bunset Posted September 17, 2006 Posted September 17, 2006 I just heard LNF had a great evening w/friends and no thoughts of MM. I'm gonna just sit patiently and wait to hear more, amongst such good company.
Author lovernotafighter Posted September 18, 2006 Author Posted September 18, 2006 It sucks when they pull that upset look. Men aren't supposed to be emotional, and yet he's heartbroken over you, and that pulls at your heart strings. Whether he was sincere or just playing you, i don't know, but i want to cry just seeing my MM upset over anything. They know it works. Don't fall for it, you know better now. Hope you're having fun with the ex right now!!! And you better not be thinking of MM while you're with him. As for the co-worker, i know what you mean by a distraction, but you're gonna have to keep him at an arm's length. Those types can put you in a real sticky situation, and you don't want to have to dodge another person at work, right! That's why i try not to date anyone i work with. (I know, i've already gone over that!!!) WTF is up with MM's best friend. Now that is just odd. Apparently MM filled him in a little about you, and you never met this guy? So how did he get your email. I'm thinking him and MM are up to something. I'm sorry you didn't get that promotion. Ok, bad things happen in 4's, someone lied to me!! Now it can only get better. My MM is so not a emotional person, so that pouting is all new terrain for me to see and I have to suspect it was real...but it's not enough you know what I mean? I want to grab him and hug him and in the same token blame him for it because the ball was in his court. my MM just before our blow out got me to join to of his fantasy football leagues..I am actually crazy about football. but one league was ran by his best friend..and we started chatting and he said he didn't know zilch about me...now he wants to met me and asked me where I have been his whole life. wow if it's MM in disguise I am fooled,however he would defiantly know how loyal and honest I've been if it was him..but I am sure it isn't. how could this make him feel..the one friend that did meet me has been trying to be my councilor and told me he would always be around for me..his best friend now basically asked me on a date..but MM is to foolish to follow up on his relationship with me? I did have a great time with the ex and he has sent me a few e-mails..so him and mms friend and (this ones wildest yet..) the lawyer I contacted to try to get my divorce rolling..married man aswell...has just written me a book about his life! it sucks though ST..all these guys are flattering me..I even had my dentist ask me out..but no one compares to my MM and I hate it!! I didn't think of MM for hours friday night then all of a sudden he was there and wasn't going no place. thanks for caring ST, your awesome! (BTW- not getting that was a blessing in disguise...I would have had to talk to MM everyday on the phone!) ;919045]Aaahhh LNF - I'm so upset I missed this post! Hon, you know I'm here for ya Sister Sledge! It is so hard, but dammit, we are so much stronger than them! Seriously. When we look back on this we'll be like, wha...??? I was, what, wait a minute, attracted to that? Seriously. Excuse me, waiter? I believe I ordered someone with b**ls.... LOL!! I seriously hope your right! right now it feels harder than ever though...when it hit me again while I was out, I was at height of fabulous fun and thought 'gee, just wish he could share this with me' how lame is that? I am gonna keep reminding myself of the things that I don't like about him..I hope this sinks in, thanks BTDT *hugs* Hey Babes! *HUGS* *HUGS* *HUGS* I just got in on this update! I am so very proud of you! You can do this! You know you can and so do I! Think of it this way..... Keep the mud on one side of the fence and come and join MO and myself in greener pastures! AND; Let me tell you! It is mighty lush on the single side!.....lol Much Love! Hear, hear..... It IS mighty lush over on the other side... LNF, you k-n-o-w that you can do this.... Stay focused on the ultimate goals and the reasons WHY you are doing this... You will be fine! I promise! awh you guys here are all so great! thank you for the confidence! I thought after the first week it was suppose to get easier?? well it is a good motivational tool to get my divorce on a roll I can tell you all that..me and my H have been fighting like cats and dogs...thats good or bad depending ones point of view.. good to get my ass out of here,bad cause it makes me miss MM more..ugh! LNF, i'm hoping you're having way too much fun, as we haven't had an update recently!!!! I just heard LNF had a great evening w/friends and no thoughts of MM. I'm gonna just sit patiently and wait to hear more, amongst such good company. awh..thanks you guys..I swear I am smiling from ear to ear reading all the love and support you all are giving me..it really feels wonderful! ST I was just way to hung over to post on the forums yesterday..testament to how much fun I had! we actually didn't stop talking and drinking and stuff till 930 am the next day!! woah! I didn't think of MM at all till the end..morning ish and wished he was there. I really wish I could have been with all the cool ladies from here instead though...now would be a party! *hugs*
bunset Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 <snip> I really wish I could have been with all the cool ladies from here instead though...now would be a party! *hugs* LNF, Haven't you learned by now that we're all so good at living in our dreams that we actually were there ? love you too, dear ... really!
stillhere Posted September 18, 2006 Posted September 18, 2006 Unfortunately he will pop into your head every once in a while, but the key is to remove him from there as quickly as possible! I'm so happy that you had a good weekend and went out and enjoyed yourself. I couldn't be there physically but my thoughts were with you! Isn't it awesome when random hotties hit on you?!! I compare everyone to MM all the time. I know i'm only setting myself up for failure because no one can possess all the qualities that we find in our MM's, but some day that special someone will come along, we just have to be willing to give them that chance. At least you're putting yourself out there, and at least somewhat looking. Sh*t, if i go out, it's with my MM's brother, and i do that because i have fun, and i know that his brother will tell him if i do anything wrong, so i must be on my best behavior at all times. About MM's best bud, if he's a hottie, i'd consider going out for dinner with him. Depending, of course, on his personality and such. He may have the qualities you want in MM, but he's single and willing to be with you. You never know, you may be asking where he was all your life! You're doing great, keep your head up and keep us updated. You can PM me anytime you want, because i usually have nothing but time!!!!
Author lovernotafighter Posted September 19, 2006 Author Posted September 19, 2006 you gals are the greatest! **many hugs and kisses from moi** but ST it's kinda bad I'm putting myself out there cause I'm not even half divorced yet...mostly in my mind..my husband keeps thinking we have a chance and I keep telling him no..but we are in the same house..we haven't fooled around since like april though..maybe longer..it's been so long I can't really remember. so I'm not sending mixed signals he knows when the house is gone so am I. I know the heel dragging on my end will stop now that MM is out of the picture,so I have to keep this NC stuff up as well as possible. but no, MM's best friend isn't cute to me,which is to bad cause he is just like MM but single..I can't believe he already wants to fly here to met me..now thats beyond MM's ablity to do anything if like that. he is other friend thats crazy about me isn't cute either... it has to just be me ST..I really can't see anyone properly while thinking of MM. but guess what, I avoided him like Ebola virus today, I think it was easier talking with his friend and his friend telling me "MM is has no emotions in his relationships..where most people would go crazy MM doesn't feel anything" jesus even his best friend said this and he doesn't have a clue about me..he was refering to MM and his wife. sounds like cutting my loses is truly the best thing I could ever do really...I should count my blessing I made it out rather than MM leaving his wife to be with me. apparently MM telling me he is in love with me is huge leap for him...wow thats really to bad for him. tomorrow will be better, I am certian of it :-)
stillhere Posted September 19, 2006 Posted September 19, 2006 you gals are the greatest! **many hugs and kisses from moi** but ST it's kinda bad I'm putting myself out there cause I'm not even half divorced yet...mostly in my mind..my husband keeps thinking we have a chance and I keep telling him no..but we are in the same house..we haven't fooled around since like april though..maybe longer..it's been so long I can't really remember. so I'm not sending mixed signals he knows when the house is gone so am I. I know the heel dragging on my end will stop now that MM is out of the picture,so I have to keep this NC stuff up as well as possible. but no, MM's best friend isn't cute to me,which is to bad cause he is just like MM but single..I can't believe he already wants to fly here to met me..now thats beyond MM's ablity to do anything if like that. he is other friend thats crazy about me isn't cute either... it has to just be me ST..I really can't see anyone properly while thinking of MM. but guess what, I avoided him like Ebola virus today, I think it was easier talking with his friend and his friend telling me "MM is has no emotions in his relationships..where most people would go crazy MM doesn't feel anything" jesus even his best friend said this and he doesn't have a clue about me..he was refering to MM and his wife. sounds like cutting my loses is truly the best thing I could ever do really...I should count my blessing I made it out rather than MM leaving his wife to be with me. apparently MM telling me he is in love with me is huge leap for him...wow thats really to bad for him. tomorrow will be better, I am certian of it :-) So, was today better? I know what you mean about looking but not yet being divorced. It doesn't hurt to test the waters, you just don't have to jump in right away! Well, that sucks about the bf not being attractive. I know that someone doesn't have to look good to be a good person, but i'm not ugly, so i don't want to be with someone is. If that makes me shallow, then that's what i am. As long as you are having fun and keeping your mind off of MM, then party up. You don't have to be looking for something serious, just have fun. And as far as the H goes, i know exactly what you mean. Mine is STILL trying to win me back. I kicked him out 8 months ago, and i've told him over and over that i don't want him back. But apparently he's not giving up. Ugh, he disgusts me. Well, i'm going to have a talk with my MM tonight, so i might be needing you later on. Wish me luck.
lost8 Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 I am also going through something like this . However, we still work together , and are very much in love. I will one day hope I can post my story. But I think that you are being brave. And please let me know how the NC goes.. And the pouting is common. And I realized something with our relationship is that we are different with different people. Some can say that he is emotionless but you may know different only two people are behind closed doors. Only those two people know what is going on... I think you are doing the right thing and it's normal to feel the anger.. I would suggest not talking to his friends. They probably have an idea if he has not told them... and they may have ulterior motives.
BenThereDunThat Posted September 20, 2006 Posted September 20, 2006 I really wish I could have been with all the cool ladies from here instead though...now would be a party! *hugs* Hey! I feel like I've been away for so long ... how's everything going? Glad you had such a good time the other night! You definitely gotta have those nights every once in a while (or more if you can swing it!) I'm going to court for the big D tomorrow - wish me luck! How fun would it be if we could all get together someplace fun like Vegas, or Cancun, or...???? That would be a blast! You guys rock!!! *hugs* and support to all my LS gals!
Author lovernotafighter Posted September 25, 2006 Author Posted September 25, 2006 So, was today better? I know what you mean about looking but not yet being divorced. It doesn't hurt to test the waters, you just don't have to jump in right away! Well, that sucks about the bf not being attractive. I know that someone doesn't have to look good to be a good person, but i'm not ugly, so i don't want to be with someone is. If that makes me shallow, then that's what i am. As long as you are having fun and keeping your mind off of MM, then party up. You don't have to be looking for something serious, just have fun. And as far as the H goes, i know exactly what you mean. Mine is STILL trying to win me back. I kicked him out 8 months ago, and I've told him over and over that i don't want him back. But apparently he's not giving up. Ugh, he disgusts me. Well, I'm going to have a talk with my MM tonight, so i might be needing you later on. Wish me luck. oh ST (((hugs!))) it pushing 3 weeks now, we are still broke up, but we have chatted a few times...I want to go total NC! it is impossible thanks to him weaving me into his web...good job on his part the little sob. my husband is a good guy, I am trying to do this where he is going to be okay..some days he wants out to others..he is miserable and has anxiety attacks...this the last thing I wanted...I just want out. well once this weeks down,I am hoping things will just keep getting easier ps-your not shallow, don't think that...we all know what we are attracted to and what we are not..theres nothing wrong with that I am also going through something like this . However, we still work together , and are very much in love. I will one day hope I can post my story. But I think that you are being brave. And please let me know how the NC goes.. And the pouting is common. And I realized something with our relationship is that we are different with different people. Some can say that he is emotionless but you may know different only two people are behind closed doors. Only those two people know what is going on... I think you are doing the right thing and it's normal to feel the anger.. I would suggest not talking to his friends. They probably have an idea if he has not told them... and they may have ulterior motives. I will keep you posted,thanks..going NC with someone you in love with AND work with I see is damned near impossible..I have to get away further or I'll never get out of this with my skin intact. good luck to you..we are here for you. Hey! I feel like I've been away for so long ... how's everything going? Glad you had such a good time the other night! You definitely gotta have those nights every once in a while (or more if you can swing it!) I'm going to court for the big D tomorrow - wish me luck! How fun would it be if we could all get together someplace fun like Vegas, or Cancun, or...???? That would be a blast! You guys rock!!! *hugs* and support to all my LS gals! BTDT how did court go? is the big D settled now? my life is a wreck...so days are better than others of coarse but I am in pain allot of the time..I can't believe I lost the man I love..it is just starting to really sink in. and it doesn't help last week him telling me he thinks about me all the time and understands why I need to break up since he doesn't know when he will leave..I talked to him again yesterday he acted so in love with me that it just broke my heart all over again..I really can't do this with him.. I wish to god I could quit my job..I am looking but work 12 to 14 hour days everyday but sunday makes little time to do much else..I am at a loss right now. thanks for all your support,I know it will get easier..it's just somedays are better than others.
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