Apathetic Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 Well for those who are familiar w/ my story know how I was unable to resist my EX..Well my EX asked me if I wanted to hang out today & I said "NO,im busy,maybe another day"..Im so proud of myself for saying NO to him & not making myself available..Believe me there was a part of me who wanted to say yes but I knew I had to tell him no..I regret it only a little bit but not as much as I am glad I did that!
whats wrong with me Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I'm not reallyy familiar with your story....but I do know how hard that is (saying NO) so just wanted to Tell you GOOD JOB and whatever situation your in you seem to be a strong person!!!!
Author Apathetic Posted March 23, 2006 Author Posted March 23, 2006 Well to make it short..My EX & I broke up but have been in contact since as "friends" & it isnt going so good considering I was unable to say NO to him..I made myself too available & would always jump at the chance to see him,so thats why im proud I said no today lol
temptris33 Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 OMG! I am so bad at that. Tonight was the first night that I had told him that I wouldn't be able to see him. I was driving back from my parents house and I saw him on my street! He obviously was there to see me and I wasnt there just like I told Him I wouldn't be. He wouldn' even come back up when I asked...He had serious attitude about it . It felt hella good! Yay for you too!
jerbear Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Great job! I do not know your situation but great job on saying no! Just make sure your LC (limited contact due to friendship) remains that way or goto NC to heal, like one of Cali Guy's posts.
Author Apathetic Posted March 23, 2006 Author Posted March 23, 2006 Yeah it was hard & I somewhat regret it now because I did want to see him but knew I had to say no..I swear it feels like Im addicted to him lol:confused:
CaliGuy Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 Yeah it was hard & I somewhat regret it now because I did want to see him but knew I had to say no..I swear it feels like Im addicted to him lol:confused: If you feel that way, you probably are and need to focus on yourself, your needs and making your happiness #1. You can do it without him. In fact, you not only have to do it, but remain doing so througout a relationship.
Author Apathetic Posted March 24, 2006 Author Posted March 24, 2006 I am not sure how to focus on just myself.Ive never done that.Finding happiness? Whats that?? ...I am just so sick of thinking about him 24/7,waking up to him and going to bed to him.In the morning my eyes arent even completly open yet,im half awake & already hes on my mind!!! I just want to stop thinking about him. I want to be able to not cry or get upset or miss him.I feel like I am going insane & sometimes I just want to get out of my own mind b/c its driving me nuts!..One day its ok & then the next all I want to do is be with him or talk to him,either im mad at him or love him to death.My feelings keep going back & forth & I know this is normal but it still doesnt make me feel any better
CaliGuy Posted March 24, 2006 Posted March 24, 2006 I am not sure how to focus on just myself.Ive never done that.Finding happiness? Whats that?? ...I am just so sick of thinking about him 24/7,waking up to him and going to bed to him.In the morning my eyes arent even completly open yet,im half awake & already hes on my mind!!! I just want to stop thinking about him. I want to be able to not cry or get upset or miss him.I feel like I am going insane & sometimes I just want to get out of my own mind b/c its driving me nuts!..One day its ok & then the next all I want to do is be with him or talk to him,either im mad at him or love him to death.My feelings keep going back & forth & I know this is normal but it still doesnt make me feel any better Read my thread on 'second chances' (see my signature) and you will see a way to get yourself back on track.
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