banister61 Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 ok--my boyfriend and i are talking alot about sex and our fantasies! so this is great. but he wants to try something--but he's not sure what. he says he likes to be surprised by the act of sex and that he wants to do something kinky--but he's not sure what--something a little deviant-- any ideas?
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 strip for him. take it up the butt. easy peasy.
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 it's not so bad. unless your guy is extremely well hung. personally i don't like it, but (no pun intended) some women loooooove it. But the stripping thing is so easy. No thought at all. Unless you can't dance.
Author banister61 Posted March 20, 2006 Author Posted March 20, 2006 well, i Can't dance. and he is extremely well hung.
blind_otter Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Have you read "The Joy of Sex"? That will help you out a lot.
Touche Posted March 20, 2006 Posted March 20, 2006 Try a different location and a different position. Dress up in something sexy that he's never seen you in before. Make a night of it. Get oils or a dirty movie. Buy toys like dildos and such or a strap on. Use your imagination on how to use those. How about some light S & M fun?
Delectable Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 well, i Can't dance. and he is extremely well hung. Well what DO you want to try... work with us
Walk Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Ways to kink it up: Lingeria with crotchless panties, or exposed breastsA strip teaseBondageBuy some erotic lit (or download off web) and read it to him while cuddling on the couch.Take control in the bedroom. (Many men find this incredibly erotic) Tell him what to do, and how to do it. Tell him what position to move to, and change it up, etc.Meet him at the door wearing lingeria and surprise him.Talk dirty to him. And tell him how much you love it.Masturbate for him with the lights on and tell him to watch. Hard to give ideas when I'm not sure what you've tried/haven't tried. Or even feel comfortable doing.... I can't stress enough the power of verbal communication while having sex. And leading up to sex. If done right, you can influence your partner without ever having to move a muscle. You can live fantasies that may be somewhat impractical physically, or that you may not be comfortable with and don't want to actually partake in. Arousal is 90% in our minds, so using words can sometimes create more arousal then action could have.
amaysngrace Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 I can't stress enough the power of verbal communication while having sex. And leading up to sex. If done right, you can influence your partner without ever having to move a muscle. You can live fantasies that may be somewhat impractical physically, or that you may not be comfortable with and don't want to actually partake in. Arousal is 90% in our minds, so using words can sometimes create more arousal then action could have. i totally agree with the verbal approach. men love when you talk dirty to them. you can try this and start early in the day with phone sex on your lunch break. get him worked up. you could wear a wig. i heard that can be a turn-on. personally i love whipped cream. but you need to be creative. do what you're comfortable with and have fun!
RecordProducer Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Tell him that you had sex with this hot girl when you were in high school. Describe the sex in details. Make it sound like you're not joking at all. Later tell him that you made it up just to get him going.. Chances are, he already has an idea, but will present it to you like "Hey, I though of something!" (Yeah, right! )
luvtoto Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Whenever my BF and I watch TV late at night...we sometimes end up watching a soft-porno channel. Usually, his idea...all while play-fighting for the remote...teasing each other with a little sex talk...seeing how long he can watch before tackling me...making out on the couch & then moving it to the bedroom! Makes for a fun time! Lots of goood verbs going!
Art_Critic Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 strip for him. take it up the butt. easy peasy. I'm in Love .. You're my type of girl.. To the OP.. try public sex.. maybe sex in the car.. or give him head while driving in the daylight with other cars watching..
RetroMan Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 well, i Can't dance. ...but can you talk? Or maybe the only thing about you is the way you walk...? (sorry, couldn't resist...I'll be thrilled if anyone understands that post).
catgirl1927 Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Carmen Electra has some really cool striptease videos to teach you how to do it. It's aerobic striptease. They are really fun to do with your friends after a couple of glasses of wine... You will be rolling on the floor laughing.
amaysngrace Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 ...but can you talk? Or maybe the only thing about you is the way you walk...? (sorry, couldn't resist...I'll be thrilled if anyone understands that post). hot sun, shining down, burn my feet just walking around back at cha!
RetroMan Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 hot sun, shining down, burn my feet just walking around back at cha! ...but don't forget to check that everything is in place...you never know who's looking on!!
MadDog Posted March 21, 2006 Posted March 21, 2006 Catholic schoolgirl outfit. Probably works for 100% of straight guys. MD
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