MusicWoman Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Okay, so I realize people on here are going through some pretty bad things... So this is gonna sound very small and insignificant... First question is what do the people here on LS consider cheating anyways? Would you say that your an OM/OW if your dating a mm or mw? If you've only kissed are you cheating? or is cheating normally limited to sex? Unless its just emotional cheating... I guess what I would really like to know...if in my situation...could I ever be labeled 'the other woman'. I met this guy who is 7 years older than me. He was hot..like..big muscles tan hot which is normally not my type. He has a wife who is my age and they have a son. We were taking a 10 week course over last summer which is how we met. He was cute and we got along well enough...I was pretty attracted to him...and he kept dropping hints he was into me. Us and another girl would go out for drinks and stuff and try to help him out with his wife issues. She lived with her mother still...and wouldn't move in with him. He would just go over there to drop off things like diapers....and she refused to work. Anyways..after a little while he kept trying to kiss me..and i wanted to kiss him but kept holding him back. One night..I was just like what the hell..and the kiss was horrible...but i guess on his part he loved it. He would call me a few times afterwords...saying he wanted to know how i was...and then freaking out because he loves me...I just wanted to distance myself completely. I was single at the time...I wasn't with anyone. It all became about problems with his wife every single time we talked. I wouldn't even get a word in. Does this mean..that for even a few minutes...i was an OW?
whichwayisup Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 He DID cheat on his wife! He did something very wrong and inappropriate considering he is married. You, knowing that he was married, kissed him anyway. So, I would say, yes, you had afew stolen moments of being the OW, even if it was in 'name' only. He shouldn't be confiding in you and your friend about his personal relationship as it seems he is using it as an excuse to flirt and open doors which should stay closed. Suggest to him, that if he needs help he should talk to one of his GUY friends or seek therapy to sort it out. Encourage him to work things out at home - That is what a friend does for another friend.
lovernotafighter Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 a horrible kiss..blaugh...I hate that! blot this dude out of your momory banks forever..yuck:sick:
Author MusicWoman Posted March 29, 2006 Author Posted March 29, 2006 yea blah!! I havn't spoken to him in about 5 months. We don't talk anymore, because he says he can't control what he feels when he talks to me. I'm happy we're not talking any more if thats the case. But, we were friends, and its true that his wife is a b****, so I guess the only thing that still keeps him in my head is just hoping hes doing alright.
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