steenerz Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 hey everyone! it's been a while since i've been on these boards! anyway, in my past posts, my bf and i were a lil rocky, i was insecure, etc. etc....i have sought help (i was diagnosed with depression) and am feeling like a new girl! LOL! the bf and i took a vacation to disneyworld two weeks ago and i fell in love with him all over again...well i was in love with him before, but i think u guys know what i mean! we are long distance (in school), and we have been talking a lot on the phone....but for the past 2-3 days he hasn't been answering his phone a lot...still calling me back but we're def. not as talking as much as we used to. I've been egging him on why that was, and he said that he's been really stressed with school...yet when i ask him what he was going to do after he got off the phone with me, he was going to play some kind of cmputer game with his roommates cuz it relieves his stress. That bugs me cuz being his girlfriend, shouldn't I be the one to turn to relieve his stress? I know I prolly sound like a big baby, but it's driving me nuts and it kinda hurts my feelings that he doesn't want to talk as much on the phone...is it just me? plz give me ur opinions, anytthing!
Author steenerz Posted March 22, 2006 Author Posted March 22, 2006 anyone??? i just need some reassurance
CrashIntoMe Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I don't think you're being unreasonable but I don't think you have anything to worry about ^-^. I'm sure you do help relieve stress, but he needs to spend time with buddies, too.
Author steenerz Posted March 22, 2006 Author Posted March 22, 2006 i mean, do i take it personal, that i'm not the person he doesn't turn to to make him happy? i think so...
CrashIntoMe Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 I'm sure you make him happy, but there are some things talking with people of the same gender helps more with (same with mindless entertainment i.e. video games.
phyrespryte Posted March 26, 2006 Posted March 26, 2006 i mean, do i take it personal, that i'm not the person he doesn't turn to to make him happy? i think so... Stop taking it personal. I'm sure you make him happy. But come on now! 2-3 days and your stressing about not talking to him as often. That's a bit much. I think I'd worry if it was like a 4-5 days AND he wasn't calling you back. And there's nothing wrong with him hanging out with his friends. I'm sure you do the same. You both need time to do things that you like. If all you did was spend your day talking to each other on the phone it would be a little obssessive and unhealthy. So relax. Worry when you stop hearing from him all together.
Tim'sAngel Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 My man is kind of the same way. He needs time alone to deal w/his stress. I think its a natural thing for him though. I mean come on girl, you know the first thing you do when your stressed is call ur best girlfriend on the celly and vent... why should your bf be any different. I think that sometimes we as women tend to think that our men are supposed to need us for everything and we kinda forget that there just human like us. I wouldn't worry about it now. I agree w/the other chic about if he didn't call you for days, then I'd worry. Be understanding. Give him some space. He will love you for it!
daphne Posted March 28, 2006 Posted March 28, 2006 Steenerz, I agree with Tim's angel. It does sound like he's taking you a little for granted, but telling him that isn't going to help. Back off and give him his space and let him gravitate back to you. Trust me, he'll eventually notice the void you've left and he'll want to talk to you. Nagging him about things won't get you very far but pulling back does.
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