Guest Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Hi all, I need some encouragement..... I am almost 27 years old, a single woman in New York City. I arrived here after college with lots of goals and dreams and somehow they fell to the wayside. I took a couple jobs in an industry I thought I wanted to be in, but it turns out that I want something else. I even got a grad degree in a field that doesn't really interest me right now. I got caught up in two emotionally-draining relationships that caused me to lose sight of my own interests and passions for several years because I was so hung up on the guys. Now I realize that I've lost some years - precious years of my early 20s. There are so many things I want to do with my life - things that I feel I should have done at 23, 24, 25 but didn't. Many of my friends are in serious relationships and are looking towards settling down and getting married soon. That's the last thing I want right now - maybe not for a few years! I want to travel, consider new careers, learn a new language, and I just need encouragement that I'm NOT too old. I know it sounds like a stupid concern - it's just that people around me keep joking "yeah, we're old now" and it scares the s*** outta me. I need some encouragement here, I feel like so many people go through a crisis at age 25, and I'm having it now, because I made a few unwise decisions regarding careers, money, and relationships, and now I want to re-invent myself. It's not too late, right? I just feel like I lost some precious time... Thanks in advance
jeffrey746 Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 I can relate, from the time I was 18 till the last year I'm 26 now, I was in 2 long term relationships. I lost myself and my active lifestyle. I'm actually starting to get it back, I think the morale of what your looking for would be to start to rely on yourself and yourself alone, not friends, family and certainly not another relationship. It sounds bad but you reach a point when your so fustrated, then you look back and say "what did I do?" I would say do whatever truely makes you happy. Create new goals, its going to take some serious looking inside yourself to find it but its still there. Hope that helps.
qnmc Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 Honestly, I think you are over-reacting. No one is ever too old to remake themselves or any aspects of their life. Just because you make a decision today doesn't mean it is set in stone. Life is about adapting changes. So you went down a few paths that didn't turn out to be necessarily right for you. I don't mean to be blunt, but come on, you're 27 years old. If anything, you're lucky to have had these life experiences at such a young age. It's all about perspective here. You're young and single. You don't have a significant other or children to consider - count yourself lucky that you can make changes to your life without having to consider the affect on others.
blind_otter Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 I was married from 21-24. I know what you mean. But it's just your mind trying to trick you.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted April 10, 2006 Posted April 10, 2006 No, you are not too old! I am 33 and have been married 10 years. To me, life is just beginning! I am learning a new language and getting my second doctorate degree.
Curmudgeon Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 Too old and too late at age 27? Puhleeeeze! I'm just a few months shy of 60 and truly feel like my life, my real life, life as I'd always envisioned it, began at age 50. I'd say you have at least a few good years left to you!
Touche Posted April 11, 2006 Posted April 11, 2006 I'd say MOST of us reinvent ourselves many times throughout our lives. It's called growth. New goals, new standards, new desires...it's all a part of life. The boring people are the ones who never change, don't grow, settle and don't take risks ever. You have LOTS to look forward to in your life.
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