Chocolatellama Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Okay, its been 2 months nc and i still don't feel much better. Whenever i see anything that reminds me of him i choke up inside and it's almost like i can't breathe. I just saw a picture of him kissing another guy. It seems that i turn every guy i go out with gay Has this happened to anyone else? I guess it's a bit of a weird question but i feel like i've turned everyone gay. I mean i don't have a problem with it. But am i that disgusting that they have to turn off women completely?
KittenMoon Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 There is nothing wrong with you!!! I have a friend that has the same problem. It's a running joke that if she's attracted to a guy, it's a dead giveaway that he's gay. And it almost always is! She's had bfs come out after dating her, etc. I think it's sort of complementary- there is something in you that attracts a certain type of guy and gay guys tend to be more sensitive, empathic, and emotional. Don't worry- sooner or later you'll find a straight guy who likes that certain something in you. And remember- at least you don't have to deal with him moving on to another girl and wondering what she has that you don't- you already know! A penis!
whats wrong with me Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Chocolatellama, I dont mean to laugh but....you poor thing! surely there's nothing wrong with you. (I went through a streak myself.... but they didn't turn gat they put themselves the nut house) If I were you I wouldn't see myself as disgusting, most gay guys have an eye for beauty!!!
Touche Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Uh..hello? You can't "turn" someone gay? Did you know that? NEWSFLASH: They were that way when you met them. They just didn't tell you.
KittenMoon Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Oh hush, touché! People come out at different times in their life- sometimes it takes a while to realize what they really want. And sometimes it happens after a relationship that was good, but made them realize, because it was comfortable enough for them to finally admit this, that they were not interested in the opposite sex.
Touche Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Oh hush, touché! People come out at different times in their life- sometimes it takes a while to realize what they really want. And sometimes it happens after a relationship that was good, but made them realize, because it was comfortable enough for them to finally admit this, that they were not interested in the opposite sex. Oh hush? It sounded to me like the OP REALLY believes that she has this special "power" to make someone turn gay. I just thought I'd point out to her that she doesn't and that they were already that way. Got it? Good. Now grow up and stop telling people to "hush" because you don't like what they say.
KittenMoon Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Calm down- I didn't mean it as an insult. I get what you said, but instead of what you said first, you should have said what you said second. That she doesn't have the power to turn people gay! Not that they were already like that. It's not her fault at all, it wasn't something she necesarily would have seen at all, etc. Honestly, I kinda wish my ex-bf was gay- so I could convince him to invite me in once or twice! But I know he's not- the fact that I had to drag him kicking and screaming to the mall for anything (no matter how badly he needed clothes) is proof of that!
littlekitty Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Ladies.. chose your handbags.....! It's handbags at dawn!!
Touche Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Calm down- I didn't mean it as an insult. I get what you said, but instead of what you said first, you should have said what you said second. That she doesn't have the power to turn people gay! Not that they were already like that. It's not her fault at all, it wasn't something she necesarily would have seen at all, etc. Honestly, I kinda wish my ex-bf was gay- so I could convince him to invite me in once or twice! But I know he's not- the fact that I had to drag him kicking and screaming to the mall for anything (no matter how badly he needed clothes) is proof of that! My second post say the SAME thing that the first post did. I was just supporting the first post with the second one. By my telling her that they were ALREADY like that, it follows that she doesn't have the power to make them that way. I thought that was obvious. Guess to some it wasn't. Oh well...
KittenMoon Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Look- I'm sorry. Didn't mean to start a tiff. I'm a writer and I'm simply over-aware of the tone of saying one thing vs saying another, even if they are essentially the same things being said.
a4a Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 You can too turn a man gay... Tie them up make them watch Bette Midler movies, listen to Liza and Cher, and force them to go pillow and fabric shopping!! Eventually they will turn gay, helps is you have a gay boy scout leader to help you along with tips and hints. Women tend to become lesbians after realizing that it is a waste of time to have a meaningful relationship with men.
Touche Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 You can too turn a man gay... Tie them up make them watch Bette Midler movies, listen to Liza and Cher, and force them to go pillow and fabric shopping!! Eventually they will turn gay, helps is you have a gay boy scout leader to help you along with tips and hints. Women tend to become lesbians after realizing that it is a waste of time to have a meaningful relationship with men. Oh HUSH A!
whats wrong with me Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 You can too turn a man gay... Women tend to become lesbians after realizing that it is a waste of time to have a meaningful relationship with men. :laugh:
skeptik224 Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 A4A - Your post is an insult to the gay community. I have many friends that are gay, and it sad that you are so stereotypical - even if you are joking.
Author Chocolatellama Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 Ha ha ok thanks guys.. I guess it is kind of funny.. I'm only young and i'm sure i'l find someone that isn't gay/won't turn gay. Like i said i don't have a problem with gay people and i'm sorry if this upsets anyone.. though I wish i could become a lesbian sometimes.. Guys suck
Touche Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 A4A - Your post is an insult to the gay community. I have many friends that are gay, and it sad that you are so stereotypical - even if you are joking. The only way it's an insult to the gay community is if the gay community has no sense of humor. I have lots of gay friends and they thought it was funny. So I guess YOUR friends, gay or not, have NO sense of humor.
Author Chocolatellama Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 Most of my gay friends always tease me about turning people gay lol.. Oh well Plenty more straight fish in the sea!
littlekitty Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 The only way it's an insult to the gay community is if the gay community has no sense of humor. I have lots of gay friends and they thought it was funny. So I guess YOUR friends, gay or not, have NO sense of humor. Exactly it was a joke!! And a4a is certainly in a place to say: Women tend to become lesbians after realizing that it is a waste of time to have a meaningful relationship with men. She'd know!!
a4a Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 A4A - Your post is an insult to the gay community. I have many friends that are gay, and it sad that you are so stereotypical - even if you are joking. Honey I lived many years in the land of OZ. Carpet munchers UNITE! I have a name tag, union membership, and the flannel shirt. So your point is I offended myself?
whats wrong with me Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: :lmao: great answer a4a! :lmao:
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