daydreamerz Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Ok, so I went out with this guy for the first time about a month ago and the first date didn't go very well at all. I'm just really terrible at the whole dating thing and I didn't know him very well at all(I had met him a couple of times through a mutual friend) so I was just really nervous. We went to a movie and then he pretty much just took me straight back to my dorm room afterwards. He called me right after he got back to his place and asked if I had a good time because I had kind of seemed distant the whole night. I told him that I had and that I had just been kind of nervous. I thought that I wasn't going to see him again after that, but I got up the nerve and IMed him about a week later and we decided to go out again. This time he came over to my dorm and we just hung out watching movies and talking. This time went much better and everything seemed to be going well. He called me when he got back to his place and we planned when we would see each other again...I had my spring break that week so we ended up having to wait until I got back. The third date happened a week and a half ago and I went over to his apartment. Again the date seemed to go pretty well...I mean there were a few awkward moments but overall I thought things were going well between us. Ok, well, getting to the point of this post...I haven't heard from him since then. I know that's a horrible sign and most people would just figure that it was over, but I really like him and I'm just really confused by the whole situation. The first two times I went out with him I ended up talking to him that same night, so I'm not really sure what to make of this. I know it's really not worth getting upset over, but it's hard not to. My friends keep telling me to call him, but I'm too afraid to. I feel like if he hasn't contacted me by now then he definitely doesn't want to see me again. I'm really tempted though to IM him a little message or something and seeing if he responds, but would that be pushing it? The thing is that I feel like he might not be calling me because he feels like I'm not interested in him. I do really like him, but it's really hard for me to open up to people and I tend to give off the wrong signals a lot of times. Now my question pretty much is, should I try talking to him again or should I just forget about him.
kittenpants Posted March 31, 2006 Posted March 31, 2006 I am nearly always wrong anymore, but I would say call... why not? Or IM. What's the worst thing that could happen? You find out he isn't interested, right? Best scenario? He thought you didn't like him and is thrilled you called. That being said, there is that gray area... when the guy says he's been busy and he was planning on calling you... and then you still never see him again. This has happened to me, which is why I say you might want to take my advice with a grain of salt. lol. The point is, in life you get nothing if you give nothing. What will calling hurt? I mean seriously? Call and ask him to do something. Maybe he'll say yes!
ImWithHim Posted March 31, 2006 Posted March 31, 2006 I would be inclined to send an IM since I can be a bit shy IRL as well...I would send a message when he's not online or call and leave a message when you're pretty sure he's not home. That way it leaves the door open for him to call...or not. He won't feel put on the spot so if he calls back (or IM's) you'll know he really is interested. He could be thinking the same thing you are..."if she was interested, she'd call."
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