trone Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Some of you know my story. Things has changed a bit during the course of last 10 days. A little update: - I kept NC and have been feeling way way better. I think I hit bottom about two weeks ago and then things has begun to change positively. I am not feeling sorry for myself anymore, enjoy going out and not feeling down at all. - I have got a very good promotion and offer from my company. But as part of the deal, I will be moving to Middle East for a year as an executive. I will come back and take another role next year located here again. So, I will be moving very soon and I have really been thinking if I should say a friendly "bye" to my ex. She still keeps NC so I do not know how good the idea is. I really think that she is very nice girl despite her issues and would love to have a chance to be able to communicate as two mature friends. I would appreciate your suggestions.
whats wrong with me Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 I dont know your story so its kinda hard for me to say yes or no. My first impression would be no, dont say "bye" but maybe someone else here knows you better and would disagree with me.
KittenMoon Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 I would say a friendly goodbye would be in order. I would certainly be devastated all over again if my ex moved without letting me know- esp. to another country! But I would just send a simple email- "I wanted to let you know I was moving to the middle east for a year because of the job, here's my contact info IN CASE OF EMERGENCIES, etc" Don't even expect a reply, just let them know. It's polite if nothing else.
the_alchemyst Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 No, what for? She doesn't care, anyways. Just let her enjoy her life; don't bring her down by making her remember you. She probably doesn't even care, so why bother? Then again, I am such a bitter mood right now. I wish I could move to the ME.
littlekitty Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 I'm inclined to say no. But maybe you could let her know, but say, send the mail the day you leave or something. My fear would be that renewed contact - if it happens - might interfer with your plans and hold you back.
jerbear Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Here are my toughts. I did consider this of moving on without her by getting an MBA in Ireland. Without telling her. I would say don't send her a "bye" directly. Just let your mutual friends know, firends of yours that she can ask if something is up. She maybe heartbroken but that is a part of life. Since she went NC, there is really no point to let her know. There is a point where it is just to late for her to reestablish contact, reconcile, or renew interests.
destination_unknown Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 hey jerbear, come get that mba over here! i think there is nothing wrong with just saying goodbye.
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