MrsHellFire Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 "He has compared me to her in bed saying I'm the best lover he has ever had and even though he knew the exOW had more experience than me (been with a lot of men) I was much better in bed than her and he couldn't believe how stupid he was that he almost lost me because of her. " Seems like the only compliments he's giving are sexual ones. Is this what he bases your relationship on alone? Just sexual and superficial matters (breast size)? Even If all were true, why have a sexual affair then???? Something WAS and possibly IS still lacking and he's got to figure out what it is before it heads downhill again. Thinking still about some chick from 2 years ago is pathetic.
Guest Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 "He has compared me to her in bed saying I'm the best lover he has ever had and even though he knew the exOW had more experience than me (been with a lot of men) I was much better in bed than her and he couldn't believe how stupid he was that he almost lost me because of her. " Seems like the only compliments he's giving are sexual ones. Is this what he bases your relationship on alone? Just sexual and superficial matters (breast size)? Even If all were true, why have a sexual affair then???? Something WAS and possibly IS still lacking and he's got to figure out what it is before it heads downhill again. Thinking still about some chick from 2 years ago is pathetic. Hmmm, I never really thought about his only compliments are sexual ones. There are times he does compliment me about looking nice (and nothing sexual about it). The compliment about my breast isn't the size, I'm not large cheasted, nor am I small, I guess I'm average. It's not the breast size, it's just the way my breast are (perfect to him and my H isn't the first man that has told me my breast were perfect, my first lover said the samething and they don't know eachother at all). Why did he have the sexual A? I don't feel their A was all about sex. It was also an emotional A along with the physical. Like I said in the beginning of my thread there was M problems, hence the reason for seperation. I don't see the same problems we had before the A. I don't see him having another A, and if he does, I will deal with that when it comes. I don't think it's pathetic of him to be thinking of the OW after two years. I don't know why he did, but I do think about some of my ex'es. It's not that I want to get back with them, but just because they were part of my life at one time.
MrsHellFire Posted March 31, 2006 Posted March 31, 2006 NOBODY thinks about their exes to the extent of bringing them up to their new lover on a continual basis unless they want to still be with them. Sorry, that's just how I feel. The whole situation is OBSURD!!!! A FLING/AFFAIR should not have such an impact on someone for that long, unless they still care about them or are emotionally attached. To accept that it is alright really isn't putting much value on YOURSELF. Breast size etc... whatever... STILL SUPERFICIAL. Compliments about looking nice= superficial. Point is that there is nothing DEEP or SUPSTANTIAL it seems that is linking you both together to prevent another affair. If there was, he probably would have never done it in the first place.
MrsHellFire Posted March 31, 2006 Posted March 31, 2006 " I don't see him having another A " You probably never saw him having a first affair either!! UNTIL TOO LATE! Comparing you to her SEXUALLY means he's still thinking about how it was like to have sex with her WHILE HE'S IN BED WITH YOU!!! NICE!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!! ENOUGH SAID!!
Guest Posted March 31, 2006 Posted March 31, 2006 " I don't see him having another A " You probably never saw him having a first affair either!! UNTIL TOO LATE! Comparing you to her SEXUALLY means he's still thinking about how it was like to have sex with her WHILE HE'S IN BED WITH YOU!!! NICE!!! UNBELIEVABLE!!! ENOUGH SAID!! You're right, I never did see him having the first A either. When he said my breast were better than hers we weren't in bed at the time. Like his usual self he just wanted me to flash him, we weren't in bed, in fact we were watching tv. And no, nothing sexual was on. As I said before he has an infactuation with my breast. After a little bit was when he commented on my breast being better than hers. I want to thank you for opening up my eyes to this whole situation. I would never compare him to one of my ex'es, especially to his face like the way he did me. Makes me wonder if he still thinks about her a lot and misses what he had with her.
MrsHellFire Posted April 1, 2006 Posted April 1, 2006 I hope I'm wrong! Other peoples opinions might fit his personality better. GOOD LUCK!
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