LDR, 3months now, Not sure about some things about my g/f

[indierockbhoy]

hi folks,

 

here is my story, i'm 23 and my girlfriend is 23. We met when I went abroad to do a youth exchange, I met this girl that I got on with very well and we talked,chatted and eventully got together. Whilst living in Sweden(my g/friend is swedish) we got very close together, ended up spending days together, nights together and really spent lots of time together..

 

so it comes near xmas, and it's been 2/and half months of us dating, and I go home for Christmas, I invite my g/friend to spend newyear with my family in my country and she comes over, I am meant to return to Sweden but i decide to stay here(a few factors involved, i wasn't enjoying my youth-exchange project, i didn't have so much, and was a bit home-sick in general) So I stay at home and she returns to her home... (she's studying at Univ and is in her final year)

 

so it's a bit of a shock to her , me staying. We are both very sad but we argee to make it work and visit when we can, now some 2 and half months, i'm going to visit her in 2weeks time(which i can't wait to) but i have some issues I was thinking about... I'd love advice on,

 

the 2 and months doing the LDR and being apart and generally been good, We speak every day either on MSN or Phone or e-mails/phone text/sms etc. I get a good vibe and we have even told each other ''we really love each other'' and I think she tells me everything, I trust her alot... but I'm a little insecure aswell( my last girl i was dating, cheated on me with my cousin ) so you can see i'm a bit fragile, but my swedish g/friend has made me really trust girls again and be in love.

 

ok i'm sorry this is going on so long, but although we get on very well... and she tells me everything and we both said the ''we'll wait for each other'' ''i love you, etc etc '' all the nice stuff...but last night we were talking about ''it would be perfect ending up together'' and having ''chance next year to live together'' etc etc

 

she has told me about one of her dreams last night, where she was a fairy or something and pirates came to her town, (it was a weird dream) but then she met a pirate in the dream and in her words ''we ended up together, it was meant to be, the pirate was bad but i knew i had to be with because i could bring the good side of him out'' and she sent this e-mail in a fun way but i found it a bit not upseting but kinda taken a-back at reading it, i know we all dream things but it just didn't feel right to me..

 

then she had another dream about , well i'm going to visit her, it must have been 3wks ago that she dreamt ''that her boyfriiend was coming to visit in a horse and carriage(again she has crazy dreams) but her boyfriend was a work-friend that she knows from Spain(she did her youth exchnage in spain)''

 

ok that's really the dreams, I have had a dream about another girl since we have been on LDR but I remember feeling guilty in my dream but she seemed to be feeling happy/normal and thought i would find it interesting reading an e-mail about her day, her work, her friends and that dream she had..

 

ok last thing, it's maybe that i'm not there with her, or i'm being paranoid or i actually have a case for concern.. She always tells me she misses me and overall i would say it was gooing very very good for a long-distance relationship, i'm going to see her in april then she's coming to me in may and then we will do something in the summer together,

 

one other thing and it's only very small but we haven't really discussed the future , how the LDR will work out as for the future, she finishes univeristy but is possibly going to do a post-graduate course in september(2years agian in sweden) we'll need to make decision about if i come to sweden or not or keep trying a LDR, the plan was I was going to stay for a year and then but we haven'[t really talked about it and she never brings up the subject of the future, so i don't know...

 

and my last thing is that , we have a friend , i used to share a flat with him in sweden he is 4years younger at 19,since i've been gone, she's gone to a party with him and she's also watched a comedy-film with her, she went to pick him up and things.... and says he's a funny guy,

again this guy is my friend too and I'm maybe being extreme but i of course trust her that nothing is going on but could there possibly be something?

 

Ok I'm sorry for this being So long and probably boring, just i'm a bit uptight tonight and i really should be speaking to her but would love if anyone had similar situations or any advice for me,

 

Thank you for reading this very long/boring mail, cheers folks...

[confusedgeek]

It sounds like this long distance relationship is coming along well, I think.

 

My long distance relationship is also a little over 3 months.

She lives 6000 miles away from me. Im preparing to meet her in Dec. if all works well.

 

Me and my girlfriend right now also dont know how this will work out as well.

This sounds very much like the situation your in. We have talked a little about the topic of what will happen.

 

To be honest, I dont think anyone really knows whats going to happen, but as long as both of you think it can happen, I dont see why not. Of course, theres going to be annoying questions, like, will I move closer or will she move closer, etc. But it will work out for itself, at least, thats what I think.

 

And as for the stuff going on between your girlfriend and your old roommate,

there might be something going on, but do you trust her or your old friend?

You wont know for sure unless you are there.

 

If you really do trust her, im sure everything is going dandy. If its bothering you, why dont you ask?

 

I hope some of this is somewhat helpful.

 

Good luck with everything.

 

- ConfusedGeek