MusicWoman Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Just curious what LS people think about this... 1) The type of guy your always attracted to. Laid back, funny, handsome. He is always the guy in the group that no-one else in the group can say anything bad about. You become swept off of your feet and if you two start up a relationship theres so much emotion (maybe more so on your part than his) You fall for the guy. You start to realize that his laid backness...may be too laid back. You don't feel as wanted as you want to feel...so you start acting more needy. Theres still so much emotion...but when you look at these relationships after the fact there was no practicality for anything in the future. 2) The type of guy your not instantly attracted to. The 'nice guy' of the group of friends that never has a girlfriend and everyone wonders 'why' but no-one accually starts dating him. He grows on you and you start to love him. He will do anything for you and treats you like gold. The feelings are slow growing...but they're growing. Hes not the whirlwind of emotion like the other guy, but he is all full of practicality for the future. Same morals and values as you. Not as easy going...but still a great and wonderful guy. So, which type would you choose if you had to choose one? Maybe one isn't really better than the other...but I'm just curious as to what you guys would pick if you had to pick one
electric_sheep Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 If I read this right, and I may not have, let me make a couple of more generalizations: Guy #1 is extraverted, cool, and laid back ... but you sort of have this feeling that everything has a slight superficial element to it, like he is not really opening up, or he doesn't need you as much as you need him. He is confident and self-assured, and has a lot of his emotional needs met through his social group. Guy #2 is probably a touch introverted, and isn't as popular with the crowd, but he probably has a deeper and richer personal life. While you may not be as wowed by him at first, there seems to be much potential below the surface, and you feel that the relationship you do form with him has the potential to be deeper and more meaningful. Really this is a matter of taste I think, and it's largely a matter of degree. Guy #1 can no doubt form deep relationships too, but he shows it differently. I tend to go for people like #2, simply because I'm fairly introverted, a touch quirky, and a little awkward myself. I sort of like those qualities in a person. Sometimes mixed couples can be very happy though ... they sort of bring the good qualities of both personality types into the relationship.
whichwayisup Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 For me, I would just go with my heart. You can't settle for someone just because they may be abit less or more laid back than the other person. Settling isn't fair to anyone, and most of all, to yourself.
agnf666 Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 For me I would have went for the laid back person... Since I am laid back myself... I try to find a person that has close to the same interests and personality traits as me... Sometimes it works... sometimes it doesn't
Author MusicWoman Posted March 23, 2006 Author Posted March 23, 2006 thanks I was just interested to know what some other people thought..hehe I personally chose number 2....although at first instinct was always attracted to number 1 and still find myself attracted to number 1's when I run into them. My man now its COMPLETELY the opposite of any of my ex's. I love him all the same:)
Delectable Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 For me, I would just go with my heart. You can't settle for someone just because they may be abit less or more laid back than the other person. Settling isn't fair to anyone, and most of all, to yourself. WWIU always seems to be right on point!
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