scobro Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 What are your thoughts on age in relationships.I never really have thought of age as a good or bad thing.When I was 20 my girlfriend at the time was 29 and it lasted a couple of years. All my long term relationships the woman has been a few years older but right now I am dating a girl who is 12 years younger im 35 she is 23 and it's one of the most compatible people I have ever been with.It seems every aspect of out relationship seems to click.Sex is amazing we have a lot of common interests and opinions and we work inthe same indusrty (fitness) but a lot of people get hung up on age.What is your opinion on age differences over 10 years?
justagirliegirl Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 I have been on both ends like you. My ex husband was 12 years older than I was. It lasted 20 years. My bf is 17 years younger than I am and we are almost 2 years now. Truth be, very few relationships will make it to that golden anniversary so just enjoy.
Author scobro Posted March 25, 2006 Author Posted March 25, 2006 Truth be, very few relationships will make it to that golden anniversary so just enjoy. So true, it's amazing that we are like that, never really go through life with one constant mate for 50+ years.I don't know if that is a good or bad thing.
Touche Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 I agree with girliegirl. My ex was 19 years older than me. We were together on and off for about 9 years. The failure of the relationship was due to personality differences rather than the age gap. The only thing I'd caution you about is that you may be in a different stage in life than her now. Not sure if you're looking for something serious now or not but at her age, she may not be ready. But I don't know her. I'm just going by how I was at that age. I was very different at 23 than I was at 35. I think after two years or so with her you will have your answer. In the meantime, don't make it an issue and enjoy it.
justagirliegirl Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 I don't know whether it is good or bad. It is hard to say how many people silently suffered for 50 years and how many enjoyed it for the most part. There is very little divorce in my family though. My parents were married for 49 years until one passed.
Art_Critic Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Just enjoy her.. It may last forever but the chances of it not are higher.. Since she is only 23.. in the next couple of years her wants are going to change 180 degrees and you will most likely not be part of her future desires. Anmd since you are 35 your wants are setting down and not changing so much But you are part of her now desires.. sooo Have fun.. here is my advice : Don't fall for her..
Author scobro Posted March 25, 2006 Author Posted March 25, 2006 Just enjoy her.. It may last forever but the chances of it not are higher.. Since she is only 23.. in the next couple of years her wants are going to change 180 degrees and you will most likely not be part of her future desires. Anmd since you are 35 your wants are setting down and not changing so much But you are part of her now desires.. sooo Have fun.. here is my advice : Don't fall for her.. Good points AC.
whichwayisup Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 As long as you both grow together, then it's a good thing. Talking from experience, I was 23 when I got serious about my H - I'd known him for 2 years but we weren't a couple. He is older than me too and we worked out fine! The thing is, it really depends on her maturity level. Many 23 year olds are and many aren't. There will always be a difference in interests, experience etc., but that doesn't have to be a negative thing. Enjoy eachother, and most of all - If you really do like her alot, don't let ANYBODY tell you it's wrong to date someone younger than you. What counts is what you think and what she thinks.
Woggle Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 My fiance is 15 years older and it is the best relationship I have ever had in my life. If this is the only thing I say we got it damn good.
witabix Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Yea, the age thing. Its odd really. I had a personal rule about maximum age differences. I was approached recently by a much younger woman, 17 years younger than me. 28/45. I told her I thought she was just too young for me, straight out. She insisted it made no difference, and I thought about it for a while and decided that I should go with it, she is cool, and clever, shares the same sense of humour, really goodlooking etc. There have been a few eyebrows elevated amongst those that know us both, but it is their problem. A mutual friend said she was delighted that we were seeing each other. As A_C says, and I agree once again with him, an age gap of this magnitude has to be seen in the perspective of future personal changes. I know that she has a long way to go to reach the point that I am in my life. That she may change her mind tomorrow, thats ok though. WWIU is right too, just enjoy what you have in each other. Don't let anyone else tell you that you can only date people who are x years younger or y years older, thats bs. Have fun, be cool, relax and enjoy.
SuperMonk Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 You met this chick online, Didn't you? Come on, you can tell the truth you internet smoothie.
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