Ohio_isforLovers Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Hey whats up people Well i've been going out with my girlfriend for over 5 months. Everthing was perfect we never got into fights or anything! There werer no problems at all! Well after two days after our 5th month anniversity she calls me while im practicing soccer outside and she tells me she has something to tell me. So i wait for her to get here and by her facial expression she seemed sad. SO iasked her whats wrong and she said i have to tell you something. Im like freaking out at this moment thinking whats shes gonna say. Then after awhile she still dosent tell me and then i say "are you gonna break up with me?" As soon as i said that her face turns all red and she starts to cry. Im shocked as what she has to say! Well she gives me her reasons saying one of the main reasons was that shes not ready for a long relationship "im just not matured enough" im like what are u talking about! If you go out with somebody for 5 motnhs with no problems im sure your ready! She then starts to say that i havent been hanging out with my freinds alot and spending time with you more and she gave all these little reasons and im like we can change all those! Shes like "all those little things add to a big one" Well im sad as ever she says in her life shes only had 3 bf's i was her third and the only one who she actually loved! i belived her because her other bfs never lasted that long she alwyas broke up with them! I was like "if you loved me youw ouldnt break up with me its simple as that!" shes responds with saying "I do love you, ilove you so much,its just that im just not ready to have a long relationship" and she starts to cry again. I hug her letting her know that i still love her. Well i decide tro go home and chanmge and talk to her about it later on the day.. Well we meet again and shes still has this sad expression on her face. She tells that im sorry that your hurt and then tells me that ive been a prefect boyfirend her. Telling me ive done nothing wrong. Its that right know shes feels like shes not ready. She tne tells me that shes thinking about the choice thats gonna make either to go out with me agian or not and she tells me "shes not promising me anything" She thenm promises me that we would still be firends. While shes telling me she keeps kissing me on the lips. She says shell let me know by the end of the week. Well i really love this girl and i know she loves me back we had the best 5 moths...I just hope she decides to go back out with me !!!!!!!!! Does anyone got anything to say??? any comments or anything???
kitten chick Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Did you ask her why she feels she's not ready?
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted March 27, 2006 Author Posted March 27, 2006 she replied saying that shes not mature enough to handle a long relationship... Im just so dumbfounded when she told me this beacuse i love her so much and she told me that she dosent deserve me because i can do better for what shes done in the past..but ive forgiven her for what happned in the past
STLguy Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 What has she done in the past? You both have obviously gotten through the i love yous, who said it first and how far in? Does she say it first to you at all? How old are you two? Has you gotten signs that this was coming, IE you are always calling her first, you always have to set things up, etc?
kitten chick Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 I'm sorry. That wasn't what I really meant to ask but I got booted when I tried to edit. I know you asked her why she wasn't ready and she said she didn't think she was mature enough and didn't see her friends enough. What I meant to ask is if you had asked her why she didn't think she was mature enough. It's a pretty vague statement which leads me to believe that there is some underlying fear that you're not getting at. Perhaps she's afraid of you leaving her, perhaps she's afraid that she doesn't have enough experience, the possibilities are endless. If I had to guess with this limited knowledge of what she's said, I would say she's feeling like you're spending too much time together. It makes the relationship feel more intense and smothering. Perhaps just backing off and giving her space to see what she's missing, to clear her head, would help...once you get to the root of her fear that is.
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted March 27, 2006 Author Posted March 27, 2006 What has she done in the past? She went out with my best freind..She liked me so much but i never got the courage to ask her out when i did it was to late she already gone to liking my freind. i was so mad at was shes done at that point i decided to ignore her..After some months of nc with her. I came to relize that there relationship went soo bad. after she told me that she broke up with him, she then asked me out in october. You both have obviously gotten through the i love yous, who said it first and how far in? I did then i asked her do you love me back and she said yes i do i love you so much your the only person ive actually fallen in love with. Does she say it first to you at all? Yeah she dose How old are you two? 16 Has you gotten signs that this was coming, IE you are always calling her first, you always have to set things up, etc? No not at all!
mini696 Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 My ex was exactly like this... There is NOTHING you can do about it.
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted March 28, 2006 Author Posted March 28, 2006 so what am i suppose to do?????
Lucasarts Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 lol your 16 chill man ok sorry to laugh but this is a puppy love thing, and i know right now you may feel that this girl is the world to you and that you are really in love who knows maybe this infatuation is love but after 5 months and she wants to stop being "official" and be "friends" is when the rollercoaster ride is over and its time to move on really. I think when she said this, she wanted to experience more of life and flirt around with other guys. Maybe thats why she broke up with her other b/f's so quickly, and u said she did the breaking up? in truth, what she is saying about a long term relationship is true, she probably isn't/wasnt ready for something last as long as it did, and because you had no flaws that could cause a break-up, then she had to basically tell you the truth that she doesnt want to be in a long-term relationship now. but this is only my outlook on this event, who knows, maybe she is just confused with where she is right now or what is going on and that she is only reacting in the only she knows. who knows? the mysteriousness of women is compelling and is what attracts us men to them lovely women. good luck though man.
SuperMonk Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 Is there a teen section on this website? What the hell, 5th month anniversary? Anniversary = Once a year.
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 OKay well Heres an update on the situation... She went to her mom for advice and she told her about some personal experince. So she took that on note and she told me that she wants to take a break between us to to let her think if she wants to go ointo a serious relationship between us two. She noted that its gonna take awhile for me to think not just weeks or few days. But awhile and while were on our break she wants to meet new people and such and be single agiain and see..She wants me to do the same thing. She told me that she wouldnt get into a relationship with any other guy except if they kissed and she said it might happen she dosent know..Well i tell her that its gonna be hard not being bf and gf and still hanging out when were o our break. We still kiss and such its just were not in a relationship. To me it makes no sense for me. She still wears the wrist jewlery that i gave her that engraved my name and her name and the necklace i gave her. It just it makes no sense for me i really love this girl and like i wanan get back with her.. So i need some insight from you people please!!!! If i left out any info in which i think i did because i type in a hurry well just ask me and ill answer!!!
catgirl1927 Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 You are too young for this kind of stress. It seems like a big deal but it's really not. You have so much ahead of you, neither one of you need to be concentrating on this right now. Think about school and your friends and getting into college and most of all, having FUN.
Author Ohio_isforLovers Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 Ehh im not concerned about everthing else because im doing greatttt!! School and everthingg!!! just not this
I Luv the Chariot OH Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 How old are you two? 16 Username: Ohio_isforLovers :lmao: Uh...sorry. Your girlfriend is probably right though, and she actually isn't mature enough for a relationship.
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