Guest Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 I have been with my b/f for almost 2 years. In the start he was sweet, cuddly, etc..about 3 months into it he let his true colors through and showed how he really is. I love him dearly, he says he loves me but he doesn't show me affection. Then when I bring it up after we fight about it then he will do it for a day or two or maybe a week then right back to where we started. He has broken up with me several times but only for like 1-3 days at a time. I recently broke up with him this time because I don't like being yelled at for stupid stuff and seems to do it every couple of days, then we fight, then he cools down and we are back to normal. The past few months our sex life has dropped to only once a week and most the time it's when he wants to do it ( he says I want it at times he isn't in the mood) so I just drop it. His idea of cuddling is sitting next to me to watch a movie (no touching) He has lied to me a few times about the internet and yahoo msg, so he gave me the password to be able to check when I want. I caught him talking about how horrible it was living with me ( we lived together for 8 months, then he kicked me out, I said I wouldn't move back till things were fixed and we were engaged) to one girl, we ended talking about it and that was that he said sorry. Another time this girl writed him and says something like "oh sure don't call me back" well she shouldn't know his # because it's a new one, so there for I know he has talked to her, I confronted him about this and he said " I haven't talked to her, I don't know what she is saying" Another time I was looking stuff up on the net and had seen he was looking for this one girls profile name that used to be on his friends list, he said he was sorry didn't know what he was doing and he wouldn't ever do it again, he didn't think it would hurt me he said he just didn't think. The last and most recent time was in this breakup, I had a feeling he was gonna download it on his computer, so I logged on and waited then a lil bit later he had changed his password and had logged on msg, well right before that we had just talked about working things out and for him to find why he gets so mad at me over lil stuff, on the phone he said I sware I didn't go on it, why would I lie to you we aren't even together well then I tested this and found out he did go on it, I said why did you lie, I know you lied and if I came over there I could tell it was on your computer even if you deleated it already, then he writes back ok the truth is I did go on it but it was to send you messages, which didn't make since because we talk all the time on this online game we play. I left it at that. I really don't think he is cheating almost 99% sure, so what is the deal?
Guest Posted March 22, 2006 Posted March 22, 2006 Anyone please, I need advice. Yes I broke up with him but only because I want him to treat me better. Now he says maybe being alone and sad will help him change, but he is not rushing anything and does not want to be rushed. I said ok then I want NC between us until you know, and for him to contact me when he is ready. But how long do I give it before moving on??
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