?
JackJack Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Some of your answers could really help guide confused souls..... Assuming there are no medical reasons for the following: 1.If a guy is involved with a sexual power struggle with another female, will he be more than likely to withhold sex from his girlfriend? 2.Also, can a guy be in love with you, but still not interested in sex? 3. Assuming cultural differences, Can a guy actually feel "dirty" about having sex with his wife? Can he elevate her to a different status in which he can no longer see her in a sexual fashion, but still cuddle and be warm and affectionate? 4.If a guy is serious enough about his GF to call her his wife, is he just putting the breaks on sex for awhile because he figures that there will be plenty of that in the future, as they are always going to be together, and to allieviate the boredom of having her out of his system so soon, is using moderation? 5. Could a man withholding sex actually be about a test?? To see if the woman desires him more than the sex?? (op gave me this idea) Last question added as afterthought... 6.What does it mean when you bring up the lack of sex situation with your BF and he says that nothing is wrong and all you ever think about is sex, sex, sex.......? 1. Its possible. 2. Sure 3. sure 4. Why would he need to put the breaks on sex? Sounds like game playing. 5. Test or no test, once again sounds like game playing. 6. Theres probably a deep rooted problem that needs to be dealt with and if you're not receiving sex from you b/f but he tells you theres nothing wrong, hes lying.
Author typical Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 1. Its possible. 2. Sure 3. sure 4. Why would he need to put the breaks on sex? Sounds like game playing. 5. Test or no test, once again sounds like game playing. 6. Theres probably a deep rooted problem that needs to be dealt with and if you're not receiving sex from you b/f but he tells you theres nothing wrong, hes lying. JackJack 1. How so? 2.So he can be in love, yet still not be interested in sex with you? Is this something that you have had personal experience with? 3.Again, is this personal experience, or is this something that is commonplace within all men? 4.Putting the breaks on, because he figures that they will be having sex together for the rest of their lives and wants to do it in moderation? 5.I agree with that one, it sounds like game playing to me, but is this commonplace with men? 6.So, the GF brings up lack of sex (a new problem that was never encountered before, and it persistent as of late) and he says: there is no problem, all you ever think about is "sex, sex, sex!".......Do you think that could be transference? As in, that is all HE ever thinks about (refer to question #1) only not with her? Or do all men percieve that if a woman brings up this delicate issue, that she is sex starved? 7.If there happens to be this issue in a relationship, does it mean that it is doomed?
blind_otter Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Assuming there are no medical reasons for the following: 1.If a guy is involved with a sexual power struggle with another female, will he be more than likely to withhold sex from his girlfriend? possibly - because his attention/fascination is held elsewhere? 2.Also, can a guy be in love with you, but still not interested in sex? yes - some guys have ISSUES. I do. 3. Assuming cultural differences, Can a guy actually feel "dirty" about having sex with his wife? Can he elevate her to a different status in which he can no longer see her in a sexual fashion, but still cuddle and be warm and affectionate? yes 4.If a guy is serious enough about his GF to call her his wife, is he just putting the breaks on sex for awhile because he figures that there will be plenty of that in the future, as they are always going to be together, and to allieviate the boredom of having her out of his system so soon, is using moderation? anyone who calls theirgf their wife doesn't take the institution of marriage seriously, IMO 5. Could a man withholding sex actually be about a test?? To see if the woman desires him more than the sex?? (op gave me this idea) i have no idea - but I seriously doubt that. Last question added as afterthought... 6.What does it mean when you bring up the lack of sex situation with your BF and he says that nothing is wrong and all you ever think about is sex, sex, sex.......? either he has a really low sex drive, and you're sexually incompatible, or, if there has been a sudden change, there's something weird going on. Maybe it IS physical/medical and he's embarassed to get it checked out? I remember once my Dad was having a heart attack and the only thing he could say was "Don't....take...me...to...the...hospital!"
Yamaha Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 A guy wants sex unless he's lost his interest in you or he has a medical problem. Even if he has no interest guys will have sex if their horny.
Author typical Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 3. Assuming cultural differences, Can a guy actually feel "dirty" about having sex with his wife? Can he elevate her to a different status in which he can no longer see her in a sexual fashion, but still cuddle and be warm and affectionate? yes b_o.......So, they actually feel dirty about having sex with thier own wives?? I see that you replied "yes" in bold letters..do you know of men that are like this?? A guy wants sex unless he's lost his interest in you or he has a medical problem. Even if he has no interest guys will have sex if their horny. Yamaha, I am a little confused by your post.....You said he wants sex unless he is disinterested in their SO, but yet you say that even if he has no interest, they will still have sex if they are horny??
Author typical Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 I remember once my Dad was having a heart attack and the only thing he could say was "Don't....take...me...to...the...hospital!" b_o, your the best!! :lmao:
blind_otter Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 b_o.......So, they actually feel dirty about having sex with thier own wives?? I see that you replied "yes" in bold letters..do you know of men that are like this?? Of course I do. I know a few men and a whole f*** ton of women who think like this. Some people have f***ed up beliefs about sexuality. It happens.
Author typical Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 Of course I do. I know a few men and a whole f*** ton of women who think like this. Some people have f***ed up beliefs about sexuality. It happens. b_o...so these men actually TOLD you that they dont like to f*** their wives because they dont want to think about their wives in that fashion?! That it makes them feel dirty or makes them think dirty about their wives?? What if it isnt a spiritual reason? What if the guy doesnt even believe that strongly in god?? Can they and do they still think like this?? Also, if they arent f***ing their wives because of that reason, are they getting some on the side???
whichwayisup Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Yamaha, I am a little confused by your post.....You said he wants sex unless he is disinterested in their SO, but yet you say that even if he has no interest, they will still have sex if they are horny?? Female here. I think what he's saying is, (most) men if given the chance, will nail anything that has two legs and skirt. Piggish? Yes, but that is because men can separate SEX and LOVE. Can turn it on and off and not even give it a second thought.
blind_otter Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 b_o...so these men actually TOLD you that they dont like to f*** their wives because they dont want to think about their wives in that fashion?! That it makes them feel dirty or makes them think dirty about their wives?? What if it isnt a spiritual reason? What if the guy doesnt even believe that strongly in god?? Can they and do they still think like this?? Also, if they arent f***ing their wives because of that reason, are they getting some on the side??? The men I knew of were in a support group for survivors of childhood molestation. I didn't ask them directly, they related the stories to the group.
Author typical Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 I think what he's saying is, (most) men if given the chance, will nail anything that has two legs and skirt. wwiu: So basically, one could say that I am lower than anything that has two legs and a skirt, if he is not having sex with me??!! Geeeezzz.....
Yamaha Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Female here. I think what he's saying is, (most) men if given the chance, will nail anything that has two legs and skirt. Piggish? Yes, but that is because men can separate SEX and LOVE. Can turn it on and off and not even give it a second thought. Can I ask a personal question, Typical? Does his flag raise around you? If it does and he still doesn't want sex then you need to talk to a sex professional if he won't open up as to what is going on with him. Also, did he have a strong sex drive when you meet him or is this something that has happened recently?
SuperMonk Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Female here. I think what he's saying is, (most) men if given the chance, will nail anything that has two legs and skirt. Piggish? Yes, but that is because men can separate SEX and LOVE. Can turn it on and off and not even give it a second thought. According to the "reality pig meter" Women are the bigger pigs. Think deeply about men in general and women in general. Who gets more sex? Exactly... Therefore women are pigs is a valid conclusion.
Candied-Heart Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 Could a man withholding sex actually be about a test?? To see if the woman desires him more than the sex?? (op gave me this idea) Yes. My BF has done this. I think to verify that I/we felt strongly about us as a couple and because I do tend to have a slightly higher sex drive, to determine whether I would be just as content with his affection [ cuddling, snuggling up at night, tender kisses, just minus sexual activity for a while ] I was frustrated but went along with it. I think it taught us a lot about how we view certain contact. He feared I just wanted 'sex' but for me, the reason I try to initiate so often is past me liking sex, I love feeling so close to him. Which he gets now. I think he can seperate sexual activity with me and snuggling with me as one [ the latter ] having more feeling involved than the other. That's not to say he doesn't treat me well where sex is involved. What does it mean when you bring up the lack of sex situation with your BF and he says that nothing is wrong and all you ever think about is sex, sex, sex.......? I used to get that a lot. And still do occasionally. Sometimes I feel I am a complete exclusion to that cliche that women turn down sex more than men, because my BF can be tired, and not want to do anything, where as I can be tired but still want the contact. I think that's where he can tend to feel 'used' in a sense. I think the answer to this question is that he may have a lower sex drive, and that can be a problem, especially if he's labelling you with it being 'all you ever think about' etc -- That is demeaning and innaccurate.
SoleMate Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 typical...could you give us some more detail on your situation, using the actual facts? The question list has no context and I don't feel I can respond helpfully.
Candied-Heart Posted April 2, 2006 Posted April 2, 2006 SoleMate: I'm not sure of Typical's status, but not everyone on LS asks 'leading' questions on threads. I often post threads on things I have been pondering rather than 'experiencing'.
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