brandon Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 So I started "seeing" a girl recently and 'the' question arose: "So what exatcly are we doing?" So as it turns out, she's "confused". She got out of a 4yr relationship a few months ago and I guess she's not sure if she wants to be in a serious relationship again. That and school will end in about 4 weeks at which point it would potentially become long distance (we're still only an hour away from each other). Here's the kicker. We don't want others involved in our personal lives, so this is being kept from everybody else around us. So really, we're only together behind closed doors (which is awkward). And recently, we just haven't been able to spend much time together as a result... What the heck does confused mean? And I'm guessing she's probably not interested anymore? Oy. Women. LOL!
tanbark813 Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 It means: "I want to mess around with you but want to be free to mess around with other guys now and in the future."
MadDog Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 It means: "I want to mess around with you but want to be free to mess around with other guys now and in the future." Which is not such a bad thing if you realize that you can mess around with other girls too, both now and in the future. MD
tanbark813 Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Which is not such a bad thing if you realize that you can mess around with other girls too, both now and in the future. MD W3rd.
PlentyLV007 Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Very true....I mean c'mon put yourself in her shoes.. Plus messing around is fun....especially for the receiver...
smile Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Ok so I have been in almost this exact situation. And in my situation I said I needed to know what we were doing because I was interested in him. Not because I wanted to fool around. After a 4 yr relationship ends it is hard to let yourself fall again. And, while she may have already fallen against her own will (as I did) she may not be ready to admit it. She may need some sort of security some kind of reassurance that she isn't being played for a fool. Keeping it a secret sounds logical, and being undefined makes sense. But when emotions are involved sometimes you want everyone to know.. and with that comes the questions of defining your relationship. If you like her and she likes you then she may just be bailing before you do. In my situation every girlfriend I had told me his not having time for me and refusing to define it, and trying to keep it a secret (except I am a typical girl who HAS to have someone to talk to about it all) was all ways of him saying he wasn't very interested. His needing to take it slow was his way of letting me down easy. And I shouldn't have listened to them and I may have screwed everything up and everyday I fear he thinks of me what you are thinking of your girl, that she isn't interested and wants you to move on. Especially with the long distance thing looming in the distance. Maybe the pain from the ex is too recent...maybe she is scared. Just ask her to be honest. In my opinion that's the only way to keep from going crazy. Good luck to you.
Guest Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 What the heck does confused mean? And I'm guessing she's probably not interested anymore? Oy. Women. LOL! You guessed correctly! "confused" = "not interested"
summergirl Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 Did she get hurt in that previous relationship? Before I met my new bf, I was get hurt from a 4 years relationship with my ex, he broke me up badly 9 months ago. But I've had fully recovered after that, in fact I had a sweet revenge to him. Last month I met my new BF, and I like him so much and don't have any hesitation to jump into a new relationship and will definitely fall in love again. So maybe, you should know her real situation but if the break up she had was old and not really bad, I guess she's just not that into you. Good luck!
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