Mydish1 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Im not sure if it's just me but it seems nowadays it's hard to make friends, or at least good/close friends. im 21 and a junior in college. But personally i find it easier to get along with people who are older than me, hitting the bar scene...etc. one of my closest friends is 26. Anyway for people that lives in dorms it's a different story, theyre forced to make friends cause theyre away from home and all they have is each other. the college is in the city so it's easy for ppl to commute from home and back, often times you'll make good acquantances on campus/class but not any real friends. But since it's NYC, usually people are either busy with their own thing or have their own circle of friends. Even an attempt at making friends here isnt so easy, mostly because of what i said in the previous sentence. Always in the past and even now, ill have that good friend and he/she will help me infiltrate their circle of friends and bring me into a social setting. But as for a close social circle, i have never bothered or had the ability to keep something like that going. personally i know it's also part due my fault cause im picky/wise on choosing who i want my friends to be. Is it NYC that's hard to make friends, me, or something other?
Guest Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 I think it can be hard to make friends in any new environment. It takes time. Join clubs where there are people who share your interests. Chances are that sharing an interest will lead to becoming friends with at least some of the people there.
Guest Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 I went to NYU and I commuted from West Chester county and also had a full-time job, so I figure that's one of the reasons I never made a lot of friends at school. But I did make some great friends at my job. I just posted at a different thread ("I haven't been to a party in four years") about meeting people at work. It feels so much more natural for me to make friends that way. You could try taking a part-time job somewhere to meet friends. Or just hang in there and hopefully as you get going in your career, you will meet more like-minded people
Author Mydish1 Posted March 26, 2006 Author Posted March 26, 2006 I think it can be hard to make friends in any new environment. It takes time. Join clubs where there are people who share your interests. Chances are that sharing an interest will lead to becoming friends with at least some of the people there. I did join a club shortly for a few weeks last semester, but basically the club was pretty boring. And the people there dont really talk much other than about their classes. im probably guilty also. Best examples of New Yorkers. But I did make some great friends at my job. I just posted at a different thread ("I haven't been to a party in four years") about meeting people at work. It feels so much more natural for me to make friends that way. You could try taking a part-time job somewhere to meet friends. Or just hang in there and hopefully as you get going in your career, you will meet more like-minded people let semester i was working and doing school at the same time. The office was small, only a few people. ppl there primarily older than me and we had different interests. I was able to hook up an old classmate with a job there, we almost became friends. We were very similar and had many common interests, but due to certain things it didnt work out. although im not working now, all my classes are flooding me with projects and deadlines. perhaps it's natural for things like this to turn out this way for me and other similar NYers who are busy. But one thing that's undeniable is friendship takes time and investment to develop, people that lack the time often just fall into the acqaintance category. any other ideas?
konfuzd Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 I moved to a new province to take this great job opportunity, but unfortunately, I'm a lot younger than anyone else in the office, and the only one without family, so there is no social networking. My job is very mentally draining, and I don't have the energy to take on a part time job. It's been 2 years, and I have a few aquantances who I see occasionally, but not a single person I can call a close friend. I did a search on the internet for tourism in my new hometown and came across a company that organizes activities for young singles to do in a non-threatening group setting (not necessarily for dating). They do some pretty cool things like windsurfing, rockclimbing and such... I signed up for a boxing class through them in a couple weeks, that's followed by dinner and cocktails. It sounds really great! Check into your city to see if something similar is offered...
big_girls_rock Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 I agree, location can be a Mother. But no matter where I am I always seem to make friends and keep them. Maybe its yours or their personality- you stated that you can be choosy and picky when it comes to making friends- maybe your holding back a little. I have a big personality and Im really outgoing and maybe your a little more reserved. I can't imagine how it is to make friends in a big city like NYC but I live in the DC area so I can get a feel to what your dealing with- when I first got here I was alone too- I moved from Ohio but over time I made friends with people on local sites, groups, CL, and work. I say give it some time, be yourself, and get involved.
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 Ok I'm in the same boat...But who the hell joins clubs this day in age? I have "friends" here but I can't count on any of them...we just go out and get drunk. Are their any other ways to meet people?
catgirl1927 Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 It's hard to make friends in Houston, too. All I can offer is sympathy, because I'm in the same boat.
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