Guest Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 hey all im just writin this to get some things off my chest, some insight is greatly appreciated!! i didnt know where else to post this besides under parenting. My son is due on April 23 and I feel I am not ready for the labor, or for the baby to be here. I am 19 yrs old and i have all the help in the world. me and my boyfriend want to get married, we have support from both of our families so i know im in a good situation and my baby will have a very good family environment and everything considering im not married yet and I am young to be having a baby. I'm just scared. I am going to be juggling school, work, plus a son. i just feel so overwhelmed and i know that going to school adn working does not leave me money to support myself and a baby, even though his daddy says i will not have to worry because no matter what he is gonna be here to provide, and i also have both sets of grandparents helping out, but i still want the knowledge that i can do it on my own. i still dont know what i wanna be in the future. i dont know where i will work becuse the job i have now doesnt pay me enough. its just so much stress and the road is gonna be hard for me. as i said i have no clue what i wanna do and i have to get my schooling over with so I can get married and start my future. I know im like going on and on and it might be hard to follow along with this but its just killing me and i am just letting it out. i want to be able to work at job where im off at night so i can spend time with my son but i dont see how that is gonna work with school. UGH. i cant help but worry about all this even though i know worrying is not good for me or baby. Im just not ready. IM OVERWHELMED! Also, I was just wondering if its okay to have sex in the missionary position.I am 8 months pregnant and when i have intercourse missionary, i get stomache pains from my man being on top, but this is the position that me and him both prefer because it feels better and it makes us feel closer to each other. I keep worrying if having sex this way is "squishing" our little one. If anyone can give me insight on any of this it would be greatly appreciated!!
lulu2go Posted April 12, 2006 Posted April 12, 2006 Hey its completely natural to feel overwhelmed, I mean sounds like you have alot on your plate. I was 21 when my first child came along. I too felt overwhelmed and remember stressing about work, money and our future etc. For me it was the unplanned pregnancy more than anything. Its just your going down a different road than what you planned.. try to take things as they come. You can still accomplish all that you wanted, time will tell. Although I don't blame you, try not to worry so much. Things have a tendancy to unfold in your life as and when they're meant to so try to relax a little as yes worrying isn't good for bubs or for you for that matter. I'm now 28 yrs old, I have two children, I am single now but own my own home and am financially better off than some of my friends who are married and have recently had their first child. I still have goals and plans as much as the next which keeps me ticking and my children are happy, healthy and never go without. Sure there are hard times - but I've learnt its only as hard as you make it. The joy your son will bring you and your partner will make up for it. Make him your motivation and strength, my children are mine =) All the best and CONGRATULATIONS!! Oh yeah as for the sex position, best to ask your doctor. My opinion, if it feels uncomfortable, change your position where you feel comfortable (ie don't feel any stomach pain and bubs isn't being squished) Still, ask your doctor, or midwife if you have one, they're the professionals.
penkitten Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 hi overwhelmed, welcome to parenthood! everything you are going thru is perfectly normal. however, things will be just fine so try not to worry. right now, sleep as much as you can because thats about to be over for a little while. get the babys room all ready and get film for that camera. pack those bags and get all your chores done and relax. as far as the sex, rule of thumb says that as long as your water isnt broken or leaking and your mucus plug is still in place and dialating hasnt started yet, the baby will be fine and your child will not be squished, nor see daddys peepee. staying sexually active has been rumored to keep you in shape for your labor. it is also an old wives tale that it can hurry a baby here. who knows for sure? at this stage in your pregnancy, you might not be comfy on your back, due to the babys weight. try being on top or laying on your side. talk to your dr about your concerns, thats why you pay him. i say get as much now as you can, because once that baby is here you have to wait six whole weeks until you can do it again, and then its not comfy for a while. motherhood is the most wonderful thing, welcome to the club. from a mother of 4
climbergirl Posted April 13, 2006 Posted April 13, 2006 I had to smile when I read this, because.........you sound like a mommy already. Sincerely, by reading your post you appear strong and capable enough--the complaints and worries are completely normal at this stage of pregnancy. And you're not even bitching about not being able to sleep at night!! Congratulations on your soon-to-be-born addition to your family!! Oh, and as far as the missionary position......try using a pillow (or two)under your hips........takes pressure off of your stomach.
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