witabix Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Falling again, falling in "love". I am just out of a bad place, and yet I dive again into something I know could be my final resting place. She is too young, she has too much baggage, too many other 'love inerests'. I am uncomfortable with it all. She fills me with so much though. I want to continue, she has said that I have given her a reason to live. What am I doing? What on earth is going on here? I know you will all tell me that I am out of the loop here, that I should take time to think this through. Once again I am here to try to figure out what is going on. She is far too young, 28, I am far too old, 45, I am scared that I will finally find out that I should be alone, I feel that this may be the case........ WTF is happening here? Why do I feel this way? Who am I? What am I?
whichwayisup Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 I say, take a chance. Life is too short for regrets and if you don't atleast try to see what happens, you could regret it. Forget age! At 28 years old she isn't a teen anymore. And you're are not too old! Just be honest, straight forward with her - Tell her how you feel and go from there. Welcome back Wita!
Lonestar Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Witabix, what's up dude? How ya been? Stop making such a big deal out of all this. You met someone and she's making you happy. Who cares about the age difference. You should feel good getting a a girl 17 years younger than you. I'm currently dating a hot young man who happens to be 10 years younger than me and I'm loving every minute of it. Have some fun, fall in love, move foward from the past, and stop being so negative.
MadDog Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Yeah. If you're 45 and your girl is 28, why are you complaining?! I'd be pretty happy about that. Then again, maybe I'd think to myself, "Hmm. If she's willing to get with me, why not a 22 year old?" MD
Lonestar Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Yeah. If you're 45 and your girl is 28, why are you complaining?! I'd be pretty happy about that. Then again, maybe I'd think to myself, "Hmm. If she's willing to get with me, why not a 22 year old?" MD and why not 18? See how low you can go wita!
MadDog Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 and why not 18? See how low you can go wita! I think 18 is kinda going too far. Girls that age can look underage and that's not a good thing. At least girls that are 22 look like they're at least 18 even if they look really young. Besides, it's not cool having to get her a fake ID so she can get into the club or even have some wine at a restaurant. MD
Author witabix Posted March 26, 2006 Author Posted March 26, 2006 Ok, now I am laughing again..... Thanks.
justagirliegirl Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 I think 18 is kinda going too far. Girls that age can look underage and that's not a good thing. At least girls that are 22 look like they're at least 18 even if they look really young. Besides, it's not cool having to get her a fake ID so she can get into the club or even have some wine at a restaurant. MD Especially when you are only 16 and need a fake id of your own! :lmao:
justagirliegirl Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 witabix, just takes things slow and see how it goes. The other interests and baggage might be a problem depending on what that is.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Um, I'd be afraid of anyone who said I was their reason for living. That sounds a bit too....codependent, desperate, clingy....I dunno.
justagirliegirl Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Um, I'd be afraid of anyone who said I was their reason for living. That sounds a bit too....codependent, desperate, clingy....I dunno. Especially so soon in a relationship or at all even.
No Stress Lady Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Um, I'd be afraid of anyone who said I was their reason for living. That sounds a bit too....codependent, desperate, clingy....I dunno. Agree with JenJen ans justagirlie on this - she definitely sounds needy and clingy. What's the background to your relationship?
Lonestar Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 I think 18 is kinda going too far. Girls that age can look underage and that's not a good thing. At least girls that are 22 look like they're at least 18 even if they look really young. Besides, it's not cool having to get her a fake ID so she can get into the club or even have some wine at a restaurant. MD There are some sleezy bars he can get an underage girl into and he can always tell her to wear a lot of makeup so she looks older. I think you're wrong in your assessment that 22 year olds look older than 18 year olds. It's all a matter of breast endowment. A younger girl with size C cups will look older than one of of legal drinking age with size As
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 It's all a matter of breast endowment. A younger girl with size C cups will look older than one of of legal drinking age with size As What does boob size have to do with looking 21? Most girls stop growing in the 16-18 range.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Agree with JenJen ans justagirlie on this - she definitely sounds needy and clingy. What's the background to your relationship? I'm guessing that part of that might be her age. Most women (and men) are very different at 28 than they are in their 30s and 40s when they finally figure out "who they are", and out of that usually comes more self-confidence and self-reliance.
Lonestar Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 What does boob size have to do with looking 21? Most girls stop growing in the 16-18 range. jen jen, it's a joke. Trying to lighten up the situation for witabix.
Author witabix Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 Cheers Lonestar, appreciate that!! She has been dealing with the other interests. Once again I find out I am involved with a woman who has suffered at the hands of monsters, this is wearing me down a little, becoming too much of a pattern. One thing she is not is needy or clingy, I have known her for a number of years. She is fairly independent and outgoing. Its cool, we are going with the flow, relaxing and getting to know each other better as time goes on. Both aware of the age difference issues, in other peoples minds, not ours. I will see how it goes. Thanks for your input people, appreciated.
MadDog Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 She has been dealing with the other interests. Once again I find out I am involved with a woman who has suffered at the hands of monsters, this is wearing me down a little, becoming too much of a pattern. One thing she is not is needy or clingy, I have known her for a number of years. She is fairly independent and outgoing. Its cool, we are going with the flow, relaxing and getting to know each other better as time goes on. Both aware of the age difference issues, in other peoples minds, not ours. You said that she told you that "you have given her a reason to live." That's a huge warning sign right there. How can someone who says that be independent. On the contrary, if she were counting on you to be her reason to live, wouldn't that make her completely dependent on you? MD
Author witabix Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 I don't think I am her raison d'etre, I think she meant it in a less literal sense than it may come across when written down. I do not put too much store in this one phrase, she really doesn't come across as needy. My take on it is that she has seen in a few weeks with me how different a relationship can be from her previous long term one that ended last year. But of course you could be right, I will see and let you all know.
Sassy Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Welcome back Witabix been missing you and your great advice!! Go with it like Which said cause life is too short. Atleast she is older than 18 . Remember age is just a number .If you feel it go with it. You can't be scared to love for fear you will get hurt.
Author witabix Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 Sassy, very true, very true indeed.Thanks for reminding me of my own thoughts.
Sassy Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Sassy, very true, very true indeed.Thanks for reminding me of my own thoughts. Your quit welcome Witabix anytime!
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