Altaira Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 My bf isn't speaking to me, not returning my calls or emails, on messenger he said he was busy, and he[s stopped calling me endearing nicknames, he told me straight up when i called that he ws mad about last time i spent the night (i didn[t cooperate physically, he didn't get what he wnated, but I tried at least, i was just feeling sleepy, not in the mood plus it was painful). also that night I was breaking up with him or wanting to take a break and he wasn't wanting to, calling me about 8 times. he thought I was ignoring him but I just didn[t have the cell with me. He finally reached me at my home phone, said I ws a "pain the butt". In the past it was he who would do all the calling until he reached me. He's also in th epast wanted me to move in with him and I haven't said yes (because I'd rather have marriage) Is this payback? Is he just punishing me now or breaking off with me? Or both? How should I take his silence? on messenger I told him to tell me if we were breaking up and he didn't answer. He did say to "go out with (a guy i mentioned to punish him back) if you want to".
max003 Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 i think he's sulking. the fact that it all started because you were too tired for sex, he's trying to play hard to get and make you chase him. You have to decide if you really want to be with someone who enjoys playing such childish games and putting you through this. i wouldnt, he sounds like a moron.
Author Altaira Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 Most people I've asked said he';s being childish, but the effect it's having on my was really hurtful initially. Thanks for your input, Max
max003 Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 your welcome. most girls have an experience like that. Go out and find yourself a real man!
Author Altaira Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 do men who do this usually expect to get back together?
max003 Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 in my experience no. but when it happened to me, i met him at a party afterwards, he introduced me to his new girlf, i didnt ask when they got together, and then spent the next two hours talking to me. my friend said she noticed that i never go up to him, he would always come to me. he might try his luck again with you, but it wont be worth it!!!
Guest Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 max, you said that he likely isn't intending to get back with me, but then you later said that he may. which is which, please? also, during a blowjob, I said "yeck", do you think this could have hurt his ego?
justagirliegirl Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 How long should I wait It has been 2 weeks since you heard from him? I would say move on.
Walk Posted April 9, 2006 Posted April 9, 2006 Just a suggestion... but next time you have relationship problems with someone, don't (ever) bring up other people in order to get back at your SO. It's the act of someone who is more immature then you probably really are. Second.. Never say "yeck" while/during/after giving a blow job. How would you feel if your guy kissed you and said "yeck"? Do you think it would hurt your feelings? Third, you not wanting to have sex that night sounds like only a third of the problem. You told him you wanted to break up, threatened him with another man, not answering his calls, and also not wanting sex with him. Add it all together and I'm sure he got the very strong idea that you didn't want to be with him. So why are you so upset that he's not jumping through hoops to make you stay with him? Is that what you were looking for? You'd probably be better off breaking off this relationship officially at this point. You had already tried to, and might only be feeling like you want back in because he's shut you out. Try to take an unbiased view of this. Why do you still want to be in a relationship with him? Why did you want to break it off before, yet now you want to stay? What changed? It doesn't sound as if it got better suddenly? So why the change in your decision?
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