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So, I hadn't talked to my ex for over a month. He started dating someone new, I had seen them on campus and overlooked it. I wanted it to seem like I was okay with him seeing someone else. But inside I am hurting. My feelings just won't go away. I had him blocked on AIM and we were no longer friends on facebook. I was meeting guys, really trying.

 

Saturday night I was invited by one of my ex's friends to my ex's apartment to play beer pong. I went with my friend and we had a good time. We were all really drunk, I was hanging out a lot with John* and it was making my ex pretty jealous. He would look at me and I would see longing in his eyes. After about 2-3 hours we all decide to go get something to eat. My ex's gf stayed behind and so at the restaurant my ex held me in his arms and kissed my cheek. I kissed his cheek back. In the car on the way home, I had my hand on his thigh, and he didn't say anything. Just asked why I had it there.

 

Well, when we got back to the apartment my ex went to bed. I then went into the bathroom and took the bathmat out. I had bought it for him and I decided to take it back. I honestly do not remember taking it. I just know it was in my bathroom when I woke up the next morning.

 

I have a date with John tonight. I came back from class this afternoon to to a message from my ex saying, don't ever talk to me again. I asked why and he said it was because of the bathmat. I really have no idea what is going on. Everything was going well, he had said that we were going to be friends and that things were going to work out. And now this!!!

 

I guess I just don't understand if it is really the bathmat that is causing us to stop talking, or if me going out with his good friend John is the problem. Because I would rather be his friend than anything. Help!!

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Focus on John and forget about your ex. Both of you are dating right now and his choice is to not talk to each other; even if it is a bathmat.

 

Work on the relationship you have with John. If he breaks up and wants to find you again he will. Remember you are also seeing John.

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Well, I gave the bathmat back. I attached a note explaining that I was sorry and that I had no recollection of taking it from him. I thought that maybe this would help us to get back on track.

My roommate told me today that although I gave it back and apologized, my ex was angry. He was going to give it back to me. Everyone in the suite told him not to, to stop being a dick and keep the bathmat. He has always said that he hates drama, but he is the one creating it all.

He also pointed out that he is unhappy with the fact that John and I were going to go out last night. He thinks I am doing it to spite him. I would never. John and I didn't even go out last night, he never called.

I guess I am learning the hard way that sometimes your happily ever after doesn't happen. I still love my ex, as hard as that is to believe considering everything we have been through. I have decided that we need a break from each other. He is still on my buddy list, as I can not block him. He blocked me and I through a huge fit so if I do it to him, it only makes me the same time of person. One day I hope we can be friends.

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Give him some time, guys tend to forget things, out of sight out of mind. For me at least.

 

Now if he wants you back after the time away would be another story.

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