hugznkisses21 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 So we did end up chatted via msn... Now i know we could have doen it on the phone but i just think this seemed easier and less awkward at the time. He has been going non stop and is nervous and very focus on the new police career....apraently if they slip up once during training its all over. He will he leaving beginning of May for the intense 14 hour day training about 2 hrs away. I can be sure he was going to tell me all this when he saw me next but i asked him to just dish it out. He said that he wants to put 100% into a relationship and thats exacally the way he was before he got the job and has been getting into all the training stuff and he said that he knows he cant do that when he goes away for the 4 mths to train and it isnt fair to me and he wouldnt feel good not being there for me therefore not making him focused. I can understand...this is #1 for him he has worked years to get this. I asked him about how we slept together and told him i was falling for him. He said that he has an awsoe time with me always and that he was falling for me too and that this is just timing and it really really sucks So we finished of by saying we will try to meet up next week...i got him some sports tickets as a gift for getting the job so i want to give them to him and he wants to take me...he said we will keep in touch and will go on a date as soon as he is done at the end of summer to see if the sparks are still there..... I have a good feeling about him....ya know...one i never had with my ex that i was with for 3 years....I think im just hoping we can pick up where we left off cause it was amazing and he truely put his entire self in this before things got hectic. What is your take guys....the only thing i dont like is his calls started to not happen as often this week and i wish he would have called me and spoke to me about all this but like i said i think he was going to wait until his scheduale was free and he can do it in person i dunno
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Okay.. What I see from this is that he is trying to back away from you right now... He doesn't want anything serious because he is getting ready to go off for training... In which, you have to respect that... What you need to do is go with the flow of things... If and when he comes back he decides that he is ready then go for it... Looks like he was looking for a little fling before he left for his training... If you are really into this guy... Ask him if you can keep in touch when he goes away... See how that goes... As for him not telling you in person, maybe he didn't have the balls too... I don't know...
Author hugznkisses21 Posted March 25, 2006 Author Posted March 25, 2006 well when we started dating he did not know he was going to get on the force, he isnt a fling guy i know that forsure....i have met his family, friends and everything....things were getting serious....it was his idea to stay in touch. Plus i know it wasnt a fling cause he took a year off to do things for himself after his last gf of 4 years and i was the first on he had decided to date since then i think he would have said it in person the next time we got together but i wanted him to tell me what was up at that time cause i was cuirous as to what was going to happen
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Ex of 4 years... hmmm... How long were they broken up before the both of you started dating??? The thing is that maybe he was scared that things were getting "too serious" and that just might be the case... but whatever the case is just stay intouch with him and see how it goes...
Author hugznkisses21 Posted March 25, 2006 Author Posted March 25, 2006 they were broken up over a year....1.5 years or so...he took some time off ofr himself no dating then i came along....i can tell before this police thing got all crazy that he was a guy who puts 100% into a girl and he said if he cant do that then it isnt fair but he did say stay in touch and stuff.....he said he was reallly falling for me and timing sucks
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Okay.. Sounds like it is just this police thing that has him in a bind... If you are that serious about him just tell him that you think you guys can be together with him going away. It would only be a temporary thing... There is people that hard Long Distant Relationships with people that are like thousands of miles away... Is there anyway you can visit him on weekends or something?
Author hugznkisses21 Posted March 25, 2006 Author Posted March 25, 2006 nah its pretty crazy weekends are pretty much prep for the week. He said if he cant give me 100% he doesnt feel right and he feels guilty for neglecting me...i told him i would understanding but he said he would rather put everything in a realtiosnhip....so we will see when he gets back i guess. We still have feelings.....
agnf666 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Basically, all you can do is wait and see with this one... That is about it... Keep in touch and go from there...
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