sweetie7 Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 My bf has had this friend (girl) for about 5 years (I've been with him for 2). For 5 years she has been in love with him. This means that for 2 years she's been calling him almost every day (with a few periods of rest) and he doesn't answer and she doesn't stop. Ocassionally he'll answer and she does the "ohh you don't like me anymore, I thought we were friends." So, obviously this really bothers me but of course he always tells me they are just friends and she can be really annoying a lot of times. I met her last year at a bar and not only did she say "oh" when he introduced us, she spent the rest of the night pulling him away from me and whispering in his ear. Needless to say, I was realllly pissed. He's a really friendly, outgoing, huge personality guy so he's very nice to her which I understand but it does bother me. Now, we live in the city (not together) and she lives pretty close. Since September, she's been calling every night and he has maybe talked to her 3 times. Everytime he talks to her she asks if we're still together. Well, we had a fight this weekend and didn't talk the whole weekend and guess who he hung out with? I don't really care bc a lot of his friends are also friends with her so I know it's not like he snuck behind my back. But what really is bothering me is that she put a ton of pictures of him up on her myspace! I know she thinks she is soo cool bc she hung out with him and probably thinks I don't know and will find out and see the pics and be mad. And I guess she kind of won bc I am mad! I KNOW he would never get with her (even if we weren't together) He's had plenty of chances before he met me and has made it clear to her he's not interested. He does like her as a friend but even then finds her to be annoying. So, why is this girl bothering me soo much??
jerbear Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 My situation is similar. This is my suggestion: She has false hopes and your BF has to end the friendship if she does not stop. It is unhealthy for her, for your bf, and importantly you. If you bf maintains the friendship, remember that it is his perogative. Make your stance and to let him know how you feel. If you don't say anything, nothing will be done.
Author sweetie7 Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 He knows how I feel but won't stop being friends with her. I can't really tell him who to be friends with and he's known her for a long time. He doesn't see it as unhealthy for her bc no matter what, they are still friends and obviously she'd rather that than nothing. He thinks I just need to trust him (I do) and that he has no interest in her in anything but friend. I understand but she just makes me so mad! The sad thing is that I think she's the kind of girl I can see myself being friends with. But she "hates" me. I had never met her before I met him...I also just hate when people dislike me, especially when I haven't done anything intentional to her.
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