jgbronc Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 I will try to be brief. I met a woman almost a year ago over the internet. Things did not really work out as I would have liked so I moved on. We managed to keep in touch through email and when she found out I was dating someone else it was like a switch was thrown on. She called me and we started talking. I remember she said on the phone "well someone else likes you so you must be safe". So fast forward to a few weeks ago. I invited her to my house for dinner. She showed up at 7pm and we had a blast. We went through 3 bottles of wine and talked about everything from music to having kids. At around midnight she launched from the other side of the couch and layed a phenomenal kiss on me (our first). We are talking the "I want to bite off your head kind of kiss". So we made out and were playful but did not go all the way. So she stayed over and we spooned on the couch all night. Now the next morning she seemed to be a little more distant and I felt she probably was a little hung over and embarrased as well. The bottom line is I called her later that evening to tell her that I had a great time. She returned my phone call the next morning and I told her that I wanted to take her to a movie and have dinner again. She said definitely. A few days went by and I didn't here from her. So I called her and asked if she wanted to get together the following day and she said she had plans but might be available. So where am I going with all of this? I know that she likes me but it seems now that she is trying to make herself unavailable. How should I play this. Should I just act the same or should I keep calling? What would you guys do?
amaysngrace Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 i wouldn't call her. i would wait to hear from her. if she is truly as busy as she appears, you may wait weeks to get her on a free night. and if she isn't, well then i guess she will have time to give to you a call. notice how she wanted you once you were dating someone else? if you keep calling her, she'll know you jumped ship on the first girl. bottom line...keep her guessing.
Author jgbronc Posted March 28, 2006 Author Posted March 28, 2006 Sounds like a simple thing to do and I do understand what you are saying. It is kind of scary to think that you could spend quality time like that with someone and then have it lead no where. But I agree on not calling her back. Let her do the chasing for a while.
gfto Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 When you have a girlfriend, that instantly makes you more desireable to other women. She probably just enjoyed the challenge once you told her you were seeing someone. Incidently, I have to wonder about any woman who would go right over to a man's place for dinner for a first date, having met him on the internet. That, alone, is a yellow flag. Anyway, it's hardly surprising that this crazy make-out happened....you two polished off THREE bottles of wine!! But, alas, she now seems distant, and you can't pin her down for another date. Sounds like she isn't very interested in you. Don't be fooled by the make-out. Calling her the next day and telling her you'd like to see her again sometime is a mistake. You have to wait a few days (to convey the impression that you have a life), and then ask for a SPECIFIC time/place. Otherwise, you can't tell for sure if she likes you. When you just ask a woman if she'd like to see a movie "sometime," of course she's gonna say "definitely," regardless of whether she actually wants to. You've got to pin it down. At this point, I'd say call Thursday, and ask for a specific date. If you get anything other than a quick yes, flush her number and move on.
Author jgbronc Posted March 28, 2006 Author Posted March 28, 2006 Well you could definitely be right! The best thing to do is to just wait it out. And I agree about the wine. We dropped our inhibitions that night. Hey if that is all I get, if nothing else, I will always have that night.
Author jgbronc Posted March 28, 2006 Author Posted March 28, 2006 GFTO brought up an interesting point. I assumed that she liked me but could a woman actually spend the night with a guy and not really want to be there? Hey she didn't bolt out the door right away the next morning but wouldn't she come clean about her feelings after a night like that?
amaysngrace Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 Hey she didn't bolt out the door right away the next morning but wouldn't she come clean about her feelings after a night like that? not if it meant less to her than it did to you. i would stop analyzing everything. one date doesn't mean she's your future wife. chill a bit and just go with the flow.
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