I don't get it

[the_alchemyst]

Yeah, so we broke-up again, for the love of . . . Sigh.

 

We broke up last Thursday, and it was a pretty bitter break-up. Unlike the last time, when he was genuinely sad and kind--things I interpreted as a sign of resignation, thus also believing that last time was THE last time, this time was "ugly." When I went to his house, he was extremely avoidant. I did see some tears, but he tried to cover them. He seemed really frustruated and annoyed. I felt like he was just angry, but that we would be okay.

 

I was wrong. That night he seemed like he just wanted me to go home. Unlike last time, when he asked me to spend the evening with him because that could have been "the last time I was with him," this time he just wanted me to go. Just annoyed, really. He didn't want to look at me and tried to hide his tears.

 

I haven't heard from him since.

 

His friends have, though. I've learned that he spends most of his time with the very friends that I abhor. He's with them every second of his free time. He even drinks with them.

 

Why? I mean . . . is this what he really wants? Or is this behavior just his way of coping with the pain (because he would never talk to anyone about his feelings, except for me)? I don't understand because the minute I'm gone, he runs to them to "conquer the world" and to get wasted (when in our relationship, he did not drink because I asked him to please not to). So, thus, I'm not sure is this is because this is truly how he wants to live his life (and really doesn't care about me anymore) or is this is simply his way of coping--to engage in so much that there's not time for him to even think about me.

 

But I mean, he had this lifestyle during the last break-up. If he really wanted to live like this, why the F. did he come back in the first place?

 

Any thoughts? Oh, pretty, pretty please . . . .

[bwananuez]

I feel he had agreed to to your demands and he's figured out you would never eccept him the way he was first.