riobikini Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Walk, your above answer was absolutely encompassing. Well done!!! (Smile) -Rio
ehead Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 I'm just jumping onto this thread at the end here, sorry ... @Walk Do you think it's important for women and men to fall into the societal defined gender roles ? I mean, to a certain degree, I can understand being attracted to people who closely match these roles ... after all, our entire lives we have been bombarded by images telling us THAT is what is attractive. I'd be lying if I said I didn't find a smooth, lilthe and svelte young girl in a summer dress attractive, but ... wouldn't you agree that all those roles do is limit us and fence us in ? Personally I look forward to a future where people can simply grow up and be themselves, and don't feel pressure to adhere or conform to perceived "roles". A lot of these roles are very destructive. For example, men are far more likely to be silent depression sufferers, no doubt because sharing feelings is perceived to be outside the male "role". Women are under an enormous amount of pressure to be beautiful, however that happens to be interpretted at the time. People should just be people. My gf and I laugh because we have sort of flipped roles, both emotionally and physically. She doesn't shave her armpits or her legs, is a little brusque, farts outloud, is not romantic at all, and I daresay a tad insensitive at times. I shave my legs and chest (I like to dress up in drag), am very romantic, and probably a little too emotive. That doesn't mean she's without her girly side or me without my masculine side ... it's just we don't allow ourselves to be constrained by them. It seems to work most of the time.
Guest Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Wow! I've scanned back through this thread, -and it was certainly not what I expected when I first posted! I'd actually like to hear more of the original questions answered, from the start of this thread. Sex is wonderful, -jeez!!, I think most of us do it -but can we focus on some of the other 'glue' that truly holds a relationship together and get some comments out there on those problems/solutions? (Although -Smile- there were some rather arousing topics being discussed...ahem!...food for thought later...) Note: Some of you are v-e-r-r-r-y creative. (Smile) -Rio me too (what some other questions answered) I still am very curious about the crying bit or the questions you put in other wods (sometimes I'm not so good at putting my thoughts into words)....So what gives guys, why aren't you bawlbabies? do your emotions not include sadness?
Author Walk Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 @Walk Do you think it's important for women and men to fall into the societal defined gender roles ? ............. but ... wouldn't you agree that all those roles do is limit us and fence us in ? Personally I look forward to a future where people can simply grow up and be themselves, and don't feel pressure to adhere or conform to perceived "roles". A lot of these roles are very destructive. For example, men are far more likely to be silent depression sufferers, no doubt because sharing feelings is perceived to be outside the male "role". Women are under an enormous amount of pressure to be beautiful, however that happens to be interpretted at the time. People should just be people. I'm not sure if I've settled on an answer for gender roles yet. I know my perceptions of them have changed over the last few years. I used to be a die hard feminist. I refused to do anything that was a traditional woman's role. I fought hard to prove I was just as capable, if not more so, then a man at any job you could throw at me. I didn't want to be viewed as a woman, but as a human being who was talented and capable at whatever she chose to accomplish. So, my views changed after a few experiences I had that really altered my life. I began to see my limitations, and accept them. I started to see my femininity as something to be embraced, instead of fought against. Saw that I was attempting to use only the characteristics of a man to get things done, instead of what my true strengths were. I have more strength in changing things using the abilities I was born with, yet adapting them to the situation. This is not reading as clearly as I had hoped. I'm trying to say that I learned there is a lot of power in being feminine. Both in the traditional sense of using your body as something to be desired, and also in using the way a females brain works differently from a man's. It seems like a waste not to attempt to use all available resources to help myself and others. If that includes "woman" behaviors and actions, then so be it. I've acted like the helpless woman in order to make someone feel as though they are the big protector. Not to get them to do something selfishly for myself, but because the big protector had to do it anyway, and I wanted him to feel as though there was a greater good in what he was doing. And it doesn't make me less of a person for playing that role, because I know I'm not weak.. *shrug* So acting more traditional in that sense is an ability I have that can be used to help those close to me. I agree that no one should be forced into a "role" simply because of a chromosome. I think some woman are coddled too much in life and allowed to get out of doing their share of work because they are the "weaker" sex. I think men are forced into a solitary emotional existence to some degree. But to treat both sexes as though they are the same is not logical. We aren't the same. We don't think the same, act the same, or even have the same needs in life. To assume we are exactly the same and therefore interchangeable seems a little short-sighted to me. I think both genders need to define their weaknesses and strengths individually, and find someone who is a compliment to them. Not sure that was clear at all... I'm still attempting to clarify my views to myself. Thanks for asking though. I think I gained some insight out of writing that.
Vertex Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 @Walk's bj comment: Oh man. Let's get together sometime jk But I do agree with your comment about roles. Oftentimes society has put forth expectations and, at least for me, I feel that they sometimes serve as "predictors" for behavior, and I never liked being defined by gender roles that gave people preset impressions for how I was supposed to act, and I assume this was similar for yourself. Thing is, we are different by gender physically and mentally, and with these differences come inherent strengths in different forms. Therefore it makes sense to embrace these strengths and make the best of things, even if some of these strengths happen to fall into predefined roles.
Author Walk Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 So why to women scratch it? :lol: I scratch 'cause sometimes the hair gets itchy. Or I had gotten a bit excited and a little wet and now it's drying. Or my panties are scratchy on a sensitive portion of skin. But NEVER in public, or just in front of friends, or anything. You guys will friggin' stand in front of someone you've never met before and just dig away down there. Like you haven't showered in decades and the lice are crawling.
Author Walk Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 @Walk's bj comment: Oh man. Let's get together sometime jk But I do agree with your comment about roles. Oftentimes society has put forth expectations and, at least for me, I feel that they sometimes serve as "predictors" for behavior, and I never liked being defined by gender roles that gave people preset impressions for how I was supposed to act, and I assume this was similar for yourself. Thing is, we are different by gender physically and mentally, and with these differences come inherent strengths in different forms. Therefore it makes sense to embrace these strengths and make the best of things, even if some of these strengths happen to fall into predefined roles. Exactly. And you said it more clearly then I did.
Vertex Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Eh I hardly consider myself eloquent, but thanks! A question I now pose to the masses (I am male): Why, after a breakup, does the opposite sex immediately want to put forth the question of staying friends? Why is there this certain insensitivity towards the feelings of the person who was dumped? Obviously if they are still in love, then this question is just painful, so, why do it?
Lil Honey Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Here are a couple more . . . 1. WHY do men spit? 2. Why do baseball players and Michael Jackson grab at themselves in front of millions of people? 3. How can you be so uninhibited with the scratching and grabbing? 4. Many women "obsess" about their size/weight/attractiveness. What do men "obsess" about? 5. Many heterosexual men seem to find gay men repulsive. So, why are two women together hot rather than repulsive?
whats wrong with me Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Eh I hardly consider myself eloquent, but thanks! A question I now pose to the masses (I am male): Why, after a breakup, does the opposite sex immediately want to put forth the question of staying friends? Why is there this certain insensitivity towards the feelings of the person who was dumped? Obviously if they are still in love, then this question is just painful, so, why do it? Not me buddy...after a break up, your lucky if I dont try to kill you!!!
jerbear Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Eh I hardly consider myself eloquent, but thanks! A question I now pose to the masses (I am male): Why, after a breakup, does the opposite sex immediately want to put forth the question of staying friends? Why is there this certain insensitivity towards the feelings of the person who was dumped? Obviously if they are still in love, then this question is just painful, so, why do it? For me, there is no friendship after a breakup. Not worth it. Knowing each other exists above strangers is ok. I'm not ok with calling me to say hi, bday, congrats, etc... She will not get malice from me; even if she did try to hurt me. As in ask her to get out of my way or walk around her. The others I would consider plowing right thru.
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 5. Many heterosexual men seem to find gay men repulsive. So, why are two women together hot rather than repulsive? For me (I'm female) seeing two men kissing is HOT. Seeing two men give eachother blowjobs is HOT. The buttf***ing is abit too much to take. That doesn't turn me on. Seeing two women go at it is less intrusive than two men. Two women together is sensual, sexy and hot! Hope that makes sense.
whichwayisup Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 WWIU: Sorry I asked. Ignorance WAS bliss. Ah, you're making me laugh...Is it true though, huh?
Lil Honey Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Is what true? Ingornance being bliss? Yeah. It IS. *snicker, giggle, snort*
Vertex Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Thing is, my ex-gf was someone I was really close to -- and I'd like to still be close to her, but she doesn't want to be with me in a relationship and I feel like I should have more self-respect and not allow her to push me into the friend zone like that.
jerbear Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 For me (I'm female) seeing two men kissing is HOT. Seeing two men give eachother blowjobs is HOT. The buttf***ing is abit too much to take. That doesn't turn me on. Seeing two women go at it is less intrusive than two men. Two women together is sensual, sexy and hot! Hope that makes sense. Got a woody in the morning and now limpy for the REST of the WEEKEND...
jerbear Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Thing is, my ex-gf was someone I was really close to -- and I'd like to still be close to her, but she doesn't want to be with me in a relationship and I feel like I should have more self-respect and not allow her to push me into the friend zone like that. I understand how you feel, I'm a guy and also in the same boat. FYI: You may want to start a new thread on this subject and I'm sure many women would reply.
Lil Honey Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Got a woody in the morningWhich brings me to my next question . . . what is it about mornings that makes that happen?
PlentyLV007 Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 1)Tell me exactly what it feels like to receive a blow job. 2)Tell me exaclty what it feels like to have a woman make love to you and you have that orgasm. (I'd love to experience a male orgasm!) OOPS. That isn't what you're looking for... I gotta sit and think about afew questions now. No s***! LOL! MY ways of thinking exactly.... LOVE IT!!!!
jerbear Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 Which brings me to my next question . . . what is it about mornings that makes that happen? I get them every morning for many years. I think I maybe less stressed, warm, cozy, and more relaxed? Or I had an erotic dream that I didn't know about. It could also be the signed semi-naked picture of Liz Phair in my room. I bought it after my breakup.
Mary3 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 My question now after this is: 1) How long are you women willing to put up with on a bj? 35 min 2) Half / full day love making sessions? or shorter like under 1-2 hours? Shorter more frequent 3) Morning or Evening? Both 4) How many times a day/week/month? 2 times a day
Mary3 Posted March 25, 2006 Posted March 25, 2006 Originally Posted by Mary3 3. If you could have only one : Hot Blonde , Hot Redhead , Hot Brunette ? Redhead, push the wrong buttons she explodes, push the right buttons, she explodes. ``````` Jerbear : I am a redhead
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