Guest333333 Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. Since the break, I have initiated NC (or minimal contact). I am starting to think I made a wrong decision. (the decision to break up was a long, drawn out one) Is this just normal feelings?? At the moment, I can not seem to recall one negative thing about our relationship. Obviously, I do not want to contact him again until I am sure about my feelings. PS. I have never broken up with someone before.
thebrig Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 I've been considering breaking up with my boyfriend of 2.5years since December. Our relationship is seemingly fine. Like you said, there are no negative issues. This isn't as much as an answer for you as it is a question... what was going through your head to make you question your relationship? Did you feel much doubt or hesitation? Right now I'm sure this has to happen. Feeling this way for nearly 4 months isn't fair to either of us. I'm not in this relationship on an emotional level anymore. I love and care for him and our friendship means the world to me, but that spark isn't there. It isn't fair for him to give me his all when I'm clearly not reciprocating. However, I have so much doubt... I'm assuming its because I care for him so deeply. I wouldn't be surprised if I found myself in your position soon from now, but I do know right now this needs to happen to be fair to him and myself, or to figure out my feelings and really fully appreciate him for who he is, because that's not the case right now. I'm sorry to have hijacked this post. If I am in any position to give advice... take your time with your decision, three years is a long time and he was obviously a big part of your life. You don't want to have to hurt him again. I'm not sure when you broke up with him, but you're going to be hurting too, just make sure you don't misunderstand your feelings.
jerbear Posted March 23, 2006 Posted March 23, 2006 It is normal to feel remorse over breaking up, either as dumper or dumpee. Just think about it and since you dumped him, think of this; is there a reason why you would want to go back to him? If you do contact him, please note that you can break no contact easier than he can.
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