lulu2go Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Ok... its a bit of a story but here goes..after 10 yrs together I left him while i was pregnant with our second child. It wasn't a decision easily made, he had become someone I just didn't know anymore. at the time it was either leave and bring up our children on my own, or stay and be treated.. well lets just say i had no other option but to leave. It was not an enviornment I wanted my children to grow up in. Now its been almost a year and I'm still finding it hard to be on my own. I must admit my reasons for feeling this way aren't entirely due to my breakup. Basically you name the abuse and i was subject to it as a child. I realise now is most likely the reason i put up with my ex for so long. My family are a bit shabby in the loyalty department to say the least. actually the majority of my family choose to support my ex more so than me. After I left my ex, a month after I returned to remove my remaining belongings from the house we own together, I found a woman living with him. Anyway its been a while and I've been through the worst of it and I've come out the other end alive.. Its just not THE issue anymore. So when i left my ex I moved in with my father whom I have had little to do with until now. We had an arrangement that once I got on my feet my children and I would find a place of our own. unfortunately things didn't work out with him i think he just wasn't used to having a daughter around.. i wasn't at all suprised. After all this I guess i wonder whether I attract abusive people? I've heard that this can happen as a result of childhood abuse. I jsut want to know if I do, how? Any comments/advice plse
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