Demimar Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Hi everyone! Wow, I wished I new about this support board during my LDR. He broke it off three weeks ago and I am devastated!!!! We met online and started a LDR for 1.5 years, alternating visits once a month from NY to CA. We called each other about 4x daily. We started having trouble when he invited to move to CA. He got cold feet, but instead of just telling me he's scared etc., he just strung me along for months and we argued alot of over my wanting clarity or a timeline. During calls he'd said, "okay, we need to talk about a timeline...I miss you...we need to be together..." Then, we'd have a visit and no conversation. For months...very frustrating. Anway, after about 9 months of string along....I decided to stay in NY since I got a promotion. I put my foot down. If he wanted us to move forward, he'd have to move to NY. He agreed to visit to see if he wanted to move. Two days after he returned to his home, he said he didn't want to live in NY, that he can't afford the trips anymore & that he needs time to miss me...I guess it's over...who knows? I wasn't shocked but was very hurt...in the end, it only worked because I was willing to move...basically I had to do all the work but he never offered support either. I'm very angry and hurt. I would appreciate any feedback. I need to move on, but need encouragement. Thanks! Demi
tearful_soul22 Posted April 7, 2006 Posted April 7, 2006 Internet relationship can be fun and xciting..i know i have one before but that was a long long time ago and that one didn't work because your problem sounds mine. Everything goes great for a while until changes occur then they get cold feet. I think you should remain put and stand your ground. If he's not willing to accept to this changes then he's not the right one for you. I wish you the best of luck and i'm still hopeful that things will work out between you two..if not, then..it's time to pack up and move on with your life. Take care !
MadDog Posted April 8, 2006 Posted April 8, 2006 he said he didn't want to live in NY, that he can't afford the trips anymore & that he needs time to miss me That's when you should have realized he's full of it. If you're in a LDR, how can you need time to miss the other person? LDRs consist of missing the person >90% of the time & only being together & actually happy the rest. I think you need to move on.
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