Guest Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Hi I wrote awhile ago about affair the happened 20 years ago. With my wife and co-worker and she just told me about and had remained friends the full 20 years told her to NC or Phone calls the OM calls 2 weeks later just to see if everything is O.k. So yesterday I forget my cell phone at home she gets on and looks at my dialed numbers and sees a number that I was checking on her from OM's area code she gets mad that I'm checking up on her and said she leaving and might not come back. The fight goes on alittle while longer and I've had enough tell her lets sign the papers, (out of get mad that she's lied to me for 20 years and wants me to just get over it like nothing has happened and it happened so long ago and that she has loved me for 26 years but she just happened to spread her legs alot of times was she thinking of me?) I guess I can forgive but can't forget I do love her but man can she hurt me am I a p___sy or what, should I just say get out or take her back?
beriwhit123 Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Do you love her still? Do you want to start your life over as a single person? If you still love her, try to forgive and move on with her. I am sure you will have to work (both of you) to make it your relationship work.
only1life Posted March 27, 2006 Posted March 27, 2006 Nobody can answer that but you. Try to look ahead, and see what life will be be with her, and how it would be without her. Consider as many things as you can. Then add the trauma you are going to go thru, to get to either direction. It can be difficult either way. Is it worth it? If you decide to stay, is she willing to NC and willing to allow you to check her NC progress, if you need that kind of reassurance? If not, then can you handle it? Even though it was long ago, she broke your trust, and now she has to help rebuild it. But if you feel the future can be good and fun together again, then it could be well worth the effort. Don't worry about being a p___sy, it doesn't matter what other people think. What matters is how you and she feel about each other.
Bryanp Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 I am curious what her attitude would be if the roles would have been reversed? Why is the OM calling? Has she been in contact with him for the past 20 years and they have been sharing this secret behind your back? If the answer is yes then we know she totally disrespect you and your feelings.
Sal Paradise Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 I'd tell her she should of thought about that before she acted like a slut. I'd leave her. She has basically been lying to you everyday for the past 20 years. I'd be willing to bet that she has been sleeping with him off and on for the past 20 years.
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