taylor3205 Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 To those of you who are suffering the pain of a breakup at the moment, hang in there, it DOES get better with time. I thought my world had ended, I didnt want to go on, it took me a while to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I spent days moping around, not sleeping, not eating, drinking too much and focusing on what it was that I had 'lost', went on anti depressants too. Well let me tell you, if your exe's were that wonderful and they truly cared about you, they wouldnt be exe's. Instead they have DUMPED you, to fulfill there own needs. F***k em!!! I finally feel like its time to concentrate on what it is I want out of life. I was happy before, I am getting there again. You have to look after number one in this life, why why why why why????? WHy did it happen, what caused it, what could have been done differently? Its questions like these that drive you nuts. I dont care why anymore, it just is and I have to make the most of it. Was good while it lasted, now its ended, its a new beginning!!! I can do what I want, when I want, without taking another persons feelings into consideration. I do feel quite relaxed about it all atm, I am finally letting go. Was with my ex 7 years, lived together for 5. Was hard but its a lot better now and its only been 6 month. He was with someone new within a month of our breakup, in fact he was with them 2 days after we split up (however they were just friends and it was a complete coincidence etc. Yea riiiiggggghhhhhhhttt - A LOAD OF BS!!!). Well I said it before and I will say it again, f**K em!!! Concentrate on yourselves, they are not worth it, you WILL get over it.
2020vision Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Taylor3205, I totally agree. One of the things that kept me going through my break up was hope. I knew that I was going to go through hell by leaving my b/f, but at the end, I would be much happier. It has been about 4 months since the split and I am finally truley feeling like myself. And a better and new-improved self at that. Since I found out my ex moved in with his new g/f (they were "friends" too, she was over at his place the night after I moved out, nice coincidence!) I have really concentrated on moving on. It hurt bad to find out that he had found someone else and made a huge commitment with her, however, it kind of sealed the deal for me. It was closure that we will never get back together and I have been able to move on. I have just realized that it is all about finding your own "groove". To the point where you don't need someone there anymore. It is a wonderful feeling, nothing can compare to it, even the feeling I used to have when in love with my ex. Mostly because I completley control my own happiness now, its amazing. To all those who just broke up, there really is light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there! And keep posting on LS, it helps.
Author taylor3205 Posted March 23, 2006 Author Posted March 23, 2006 Since I found out my ex moved in with his new g/f (they were "friends" too, she was over at his place the night after I moved out, nice coincidence!) I have really concentrated on moving on. It hurt bad to find out that he had found someone else and made a huge commitment with her, however, it kind of sealed the deal for me. It was closure that we will never get back together and I have been able to move on. Yep, this is what sealed the deal for me too. Since I found out he was definitely with somebody else. This was the turning point for me, I came to the realisation that it was over for good. It hurt like mad at the time but in the end it just gave me the srength I needed to stop beating myself up over the whole thing. I have just realized that it is all about finding your own "groove". To the point where you don't need someone there anymore. It is a wonderful feeling, nothing can compare to it, even the feeling I used to have when in love with my ex. Mostly because I completley control my own happiness now, its amazing. To all those who just broke up, there really is light at the end of the tunnel, hang in there! And keep posting on LS, it helps. This is so so true. You need to learn how to be happy on your own again. I felt like I NEEDED my ex to survive when he first left, silly I know, but true. My self esteem was at an all time low, I thought that there was something wrong with me. It was a very hard thing to go through but if the truth was told, we wanted different things out of life. He was happy living here in this small town working 9-5 in some minimum pay job whereas I have allways wanted to move away (which I am now going to do in Sept). Looking back on the relationship, everything was about him, what he wanted. I wanted to go to uni, move away and get out of this town but because I fell in love with him I stayed. He allways professed he would like to move away too, but there was allways some excuse why we couldnt (money, job, college etc). I compromised and done part time university study at home with the Open University in the hope that one day we could move. I do resent him for stringing me along, I resent him for the fact that all he had to do was pack his clothes and a few personal possesions and just up and leave. I was left with the house, the dogs, his piano and everything else along with debt (although he had a bit of debt as well). The hardest thing for me to do now is to find a new home for my dogs. One of them being HIS dog, who he just conveniently left with me. Well you live and learn. I will not be putting anything it is I want out of life on hold for anyone ever again. Im going for what it is I want and If anyone cares enough about me, they will support me in anything that I do.
2020vision Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Yup, I gave up everything for my ex, my friends, my time, my love, I just basically gave up myself. I even had to turn in a car that I was leasing becuase I could no longer make the payments because I was paying his portion of the rent as well as mine and almost all the bills. It was horrible. I was at an all time low when I left him; I did not have a car and I had to move back in with my parents. Now, I have a gotten a huge promotion at work, I have bought myself a really nice car again, and I just moved into a really nice apartment of my own. And, my ex still contacts me. (Or at least tries to) He contacted me two weeks ago, calling me like crazy and texting me with I love you and I miss you. I never responded. Then he emailed me two days ago with how much he doesn't deserve me and how he would like to apologize for the way he treated me. Whatever, I will never accept an apology from him and I really don't care. I blocked him from my e-mail. I just feel bad for his g/f; she thinks everything is wonderful between the two of them, while he is still contacting me telling me how he misses me and loves me. Now he is HER problem, not mine! I went through the whole dog dilemma too. Except, when I left our place, I did not take the dog. It was actually really hard to leave my little baby with him, but I could not stand to have one more memory of our relationship around me. Besides, from what I heard from his mom a couple weeks ago, the dog is now his new g/f's. Someone your are in love with should not complicate your life, they should compliment it. Good for you, do what you want that is when you will be your happiest.
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