CrashIntoMe Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I broke up with my boyfriend, who I have been dateing for awhile. We'd been through alot and got through most of it, and for a long time I feel i was truly in love with him. For the past couple months or so, I haven't been feeling quite 'right' about this relationship. Sex was akward for me and I just didn't feel sexual towards him. I love him and care about him and don't want to see him unhappy. I have been interested in other people, but never cheated and decided to break up with him before it happened. But now I feel awful and he's been moping around and the last time I tried to break up with him he threatened suicide, especially if I dated other people. I;ve already lost one boyfriend to suicide and don't think I could live with it again. Also, I miss him so bad sometimes and keep thinking about all the stuff we used to do together and I know I'll never have it back. Part of me wants to run back to him.
Author CrashIntoMe Posted March 22, 2006 Author Posted March 22, 2006 Sorry, I had the questions in my mind and thought I'd already typed them. I'm not exactly all here right now. Like the title says, I'm not sure if I made the right desicion and would like some advice on what to do to deal with these feelings and prevent him from killing himself. I'm also wondering if I should get back with him since we're both miserable. Gosh, now I feel even stupider.
amaysngrace Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I broke up with my boyfriend, who I have been dateing for awhile. But now I feel awful and he's been moping around and the last time I tried to break up with him he threatened suicide, especially if I dated other people. okay...much better well, i think he knows how to get to you. he's trying to control you and your decision on being with him (or others) it's unfair of him, knowing your past history with your other BF. i think if you feel something's not right, it is that little voice inside yourself, better known as your internal instinct. listen to that vibe, please please. i think he is using suicide as a control tactic, and control in a relationship is a form of abuse. plus the route he chose was a very low blow, IMO. please don't fall for this. you sound smart and sensible, i think you should trust your own good judgment...
Lil Honey Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 okay...much better well, i think he knows how to get to you. he's trying to control you . . . i think if you feel something's not right, it is that little voice inside yourself, better known as your internal instinct. listen to that vibe, please please . . . i think he is using suicide as a control tactic and control . . . you should trust your own good judgment... Exactly right. He knows that your other boyfriend committed suicide, so he is using that to manipulate and scare you. You are NOT responsible for his actions, good or bad, logical or illogical. He is using the scare tactic to keep you from seeing others in the hope that you in go back to him. Since you said, " haven't been feeling quite 'right' about this relationship. Sex was akward for me and I just didn't feel sexual towards him," I think you have made the right decision to get out. If the relationship is lacking already, what would it be like five years from now? Are you going to invest that time in a relationship that isn't fulfilling and then call it quits? Go with you intuition. If he tells you how miserable he is, hand him a copy of the mental health section of the yellow pages, then change your phone number and email address.
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