painfulHeart Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Ive recently started studying at University 4th week in. And i have met someone who i just cant stop thinking about. I am only in 1 of her classes a week and dont sit anywhere near her in lectures. This makes converstaions hard to come by, and i seem to spend all my week thinking about that one class. In that class we sit next to each other and talk and talk. I do my best to flirt, tell jokes be close and friendly. She does the same ( i think). Now the problem - part 1, She just moved here, and has no friends at Uni or in area. So i dont know if she is just lonely or if she is interested. Id hate to be friend when she needs one and then her to think all i wanted was in her pants. Problem - part 2 , she mentioned a boyfriend (conversation i overheard) from where she came from, but from the signals i was picking up, (which i may be looking into more than they are), i was getting the impression she wasnt in a relationship. Ida expected her to mention him at least once in the conversations we have had. Problem - part 3 , in 2 weeks the class we share is being shifted and we wont be together, which means no contact, unless by accidentally bumping into each other. ( but then it will be a quick convo, nothing meaningful) My question, what do i do to keep us in contact, that will move into relationship potential. I dont want to act a fool, rush in too ealrly or shout out my feelings to her, scaring her away. If anyone has suggestions id love to hear em
Yamaha Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 what do i do to keep us in contact, that will move into relationship potential. The way to move into relationship potential is to flirt, kid, play your way into her heart while letting her know you see her as more than a friend. Don't be afraid that you will scare her away because the only way you can do that is if she has no interest in you. As to keeping in contact you are going to have to ask her to hang out so you can keep seeing her. If she likes you she should have no problem seeing you outside of the classroom atmosphere. I would discuss the potential b/f thing to see if she is really available. If not you should just be friendly until she is available but don't become her buddy.
monkey00 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 My question, what do i do to keep us in contact, that will move into relationship potential. I dont want to act a fool, rush in too ealrly or shout out my feelings to her, scaring her away. If anyone has suggestions id love to hear em First off girls with bfs will flirt and be friendly just for the hell of it, it's their nature. Just because they do, doesnt mean it's a clear signal she's interested. ok she mentioned she had a bf, well...you might still hit it off, since LDR can get rocky and you're now in teh picture. However i'd like to note that girls who are really interested in a guy, generally do not off the bat tell him about the bf (fraid of scaring him off). But it can come up if you ask a question that has relation to him (which is very different). Now, no one asked you to rush in or blurt your feelings. it's best to take things slow, but not too slow. Show here you're interested in more than friends, get her # and ask her out. the last thing im going to say is dont be too friendly/eager to help in class when w/her. once she sees you as a nice guy, falling into the friends zone is the easiest thing that can happen.
Author painfulHeart Posted March 28, 2006 Author Posted March 28, 2006 Cheers for feedback Ive decided what to do, and thought id just let those who helped know. After last class we have together im going to drag her aside. Tell her that i really like her, and that i do realise she has a boyfriend. but that id still like to hang out with her. Tell her sorry for putting her in an awkward postition, but let her know if i didnt say something it would have probably killed me. I will then offer my phone number, and tell her that im free whenever if she wants to hang out and leave it at that (depending what her reply to it all is) (i feel like im taking the easy way out giving my number instead of getting hers and calling, but i think the thing im most worried about is being someone who cant get the clue that shes not interested and bugging her... making her regret seing and talking to me) if anyone thinks this is a bad way to go please please say, i have a few days till last class
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