Alice88 Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 One year ago I felt in love with a guy from another country. We stayed together 6 months and it was the most happy period of my life. He had to leave,but we kept chatting everyday. We met twice since he left and it was wonderful. We should have met in March, but he didn't have time. One week ago he told me that he wants to break up and that he kissed another girl. We fighted, finally we said that we wait 1 week to talk again. I was thinking that he is sorry and he wants to be with me again. We talked again and he told me that he made sex with another girl. I didn't even kissed somebody in this period hoping that we'll be together again. He was my first and only boyfriend and i love him very much. He also says that he loves me, and the only problem is the big distance. I told him to try to be together again, but when we are far we are free to date others. He was very happy of my idea and he wants to come to see me. Have I done well to propose this? Should I forgive him? Should I consider that he cheated?
amaysngrace Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 of course he wants this relationship...it means sex whenever he's in town. no committment...just sex. i personally think he cheated, since you had no agreement at the time. if you can live with sharing your man, i think you made the right decision.
Sadly Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 So, whenever he is in your town, he will be your partner? But, whenever he goes back to his hometown, he is free to date and have sex with other girls??? Wouldnt that make you his girl on the side? Sweety, if he is having sex with someone else, best you let him go. Because, at the end you will end up hurting yourself more.
littlekitty Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 Yes he cheated on you. No you shouldn't stay with this man. By offering the deal you did, you've basically told him it's fine for him to sleep with anyone he wants, as long as he comes and sleeps with you too occassionally. Nice deal... for him!! If he can't be trusted to stay faithful, no matter how hard it is with the distance, then you need to move on. You'll only get heartache in the long run with this one I fear!
brightskies Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 Don't do it! Do NOT settle for less. Have more respect for yourself!!! Yes, it's tough because you think you love him and still want him back. Yes, it's going to suck because you'll be lonely in the meantime. But that will pass. Why would you want someone who would hurt you like that? Don't be a fool. Let him go. And don't let him sweet talk you into taking him back.
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