Author noclobber Posted March 27, 2006 Author Posted March 27, 2006 I mean I've been seeing this guy for about 3 weeks, we've gone out on 5-6 dates and he's already telling me he misses me, and always wants to be with me. Calls constantly, like 2-3 times a day...text me like 3-4 times a day...I mean....I like it but, I think it's over the top.... Sorry I know off the topic.... Classic nice guy syndrome
MadDog Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 hahaahahah ,with the new guy I'm seeing I can't look him in his face too much. Especially when he talks to me about feelings, and mushy stuff, it's like oh god!@!!! Not again... I'm not a big fan on talking about my feelings, especially the whole I miss you, and I always want to be w/ you and all that crap!!! I know it sounds mean but, I'm not like most girls that dig on that .... I actually feel like pulling out a barf bag.... I'm more hands on, I'll show you kinda of deal. I mean I've been seeing this guy for about 3 weeks, we've gone out on 5-6 dates and he's already telling me he misses me, and always wants to be with me. Calls constantly, like 2-3 times a day...text me like 3-4 times a day...I mean....I like it but, I think it's over the top.... Sorry I know off the topic.... It sounds like he's more like a typical girl and you''re more of a typical guy. It's funny because most of the time a typical guy and typical girl will get together and there's conflict. In your case, you two are both atypical for your respective genders and there's some minor issues. Doesn't sound like a big deal so keep on keeping on. Personally I'd be stoked if I was going out with a girl that was atypical that way. Did I not tell her "I love you" during a phone call? No big deal. Did I fall asleep cause we just finished having crazy sex. Cool, so did she. Man, things would be a lot easier that way. MD
PlentyLV007 Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 Personally I'd be stoked if I was going out with a girl that was atypical that way. Did I not tell her "I love you" during a phone call? No big deal. Did I fall asleep cause we just finished having crazy sex. Cool, so did she. Man, things would be a lot easier that way. MD Mad dog I posted up some things that I wanted you to check out when you get a chance... How funny...my sister and friends always tell me that my P&^%^ fell off when I was born...I say no it's just inside out!!! that's why most of my friends are guys , cause girls can't understand why I'm not girly but I look like a girl.
MadDog Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 Mad dog I posted up some things that I wanted you to check out when you get a chance... How funny...my sister and friends always tell me that my P&^%^ fell off when I was born...I say no it's just inside out!!! that's why most of my friends are guys , cause girls can't understand why I'm not girly but I look like a girl. I've always had a thing for tom boys that grow up to be hot girls. It's like getting all the things that are good in a girl (won't name the body parts) without having to deal with the annoying stuff that's typically female (PMS, drama, long phone conversations, cuddling, etc.) Which posts are you referring to PLV? Direct me to them and I'll take a look. MD
PlentyLV007 Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 I've always had a thing for tom boys that grow up to be hot girls. It's like getting all the things that are good in a girl (won't name the body parts) without having to deal with the annoying stuff that's typically female (PMS, drama, long phone conversations, cuddling, etc.) Which posts are you referring to PLV? Direct me to them and I'll take a look. MD Hey...well you already responded to one...but check this one out... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t85109/
big_girls_rock Posted March 29, 2006 Posted March 29, 2006 The only thing I could think of is that being a girl, sometimes it hurts too much. Often women imagine themselves being with that one guy for the rest of their lives and when it dosn't work out its shocking and hard to get over. Believe it or not she could just be with the new guy for the rebound. Meaning she needs someone to either help her get over her ex, a emotional f*** buddy, or just a shoulder to cry on. Its not nice but it happens all of the time. Some girls will never get over their exes- especially if they have given them everything.
riobikini Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 RE: NoClobber: "I am curious to know why women hesitate so much to get into a relationship after a break-up?" When I make the break, I usually make it stick; I'll have already gone through the worst of the emotions by the time I accept the finality of it. Then I give myself a 'breathing period', -just a little time to catch up the things -and people- I may have been neglecting while going through the break. So it's not about fear, -it's more about regrouping, reconnecting, smoothing out details, and making certain everything is back 'in order', the way it's supposed to be. When I'm sure of that, I normally take a little time for me: I give myself a sort of 'revamp' , i.e. hair makeup, clothing, -anything having to do with appearance, then I normally get involved with some new project or hobby or social thing that makes me feel 'up' because it puts me smack in the middle of interesting people and gives me a chance to expand a little in the social arena. Although, I never choose prospective dates from these social hobbies, I do eventually feel 'ready' for male companionship and dating. I never go anyplace 'looking' for dates, -they normally just 'happen'. I also do not approach anyone asking for a date, -I have always been ask out frequently enough, and have never had to, but I still don't know that I would -or wouldn't. Currently, I am going through the 'breathing' period and have been asked out numerous times by different people, one in particular is very persistent. So....maybe...in a little while. I want someone's arms around me....and more than that...I want someone who cares. (Smile) -Rio
Author noclobber Posted March 30, 2006 Author Posted March 30, 2006 Thanks Rio Currently, I am going through the 'breathing' period and have been asked out numerous times by different people, one in particular is very persistent. What exactly do you mean by persistent in asking out? Once a woman says "no" isn't that the final answer?? Why would that guy keep asking you out again and again?
MadDog Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 What exactly do you mean by persistent in asking out? Once a woman says "no" isn't that the final answer?? Why would that guy keep asking you out again and again? There are some really clueless people out there. He probably thinks that it's sweet or romantic that he continues to pursue here even though she's not interested when in reality it eventually ends up looking really creepy and desperate. MD
Walk Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 Right here on LS women have repeatedly said that they will be able to decide whether a guy is going to be their boyfriend or just a friend within 5 minutes of meeting him. And that decision was entirely based on attraction I think a woman can make a good guess on whether a guy was someone they would want to date after a few minutes of talking to him. But to say it's written in stone is pretty close minded of both people. There are times I will discount a guy and he'll never have a chance no matter what he does. But there are men I've said I didn't see myself dating, and later dated them and had some really strong feelings for them. IMO, if there's enough there to make the person desire to hang out with you on a friend basis, then there could be enough there to spark a more romantic desire. But I don't keep male friends around if there isn't something I enjoy about them. They won't all be LTR material... and sometimes I decide that after talking to them for a bit. If two seconds after meeting him he tells me he enjoys having several gf's at the same time, then I won't consider him as LTR material. Doesn't mean I don't like the guy, or enjoy spending time with him, but I won't date him if I know it's not going to go anywhere. Which could be how your girl saw it. She enjoys your company and who you are as a person, but because of her religion and family, she couldn't see a LTR with you working. Instead of realizing she had a great opportunity with you, she blew it because she's hung up on the differences between the two of you.
amerikajin Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 I mean I've been seeing this guy for about 3 weeks, we've gone out on 5-6 dates and he's already telling me he misses me, and always wants to be with me. Calls constantly, like 2-3 times a day...text me like 3-4 times a day...I mean....I like it but, I think it's over the top.... It's weird, isn't it? I don't think it's necessarily a woman thing either; I think guys get this way too. I think that in a situation like this, it's obvious that he is really interested in you, whereas maybe you're interested, but not THAT interested. So right away, there's an imbalance in the relationship. You have the walk-away power in the relationship. For reasons I can't quite understand, it is only natural for humans to start taking the other person for granted, and then if the imbalance continues, boredom ensues. And boredom is the kiss of death in a romance.
riobikini Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 RE: Walk: " If two seconds after meeting him he tells me he enjoys having several gf's at the same time, then I won't consider him as LTR material. Doesn't mean I don't like the guy, or enjoy spending time with him, but I won't date him if I know it's not going to go anywhere. " Upon learning it has no chance of going anywhere, I drop them, too. I simply refuse to play 'harem girl'. NoClobber: " What exactly do you mean by persistent in asking out? Once a woman says "no" isn't that the final answer?? Why would that guy keep asking you out again and again?" NoClobber, I guess I am about to say something that could become fodder for long debates and possibly argument, but the way I see it, -there's "No!" and then there's "No Way!" Maybe it's because of my southern femme upbringing, but the actual tone and the look in a person's eye when they say "No!" has more to do with it, than anything. It depends on the situation and who I'm with, of course, -but I often say 'No" when I definately mean "Yes!". (Smile) -Rio
catgirl1927 Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 Also, "I can't on Saturday" isn't the same as "I will never go out with you ever."
amerikajin Posted March 30, 2006 Posted March 30, 2006 In response to the original question, I think it's only natural for any person - guy or girl - to take it easy after a break up. You need time to work through the emotions of the loss. You need time to understand that once and for all, the relationship is over. You need time to figure out what went right and what went wrong so that you'll know how to handle your next relationship.
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