bebegal Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 What is the difference in how you expect a boyfriend vrs husband to act. I just wonder if I treat my boyfriend like he is my husband( example phone calls, hanging out, reliability, etc) just wondering people's thoughts. Is it wrong to treat your boyfriend like he is your husband..such as checking in..?
whats wrong with me Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 depends on what kind of relationship you have and if it is exclusive. If you've been together for years...no its not wrong. 3 months...yes, wrong living together (for any amount of time) no its not wrong IMO!
carmaenforcer Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 This is why I say you are married way before the ceremony. The devotion, commitment, caring, all that good stuff should be there soon after falling in love with the person. The problem with this is there are some people that play the technicality game. Technically I'm still single and can act that way all the way until the day of the wedding. This to me is BS and a sign that this person is obviously not ready for a commitment. I'm a married man by the way, just so you know where this opinion is coming from.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 See.....when my fiance was my boyfriend...nothing was different. When we became engaged...again, nothing changed...Whene becomes my husband..nothing is going to change....I agree with wwwm, it depends on what kind of relationship it is.
JayKay Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 My BF and I gradually started acting more 'married' over time. You just kind of fall into that the longer you're together. We check in with each other, discuss major purchases and financial decisions, plan vacations and social outings together, etc. Technically, he's still my 'boyfriend', even though we're living together about 5 years now. I wouldn't expect those behaviors from someone I'd only been dating a short time. Like less than a year? I think you still need to grant someone a fair amount of freedom at that point. We were monogamous, but still went out weekends without each other sometimes....or did things with our friends without the other person present. It takes time to feel comfortable doing most things as a couple. You don't want to force it because than one person or the other feels suffocated and placed in a role they're not ready for.
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