single4ever Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 I hate to be a bellyacher, but it seems I am constantly asking myself (and others) WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?? I'm 36..single mother..goodlooking, great personality, nice apt, good job..i'm very outgoing and meet people easily. I just don't get it. I've had several relationships that just NEVER work out. I end up getting my heart broken and become even more jaded. But I am NOT a man hater..i still believe in love and all the good it has to offer. I get so lonely sometimes and just long to share my life with someone. I just thought my life would've been so much different by now..I try to stay positive and make life good and enjoyable for my son's sake..it gets really tough sometimes,tho. Any advice or suggestions???
basscatcher Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 I hate to be a bellyacher, but it seems I am constantly asking myself (and others) WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?? I'm 36..single mother..goodlooking, great personality, nice apt, good job..i'm very outgoing and meet people easily. I just don't get it. I've had several relationships that just NEVER work out. I end up getting my heart broken and become even more jaded. But I am NOT a man hater..i still believe in love and all the good it has to offer. I get so lonely sometimes and just long to share my life with someone. I just thought my life would've been so much different by now..I try to stay positive and make life good and enjoyable for my son's sake..it gets really tough sometimes,tho. Any advice or suggestions??? I could have written this..... I still can write it.. I will take this over for myself now too. Can you share it!!!??? :lmao:
amaysngrace Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 i tried putting myself out there on weekends. i would go to places with my kids that i knew my exH would go to when he had them, and figured i'd meet some real nice daddies. well, after only one trip to the local park, i realized that there was a reason no woman was with them. if this is the pond we have to fish from, we are in serious trouble.
johan Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 You just haven't met me yet. Be patient. These things take time. We're bound to run into each other at some point.
Tenorman Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 There must either be some enormous miscommunication between the sexes and/or good people are born to suffer. That probably did not make you feel any better. Sorry.
mitchilicious Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 well you know...its not very easy to find a partner....in your case...since ure a singleparent...but it will come in time...all has its own purpose why things happen....you re enjoying in what are you doin right now and its enough....when sometimes u feel and need someon to be there with you....just call a friend...or family...so that u will not focus on looking for a man in ure life....just let the things be in their own ways.....u will not know one day....someone will be there....for you.....stay happy....and pray always!!!!
johan Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 well you know...its not very easy to find a partner....in your case...since ure a singleparent...but it will come in time...all has its own purpose why things happen....you re enjoying in what are you doin right now and its enough....when sometimes u feel and need someon to be there with you....just call a friend...or family...so that u will not focus on looking for a man in ure life....just let the things be in their own ways.....u will not know one day....someone will be there....for you.....stay happy....and pray always!!!! Mitch, I just want to say... I really admire your happy, free... use of periods... You just throw a few in.... any old place...it's like little bits of spice...in your otherwise incomprehensible...message...
kitten chick Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 :lmao: Johan you're on a roll tonight. Thanks, I could use the laughs. At the risk of sounding like Outcast... s4e - you set your expectations for your life, you thought things would be different. If you set expectations you are bound to be disappointed at some point. Try to focus on the things that you are thankful for like having a great son, being outgoing, having a great life...sometimes it's going to get tough and lonely but you still have all of those other things to keep you afloat during those times.
Author single4ever Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 All of you have given great advice...i should just focus on making the best out of my life and being a good role model for my son..it's just tough when ALL of my friends are hooked up..i'm so sick of being the 5th wheel everywhere we go. But I do have a lot to be thankful for and I need to just keep concentrating on that...they say it happens when u least expect it and aren't looking And, I too..use a lot of ellipsis......i love 'em..... haha
babbah Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 who knows what's gonna happen in the future.. maybe the right person is yet to come. maybe God is choosing the right person who will love you with all his heart and take care of you forever.... "patience is a virtue" you'll never know who will knock into your heart. im wishing you all the best and luck! *hugs*
JayKay Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Have you thought of using a dating service where you can screen people for mutual interests? I don't mean the online kind. I mean the real services where you go in and talk about the kind of partner you're seeking. That way you meet people who are serious about meeting people. They can be a little expensive, but a couple of my friends found them very worthwhile. Dating in your 30's is really frustrating. I remember it well. I was in a couple of relationships that really didn't end well and it's soooo heartbreaking and painful, no matter who does the breaking up. The disappointment of having yet another possibility go sour really hurts. Don't give up!
SuperMonk Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 Ask your closer friends on what you could use improvement on. (If you sense lying, you should dump them and look for more honest friends) If you can't do the above look in the mirror. Would you date yourself?
j_lane Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 I could have written this..... yeah, me too. With work and not really going out anywhere, I don't have any prospects either. I'm interested in meeting a woman 35-40.
Poconobob Posted April 4, 2006 Posted April 4, 2006 I could have written this..... I still can write it.. I will take this over for myself now too. Can you share it!!!??? :lmao: DITTO... me too. bob
signmakergirl Posted April 14, 2006 Posted April 14, 2006 I'm 44 and a single mom so what do I know! LOL! I just finished reading Dr. Phi's Love Smart. It's an excellent read in helping you discover the kind of guy that's right for you. Loaded with great info that I highly recommend. Will it help me now? Possibly. Guess I have to get outa the house first though huh? signmakergirl
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